My girlfriend wants me to become a christian!?

@chrisjfj (232)
United States
November 16, 2006 1:59pm CST
My girlfriend is a christian, she prays and goes to church. I am a good person, never harmed anyone, live my life after the laws which I believe in. But I still want the choice to do what I want. So the religion forces me to go to church do whatever is written in the bible, otherwise I will not go to heaven! This means good people which are not sure what they believe in are not welcome in heaven!? My whole family doesnt go to church, so nobody of my friends or family, except my girlfriend will be with me in heaven? What do you think? any advice?
27 responses
@LadyCroft (701)
• Australia
17 Nov 06
Gee one convo I dont enter into EVER... Religion and Politics.... I am an Agnostic and a choose to be no matter who is around me.
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@reeseyj (906)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I am a christian and I really dislike it when other christians try to change people. I do not know what religion your girlfriend is in but it sounds kinda harsh. Christian just means you believe in God. You do not have to go to church it's just encouraged because it can make you feel better and just because you don't follow everything the Bible says does not mean your not going to heaven. I'm sure your girlfriends not doing everything shes suppose to. Christians are not suppose to judge but she probably wants you to change because if you don't you can't stay together but you do it for you not her when your ready.
@reeseyj (906)
• United States
7 Dec 06
No one said anything about not teaching. You can talk to people about God all you want but doing it when they don't want to hear it just pushes them away.
• United States
17 Nov 06
What does something being in the bible have to do with anything? Just cuz something's in the bible doesn't make it true or even right. --- --- --- "I certainly think Britney Spears is the devil. The way she projects herself and the fact that she is so obviously vacuous. I think it's such a shame that she became so influential to very small children." -- MORRISSEY --- --- ---
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@chrisjfj (232)
• United States
17 Nov 06
this is what you beliebve or is it written in the bible?
• United States
16 Nov 06
God put your girlfriend into your life for you to hear the word. You have a free spirit to make your own choices. The bible says you only get to heaven though salvation, not by laws or being a good person. But, you must find that out on your own. Please, just pray to God to give you the answers. He is alive and faithful. He will open your eyes to the truth. Bless you and your family
• United States
17 Nov 06
I never saw that in the bible. Our God is a loving God. He gives us a choice. However, it does say that He will come in a blink of an eye, and take those who know him and are saved, to heaven. Really,if you want the truth, do not let religion mix you up. Faith is different. It is a trust and relationship between you and God, not man made rules how to worship him, as in religion. Pray, God will supply all your answers. Blessings, Margieanne
@chrisjfj (232)
• United States
16 Nov 06
ok. one question! i think she told me that in the bible is written that jesus will come back to earth and kill everyone who says they are christian to bring them to heaven. everyone who denys lives on and goes to hell or at least not to heaven!? is it true?
@faisalr (43)
• India
16 Nov 06
first of all u r taking religion as something secondary to everything u do.....give prime importance to religion and then u will find ur answer
@chrisjfj (232)
• United States
16 Nov 06
sounds like giving up my own life and free will..?
@isasice (2015)
• Iceland
16 Nov 06
You shouldn't let anyone take that away from you.
• India
17 Nov 06
Hey self control is the best control... You don't need a Bible or any other religious book guiding you! if you are self righteous, these books can as well be dumped into trash cans ( I don't mean to offend anybody! ) The world would be a better place to live in with many more like you! Good luck...
@chrisjfj (232)
• United States
19 Nov 06
thanks... Maybe the world would be better or not. I think christians are great people, I just can't believe in something I never saw!
@PapaJim (50)
• United States
18 Nov 06
May I suggest you give it a try and go see for yourself? I mean, what's a Sunday or two if it would please your lady? In addition, it would give you an opportunity to judge for yourself whether this Christianity thing is for you or not. Please understand, the Christian really has only two commandments: Matthew 22:37-40 Jesus said to him,"You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind." "This is the first and great commandment." "And the second is like it: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'" "On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." For a basically "good" person as yourself, don't these seem pretty admirable goals? Granted, none of us can attain a perfect score in that pursuit but that's where forgiveness comes in. Check it out
• United States
20 Nov 06
Forgive me for getting off-topic but I wanted to address your observation regarding your neighbors. I know it's a hard goal to attain but, keep in mind, you CAN hate the "sin" without hating the "sinner".Also, "neighbor" is figurative in that verse...it is actually more encompassing than one would think. It actually refers to ALL people...even those outside your circle. In my experience, the people who need love and affirmation most are those who "deserve" it least. Come to think about, how thankful I am that my God doesn't give me what I deserve! Wouldn't it be great that, through your showing love for them as human beings and fellow travelers on this journey, you had such a positive influence on their lives that change for the better occurred? Lofty dream...but it happens every day.
• United States
16 Nov 06
Being a good person is good but, you need salvation and you can only get that by excepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. Because, we have all sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God. God Bless
• United States
16 Nov 06
That's YOUR own personal opinion and belief. I really don't think you should push that on others. Oh, and btw, I believe you meant "accepting". Excepting means to exclude or leave out. --- --- --- "I certainly think Britney Spears is the devil. The way she projects herself and the fact that she is so obviously vacuous. I think it's such a shame that she became so influential to very small children." -- MORRISSEY --- --- ---
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
17 Nov 06
ITS UP TO U!
• United States
16 Nov 06
Sounds like you've got it all figured out already! If going to church and following the bible is not something you feel like exploring and it's unlikely your girlfriend will be changing her views - I see a relationship doomed to failure. It wouldn't be the first.
@chrisjfj (232)
• United States
16 Nov 06
ok... i mean she accepts that i won't go but still trys to get me to read the bible...
• Pakistan
17 Nov 06
hmm u know never abt this....how can u say that u can go to heaven....just ALLAh knows who will go to heaven.....we don't have the riht to predict that who will go to heaven and who will go to hell !!
@chrisjfj (232)
• United States
17 Nov 06
tell me more about allah! what are the most important things?
@zzz71121 (73)
• United States
17 Nov 06
A person who really loves you for who you are will never require you to become anybody but to stay yourself. If she trys to force you, she doesn't really love you for who you are....
@ruby1459 (2600)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I had a same thing before with my ex. My ex came from this strong Catholic family.When He introduced me to his father,I didn't see any bad feeling about it but my ex told me later that his father wasn't happy at all because I wouldn't become a catholic.Poeple who I know says I am a good person but his father said good person believes Catholic and if you don't want to belive it then I will go to hell and won't have a happy life after all.... I've kept receiving bible and his whole family looked at me as a strange woman and they all told him not to be with me because I wouldn't be a catholic. He knew I was a good person but he didn't stand up for me and prove his family about how nice I could be without believing their religion. I know a lot of people who believes religion and I am not against it at all.I just don't like to get pushed and said I will go to hell if I don't join them. I hope your girlfriend will realize how nice you are without being a catholic and you are more than good enough without becoming a catholic.Good luck and I hope all will goes the best with you and your girlfriend! I am sorry,I am not a native English speaker so my English isn't that great! By the way,I broke up with him later on.
@chrisjfj (232)
• United States
16 Nov 06
she is not catholic... she is a christian! dont worry your english is great
@Keruma (36)
• Sri Lanka
17 Nov 06
A friend of mine has the same problem. He is looking for an answer too. We will see what others has to say. (My girlfriend is a christian, she prays and goes to church. I am a good person, never harmed anyone, live my life after the laws which I believe in. But I still want the choice to do what I want. So the religion forces me to go to church do whatever is written in the bible, otherwise I will not go to heaven! This means good people which are not sure what they believe in are not welcome in heaven!? My whole family doesnt go to church, so nobody of my friends or family, except my girlfriend will be with me in heaven? What do you think? any advice?)
@chrisjfj (232)
• United States
17 Nov 06
yeah...thanks for repeating my question. dont have an own opinion?
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• Canada
24 Jan 07
Sure, if you are a good person as you say you are then religion would not be a bad idea to start to get to know. It may even help you understnad your wife better as she does have moral beliefs that may be associated with Christianity that you may not know about. Also, you do not need to worry bout making it to heaven, but should consider figuring out what choice to make with your life,as to religion.
• United States
16 Nov 06
No religion forces you to do anything. You make your own decisions. If her being a Christian causes you to not be able to make your own decisions then I'd say the problem is yours. You're way too controlled by what others say. Learn to think for yourself instead of saying someone is forcing their religion on you. I say dump the girl. You obviously can't handle people with different opinion because it makes you feel like you're being forced to believe it. It's not going to work. End it now.
@barcir (932)
• Italy
16 Nov 06
It's good!!! Convert you!!!
@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
16 Nov 06
If you join a religion just to please someone and not because of your own choice, you'll just make yourself and everyone else miserable. Do what feels right for YOU! --- --- --- "I certainly think Britney Spears is the devil. The way she projects herself and the fact that she is so obviously vacuous. I think it's such a shame that she became so influential to very small children." -- MORRISSEY --- --- ---
@achyuta (2851)
• United States
16 Nov 06
One cant be forced to become religious. You seem like knowing the free will concept well. You can be introduced if you want so the other person will know you are going to pelase her. But that does not eman that I am supporting athiesm. God exists in all his creations.
@grandbbq (153)
• United States
16 Nov 06
LOL... I am confirmed as a Lutheran. I do not really subscribe to religion. Why? The first lines of your subject say it all. I really get sick of people who try to sell you on God, Jesus, and the whole package. Most of those people prach their religion. These people who say those things abouot not going to heaven if you do not go to church etc... are a bunch of fools. It does not say anything about that in the bible either. The bible is a collection of stories written over many many years. There are many ways to interpret this book. Also one should take into consideration the vast choices of religion. Many faiths, some worship god, some do not. Choice, not force. My suggestion is for you to do your own due diligence and come to your own conclusion. Do not listen to people who tell you such lies. In the end those liars just might be the ones who go to hell. That is just my opinion. I could be wrong.
@xdrunk8 (23)
• United States
16 Nov 06
i believe it is ones own personal choice. i think as long as you believe you'll get to heaven.