No Shame

Philippines
May 26, 2010 8:54pm CST
I have made a discussion a week ago about my failed relationship and how my ex found someone else. One thing I have failed to mention is that the girl that my ex chose over me already has a husband and kids. Apparently the girl has no shame because I emailed her husband and she denied the whole thing. Now I am the one being accused of harassing them. It makes me look with disgust at the girl because apparently she has no shame. She is okay breaking my relationship, while keeping her family intact and my ex by her side. This makes me believe more that there is no God and that life is cruel and unfair.
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14 responses
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 May 10
If you e-mailed the husband once and told him the truth, I don't call that harassment. On the other hand, if you are doing it over and over again, calling, stopping by their place, etc., constantly, then yeah, it's harassment. Which doesn't make what she's doing all right, of course...
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 May 10
Thanks for the best response!
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
5 Jun 10
What does God have to do with it? Evil people do evil deeds. You should not think that evil will not be punished after this short life. But you are correct that life isn't fair. That goes without saying. Best to you in this hard time.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
28 May 10
i really cannot understand how such people break others relationship when the truth is they still have their own to attend to with. but of course, no one will accept it in front of her husband and not even at your own face. but don't blame god or think that there is no god. life could be cruel and unfair sometimes, but your day will come, i am sure.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
28 May 10
It is quite normal for things like this to happen in life. Many people go through different relationships after finding the correct person. This is not the over of life. You have a lot more to go in life. So, take a break from work, go for a trip, and relax yourself. Think that you have long life to go. Forget about your ex.bf and leave the girl and the guy. He is now out of your life.
• El Salvador
27 May 10
Hi, I´m really sorry for you, but you should see the good thing in all this, and that could be that that man doesn´t deserve you. You must be sure someday that girl will pay for what she does. About God and the cruelty the life, well, I´m not a religious person, but the only thing that I can tell you, is that we always need something to believe, that gives us strength in moments like this; no necessarily has to be a "god", don´t get sad and trust that you will find someone better than him, and all this will become in a little bad moment. ;) Kisses.
@dentabz (142)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
Well if that was the case I think it's not your lost but his. Try to move on. The right person for you will come.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
27 May 10
you should send this woman a huge thank you letter because if it wasn't her it would be some one else. so thank her and your lucky stars that you are rid of him, There are a lot of wonderful men, Men who are not into playing around with other women, married or not.So shift your focus, away from your pity party and be grateful he never brought home of of the terrible diseases that are out there.
@Barry331 (65)
27 May 10
the concept of a 'God' is simply magical thinking and a way for the ruling elite to control and distract the working class. There have been any number of 'Gods' created by people down through the ages,events are simply random. You dont need an all powerful super being with the power to hurl lightning or carrying a trident to look after you-this is a Myth. Take control of your OWN Life and your OWN destiny. Forget about your Ex,there is someone better out there waiting to meet you,right now.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
27 May 10
Hello dear... Well, I'm very much sorry for what has happened to you... You do have every single right to feel devastated...but this is not the end of life! you should just leave it & try to look forward dear..what comes around goes around! he would experience devastation too & only then he would regret but it would be too late for him to apologize to you! Besides, you should not e-mail the husband because for sure she would deny the whole thing as she wants to be the queen in front of her husband! unless if you catch them together & send the evidence to her husband.. but make sure to not include your identity... In between, there is God dear & HE is there helping you to know what kind of a guy you are falling for! you should thank God for revealing the truth as it is not too late for you to move on... We all pass through such terrible situations..you are not alone... Cheers :p
@calixto21 (103)
• Argentina
27 May 10
whos the one breaking the relathionship. .. ur ex or that girl? as i can c, that girl is just a w*ore that is just cheating on his husband, but the one who likes women with husband and kids is ur ex, so. .. move on, get rid of him and restart, some times is better to be alone than in the wrong company. There are a lot of fishes on the sea, and yes it will hurt at the begining but u've to be strong and dont let f*ck with ur life. Life is not cruel, people are and is hard to find a good one.
• Philippines
27 May 10
Hello anne25, WHAT THE HELL? never reveal your name in the email when exposing an affair, that's one. and two, why do you have to do this, it was his decision in the first place, let him face his torment, this guy or ex of yours is out of his mind for sure. the girl is a two timer and will indefinitely, screw the ex if she got tired of him. Don't get involve anymore unless you still have feelings for him. find a way to let him go, he made a terrible mistake, let him regret that mistake. btw THERE IS A GOD. and he understands your frustration but certainly that's not the reason to shove him off. Life has always been cruel and unfair, it's how we get up and move on to be stronger person...
• Philippines
27 May 10
Maybe you're looking at the wrong side. If i'm not wrong then i'd say you're lucky cuz you already know that your partner isn't worth your while. You're already out of the hell hole while she's still in one. You couldn't be more right, life is unfair but it's unfair for her. I don't know if you've realized but you're free! :)
@xeroeight (1060)
• Philippines
27 May 10
what Don't say that there's no GOD, Its only one of the trials that you should over come what do you think why god give this site to you, it is to express that sad feelings you carrying, first of all I know you love the guy but still don't let your self get broken just because of that I know I don't have the right to said this but, its not right, try to think of it if that the case do you think its worth giving your attention to those kind of people, all I can say is NO and if they still accused you that you are the one harassing them, then let them go, let them do what all they want, let Karma do the rest for them. you know the right thing to do and I know its hard but try to consider your self they are not worthy to waste your life. remember this may only a way to find the right person for you if they did such thing well they are NOT worth for your love and attention let him realize that letting you go is the worst thing he did in his life. become successful get a good life try to prove that he made a mistake on living you behind. try to move on and be happy with you life. just remember don't let your self eat by your anger and revenge.
• Saudi Arabia
27 May 10
HI dear .. im so sorry 4 wat happend .. but there is only one thing 2 do in this case ,, Forget about the whole thing ,,, and live ur life ... tho its shoke ,, but thats life .and life is pain all we have 2 do is to forget.... Greetings Coraline ..