Help with moving on

United States
May 27, 2010 1:03pm CST
Ok first here is some back story. We had been dating for about 5 months, I cared about her a lot. She was the first girl in a long time that I actually let my guard down with. I bought floor tickets to a concert that she was really looking forward to going to. Those tickets cost me over $300 to get. One of her friends was going with us and she had an extra ticket, we tried to find someone to go and eventually one of her male coworkers came. I found out in the parking lot before the show that a time before when she had mysteriously disappeared while we were at the casino and didnt respond to my texts and calls, that she had gone with this guy. Then as we were going in they were flirting with each other, and he was slapping her butt and she was hugging him. Then as soon as the concert started she kissed him right in front of me, with her knowing that I saw this. I freaked out and pushed them, then walked away. I came back and confronted her, but the guy pushed me and i pushed him back and security dragged me out. They got to see the rest of the concert. I called her many nasty things via text messages, I even did some damage to her car. My question is how do I get over someone that when I see that i get so angry that i am blinded by rage. I wasnt a jealous man until i met a girl that was worth getting jealous over. I truly loved her, and she treated me like dirt. I need some help on what to do here. I am trying to just maintain a busy schedule, but its tough to sleep. What should I do?
6 responses
• Philippines
27 May 10
She's only worth getting jealous over cuz you think She's worth getting jealous over. I don't know if it has occured to you but this girl is a whor3. Are you really getting jealous over a whor3? Is it really worth it getting jealous over a person that treats you like dirt? I don't think so.
• Philippines
27 May 10
You're taking pain from this cuz she treated you badly but in a sense it's a good thing cuz you now know who she is.
• United States
27 May 10
yeah thats the general consensus ive been getting from my family and friends. Thanks, im just gonna take it day by day and the pain will go away
• United States
27 May 10
good point, i didnt know she was one until this happened, but really why am i taking so much pain for someone that would do this to me.
@la_chique (1498)
27 May 10
thats a really bad thing to have happened to you, and it will be a hard thing to get over. There is no simple cure. You're going to have to go through the emotional stages I'm afraid. Some day soon, you'll meet another girl, and although you've been hurt before, you have to remember that what happened to you with your ex will not happen in every relationship that you have. the anger will subside, please try to remember that you were the good guy and you didnt deserve what she did.
• United States
27 May 10
its gonna be really hard for me to trust any girl ever again, its gonna be tough, but i have to remember that not every girl is gonna do this to me
• Philippines
28 May 10
Hm.. tsk.. Don't worry... someday... you'll find someone better and you'll noticed it that you'll forget about this.. cheers man.. :D
• India
28 May 10
I can only say there is no point in loving a person who has no respect for your love. Why waste time after this girl. Life is too precious to wasted on people who don't care about you. Just think that it cost you only $300 to find out the truth. Book your loss and move on.
• South Korea
27 May 10
maybe you expect to much...remember not because your special somone is going out with means that they also like u,,,they are some girls who just wanna have some boy friends...or maybe they just wanna flirt....... But if your really inlove with her.... the only thing to do is to WWWAAAAKKKEEE UUUPPP!!!!!!!!. SHE just kiss someone in front of u... Im sure you deserve somone better...... and theres a lot out there...waiting for someone whos sincere and true:) so cheer up and goodluck
• United States
27 May 10
yeah everyone keeps telling me that there are lots of fish in the sea. I just need to keep my head up i guess.
@Distrx (120)
• Australia
28 May 10
I am terribly sorry to hear that this happened to you Amko. Love can be a terrible thing sometimes. It can be beautiful and wonderful or at times it can be depressing and sad! You should know this though; you WILL find someone better then her. One day you will find a girl that you love more then anything and she will return this love to you. It will be the greatest feeling in the world. Try look on this positive side of this, you deserve better then her and it's good that the relationship ended now rather then in the future as this will give you time to find someone that loves you exactly the same in return for who you are. I know it is really hard, painful, and depressing to be betrayed like this but things WILL get better. You just need to keep thinking positive and before you know it, you will be in a loving and caring relationship if you really work at it! Best of luck in finding that special someone who is perfect for you!