choice

India
May 31, 2010 3:00pm CST
when given a choice what would you do... give up on the one u love for all eternity so that something good happens to others.. OR.. keep loving the one you love no matter what happens?
8 responses
@Asthazar (103)
• Romania
31 May 10
Depends how much the situation affects others. If, let's say, your love for someone can somehow kill people, I'd say you should sacrifice yourself... otherwise, your conscience will make you never be the same again. However, if it just hurts people a bit, (like parents or other people not approving) you shouldn't care much, unless they bring reasons that make sense to you, and are able to change your mind. All in all, you should follow your own judgment.
• India
31 May 10
given a chance i would definetely do what you said ..listen to my own heart ..but always my corner of my mind would always be telling me what if i had chosen the other way around?
@Asthazar (103)
• Romania
31 May 10
Ah, yes... I know what you mean. The mind is tricky and dangerous, mind you. I've known this for a while, and I'm not afraid to say it. Some people have what you can call an auto-destructive mind. What it does is, skip the good part of any situation you're in, and think about stuff that will hurt, one way or another. I have 2 examples for this: - you pick a choice, then you start wondering, as you said, if it would have been better to pick the other. This way you torture yourself through curiosity. - you don't yet pick anything, and your mind starts generating worst case scenarios about each of them, rendering you virtually unable to make the choice, leaving you as confuse (if not more) as you were before. These being said, it's your heart that makes the true choice; and it is the hardest thing to listen to, because it's difficult to tell what it says. There are those who claim to know exactly what their hearts desire, but that's impossible if you ask me.
• China
31 May 10
well it totally depends on the situation. My which decision will be good for others i will chose that one. Because i will be more happy when i will see that some other peoples are happy only because of my one decision. I can not be self fish. I can not be happy if others are not happy because of me.
• India
31 May 10
well there are always 2 sides to a coin ...
@maean_19 (4660)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
I think it is case to case basis. Why will you give on loving someone for other people? Is it because the people around you are against that someone? On the other hand, loving someone should be mutual love not a one-way love. If the person you love is worthy of your love because he/she loves you back then he/she is worth fighting for. Meaning, love that person no matter what happens. It may be true that you have to choose what is best for many, however, that saying may not apply to a love between 2 individuals or couple because you two alone are involved who can feel the feelings. Love conquers all....
@med889 (5954)
2 Jun 10
No matter what may happen I will always be standing beside my love because he is beside me too, love is for eternity whatever happens we should never lose hope and should always be next to the love ones to support them.
@sriram19 (111)
• India
1 Jun 10
It is the most difficult decision one has to take! I mean you can easily give up the one you love with the help of your mind, but your heart will aways be thinking about your lover, i mean it wil be realy difficult to forget that person! It is a realy tough ask! I mean it can affect emotionaly, or pshychologically....So all the best for anyone who is about to do that!
• United States
1 Jun 10
With the type of life I had which was full of caring for others just to get backstabbed by them, I would definitely "keep loving the one you love no matter what happens". I assume this object of the "love" not only is a life partner but also a family member (parents, children, etc) and friends. But don't get me wrong, the people who I put as my object of love did the most damage to me than just a typical stranger. But the reason why I would still love them is because we've had so much good memories together and maybe one or two major bad incidences. What are the chances of me getting to have those people I love and care about in my life versus the person across town? We know the people we do because it was meant to be. I believe anyone who lives on this planet will have good and bad days. But I don't see the reason why I would sacrifice "giving up on the one u love", that someone that is so special just for another person to live life the way a normal human being should be going through ups and downs. Plus, even if you did try to do good, what guarantees that person will do good to others as a favor? Heck, you will never see them again. Yeah, karma but is it worth it? Not to me. I don't know but that's my life decision. Even though times may be rough, I would rather go through the ups and downs with them for "eternity" just because I love them. And I'm pretty sure they would say the same things to me too.
• Indonesia
31 May 10
i think giving up on love ^_^ because love when a mate can be approached because love can not be in force ^_^
@kedralynn (992)
• United States
31 May 10
Do I have to stop loving the one I love or can I just not be with him anymore in order to help others? Because I don't think I could ever just stop loving him, but I'd let him go if say it helped save society or something. I'd also let him go if it made him happier or saved his life. But I'd still love him. Just from afar I guess.