Why do I feel so overwhelmed with my child starting school?

United States
May 29, 2010 12:27am CST
Hey everyone, My daughter Sierra will be starting school in September, and while she is excited, I cannot help but feel overwhelmed. I have tried to pinpoint where this may be coming from, but so far I have not been able to. I wonder about all sorts of things. Will she be able to catch on? Will her teacher like her? Will she make friends? I understand that this is normal and to be expected, but I cannot help but wonder am I being to anxious. Me and my fiance talked about and he feels we have done a great job preparing her to start school. She knows her numbers, how to spell and write her name etc... Is this normal to feel this way?
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@charylady (424)
• Philippines
30 May 10
this is a milestone for you and your daughter, congratulations! yes, it is normal to feel anxious. this is a change, a venture into something new. your daughter will be fine. what's important now is for you to show her how proud you are that she is going to start school and how much fun she will have. don't show her your anxiety; boost her confidence cos i' sure she too is feeling a little apprehensive. good luck.
• United States
30 May 10
Thank you charlady. You make a good point. I will keep that in mind.
@manojt2 (179)
• India
30 May 10
Hi, that's a very natural phenomena and I too have undergone this situation. My son when joined his day school, I was very much worried whether he would be able to cope up with other students or not? Since he was somewhat of a shy nature and used to talk in a low voice me and my wife were very much concerned. Also it was the first instance in our life to keep him away for over 4 hours. That was very frightening for us as well as our son. And I still remember the first day, when we waved him bye-bye till he disappeared in his classroom, with tears rolling down on our cheeks, and that was such an experience of happiness and sorrow coming together, and really I felt as if my heart is under a lot of weight. But this phase has gone too and my son is now 12 years old and now he has his friends in school and for them he always has a reason to come late at home. Don't worry, what you feel is natural and every parent who has a concern for his ward will undergo this situation.
• United States
30 May 10
I understand exactly what you mean manojt2. Sierra can be very shy when she is around children that she doesn't know. It can take her some time to open up. She is my only daughter and she has led somewhat of a sheltered life. I bought her home weighing only 4 pounds and when I look at her now she is healthy and happy. I also know that they will not hold her hand for every little thing like I do. My heart does feel heavy but as my mom always says "This too shall pass."
@much2say (36022)
• United States
30 May 10
My daughter will be starting in kindergarten in September. We visited the school and the K classrooms and teachers . . . the paperwork is all set to go. We didn't put her in preschool (or daycare), but we had her in plenty of other classes that I can see how her "school" personality may be. There are certain things that I know she will probably catch on well to, and there are other things that I know will need some work. I am anxious about it a bit too (I'm sure it's normal), but I think it's a good "next step" for her. I will be sure to keep in good communication with the teacher whenever I can and be involved as much as I can. If your fiance thinks you've done a great job in preparing her for school, then he's probably right! We will always be our kids' first teachers . . . so now it's time to for the next set of teachers to teach them . . . and chances are they'll do just fine!
• United States
30 May 10
Congratulations! It feels good to know that other mom's feel the same way I do. I am glad she is excited to go into the next phase in her life. Good Luck to you and Yours!
@evepin (723)
• Philippines
29 May 10
Hi there! I had the same experience when my 2yo daughter attended playschool and summer classes the past couple of months. I was a bit insecure at first because of the same concerns that you have mentioned. However, the teachers' very good feedbacks made me very proud of my daughter. I guess it really is normal to feel these things, but I also tell myself that I have nothing to worry about because I know that my daughter is a brilliant kid and I have taught her how to be a good person even at her young age.
• United States
29 May 10
Thanks Evepin. That's what hubby tells me to. Thanks for the advice.
@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
29 May 10
Congrats to your daughter. Of course you'll be overwhelmed about this because you'll realized that your daughter is going up. She is about to start school and meet other people other than those people in your home.
• United States
29 May 10
Thank You jamed. Yes my little girl is growing up. :)
@nanayangel (7862)
• Philippines
29 May 10
Hi there Juicy Mentality! I think that's pretty normal for parents, to feel overwhelmed because I also felt that in every milestone that my son makes. I think that we feel overwhelmed when we notice how time goes by so fast. I know Sierra will be fine. Don't worry. Turned out in my case that I was wrong to have worried too much too.
• United States
29 May 10
Thanks nanayangel. I'm going to try and go for some walks when my mind starts to ramble hopefully this will help.