Help please!!! Can anyone tell me how to put a chat room on my website..

if you search, there will be at least a dozen or more, free software, which promise you the quality and odd, of YAHOO MESSENGER, or more. but, from MY experience, .. adding the java based, or other CHAT to your website, KILLS YOUR website. I am not able to delete the chat part of the site.. it just spoiled all the fun, because, people are more inclined to PULL YOU UP into the chat room, rather than, read what you are telling in the pages... around. now, I would suggest ... integrate URGENT CONTACT ... which will give you a guest-book like page.. and, it will be equal to chat, if you are online. ============just trying to tell you my experience only. ----------