Sharing 50/50
By danoluma
@danoluma (817)
Kenya
May 28, 2010 8:59am CST
Hi mylotters do you think in relationships, we should share 50/50, I mean paying the bills and doing household chores? Or should the bills be paid by the man and chores left for the lady?
5 responses
@cheatedaphrodite (810)
• Philippines
28 May 10
If both are working, it would be fair enough to share the bills for both but for household chores, I doubt if a man would do his part. Even if he says yes he would just say it but he seldom or never do his part not unless the woman is already mad. There are cases where in partners separated because of the man being so irresponsible in sharing the household chores. And there are also cases where in the man is the only one working while his partner is left at the house all day dealing with all the house works, from raising the kids, to cleaning the house and doing the laundry and everything. She works without being paid, no day offs, no benefits and especially no ME time for herself.
It would be better if a man also learns how to do some of the household chores. It is one way of showing how responsible he is to her partner. Being responsible as a man does not only mean having a job outside their home, it should also include his responsibility inside the house since he is the head of the family.
@cheatedaphrodite (810)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Yes he should, what's the use of their big muscles if they won't use it. If in case I would choose a man to settle with, I will tell him that he should learn how to do the household chores. I will tell him that he needs to share with doing all these things and I will make sure he does it perfectly.
@med889 (5940)
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30 May 10
Oh my God he does nothing in households and this is what irritates me the most when he does make things in the house ups and downs but does nothing to make it better, and about cooking then I prefer he does not cook though he knows it very well, he makes the whole kitchen a mess, a real one.
@maean_19 (4656)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Gone are the days that men have to be the provider while women have to stay home and do the household chores. Hence, it is no longer an issue that guys basically must pay the bills during dates. In relationships especially at home, the man and the woman must share with the obligations and finances. The sharing though depends of who can provide more. For example, if the man has less salary than the woman, then they have to compromise with the finances and bills. Likewise, men nowadays can do the chores.
@maean_19 (4656)
• Philippines
30 May 10
Yes, tradition can be thrown away in a modern day. We are more practical now. Women can be equally situated with men now. Many women are working to provide their children's needs. Many men are likewise jobless and do the chores while their wives goes to work.
Have a great day too!
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
13 May 12
I feel it should be 50/50. I know that when Randy and I were engaged we had a joint savings account (for the wedding and for a down payment for the house). each month I took 25.00 out of my paycheck and Randy took 25.00 out of his paycheck and put in savings. His mom also added change into our account every other week. we also saved our coins for the same reason. Now that we are married we split the bills and the household chores which is great.
Sweetie, as most people have their own arrangements on how to work with the bills and what not, my opinion is 50/50. It is more than fair. One cannot pay all the bills. It must be shared. TATA.