Do you mind if your woman is a provider more reliable than you?
By pengyachu
@pengyachu (296)
China
May 21, 2010 10:03pm CST
In such diversifying society,ladies now can earn much more money than the gentlemen do.And it is especially not a unusual case between either lovers or couples.As to this,some complaints were formed from a few of female netizens.They,who is with independent economic excellent and is a reliable provider,really hope that their men can shoulder the vast majority of housework,since these income-maker have been fed up in the workplaces.However,the gentlemen don't think so.They accused such requests from their women are nothing but tough tasks and hush crack down on their self-esteem.Hence,they created an ever-widing gap beween each other,and led to the disharmony.Dear friends,if things like that happened on you,what is your first consideration?
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10 responses
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
22 May 10
Hi pengyachu: I think that if I'd marry someone it's because I love this person and not for the money. So basically I'd think that these discussions don't make any sense to me. It's very important to make love last that both parts of the relationship work for it and support each other. I won't care if my wife is a better provider. If she has a better job that means she's a good professional, why should we expect that I have to be better than my wife? That's sexist. I'll do my best for my relationship and if my wife earn more money than me, good for her :) Thanks for asking us this question
ALVARO
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@pengyachu (296)
• China
28 Jul 10
Hi,my friend,thank you for your response.
I believe that you are a good man,a good husband.And also I believe that anyone who becomes your wife will very happy live together with you.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
22 May 10
my was used to be when i used to get laid off, and was for the longest time after i got hurt, it didnt bother me at all.
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@pengyachu (296)
• China
28 Jul 10
Hi syankee525,thank you fot your response.
I believe that after that experience,you will become more strong than before,you will grow up.
I believe you will find your own love and happiness in the near future.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
22 May 10
Yes i would e mind if she is more reliable than me. I want me and her to e on the same level. but you know a lot of relationships does not work out because both mates are on the same level. Because there is never a time when they need help from their partner. They do everything on their own and this always allow them to part. I always want a relationship where me and my partner or on the same level but hearing this fact let me change my mind to i want to e a it higher than her so she need my help sometimes in life. But i would not want her to be more reliable than me. NO DISRESPECT THOUGH LADIES!!! :-D
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
22 May 10
Hi clee wlkr: I'd do housework if I have no job and so I'd be in my house all the time but if it's not I think that it should be 50%-50%, I mean both parts should give their best for the sake of their relationship. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO.
@pengyachu (296)
• China
28 Jul 10
To my point of view,there may be two different conditions.
1.That will be a problem if the earning from a woman is more than her husband.As we all know,most men have high self-esteem,and in our traditional sense,amn should be the bread-eatner of a family.So if things like that happened,man will take a beating and feel uncomfortable.Then conflict may arise and the family is no longer harmonious.
2.The man is very ambitious.They can not stand their wives earn more than they themselves,so this will become a motive of them to struggle hard.Under this condition,their life will be better and better,as there is always a spirit of surpassing to drive them.
So we can't say it's good or bad,it all depends on our state of mind.
@stephenthomas (31)
• United States
22 May 10
I am a 41 year old male. Throughout my life I have been in both situations. Sometimes my wife/mate made more than me and sometimes I made more than her. We are both perfectly fine either way. The only thing that is important is that we are both contributing to the relationship/family. Sometimes one of the best ways to contribute is to be an at home dad/mom. The importance here is to treat it just like you would a job. The person without a typical "job" should be shouldering most of the housework (cleaning, laundry, etc.). It doesn't matter if that person is male or female. The thing I could not tolerate would be to have a mate that stayed at home the majority of the day but didn't lift a hand to help keep the household up. Male or female, that would just be taking advantage of the other person.
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@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
22 May 10
I actually don mind. I guess every sucessful man there is a women and every successful women there is a man also. If they females are good that congrats. The male can still contribute in others stuffs like family takecare and such, sharing and helping out in other tasks.Yes man are sometime self ego is high. I guess those man have to change and take pride in tasks they perform like house chores while the female takes pride in being the better fianacial provider. I guess also sometime women have to understand man being the egolistal being and try talking to them in other ways so they can work better.Beside being demanding , the women can request help from man , if those man continue being silly and egolistic , then i gues time for the women to move away to other man that value their women better.
@Lxandra79 (1535)
• United States
22 May 10
First off my man and I dont have a job because the economy is soo bad right now.
But if I get a job first than my bf, he will be happy for me.
But the thought about me staying home is great!
I can be online all day long!..hehe.
But I also would like to have my own money, than asking him for money all the time.
@my_name_is_coco (4334)
• Philippines
22 May 10
while I believe in women empowerment,I still prefer my would-be husband to be a good provider.whether men admit it or not,one of the things that contribute to their machismo is their ability to be a good provider.while I believe women should earn their own money,men are concerned about if they can provide well for their own family.when a man questions his financial capability and sees his woman earning more than him,this breaks his self-esteem,which may lead to fight,arguments,and misunderstandings.I would rather earn for myself and let my would-be husband earn and provide for the children.
@meimeibaobei (292)
• China
22 May 10
this is a good topic.at first,i am a girl.however,i could respond to you.if i were a man and i love the hosework,and i will prefer this situation.i think it is not important for taht who will be the main economic-maker in the family.if you and your lover live a happy life,and then everything is nothing.
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
17 Jun 10
Hey Everyone~
My husband and I both work. My husband owns a Remodeling Company and I have a Pre-School in my home. When my husband's company is not doing so good, my husband feels like less of a man and it bothers him. So, yes we do fight more and it's not a good setting for any of us...
I like being able to help with the bills (Plus, I love what I do) but I'm happy when my husband can do most of the providing. We are all much happier that way!!
