Do you believe that if you don’t know to flirt, no one would flirt on you?
By neelianoscet
@neelianoscet (9615)
Philippines
June 2, 2010 9:28am CST
Flirting is very normal process even to shy people it comes naturally. Some never even know that they are in the way of flirting. Other seems conscious about it that they read many manuals to know the basic of effective flirting. As there are times even the brightest fellow becomes dumb in the manner of flirting. It comes as a problem to other people who really know to initiate but to other people it would be their forte. It may sounds annoying when you learn your friend or special someone flirt even a small talk or friendly conversation may irritate you. Then when you keep yourself still cool despite of it behind your mind is telling you that this type of situation need to be stop. But then again you hesitate since your special someone had not yet told you and maybe it was only invented by your mind. It may be an infatuation but it seems to cripple you and drives you to madness of jealousy. Then you think to do the same things so you could get even with her/his flirting which way out of your control.
If ever that you encounter the same situation. Would you plan to get even by flirting or pretend you never get hurt and do the same thing? Since the object of your affection would not notice you, unless you do the flirting or you just wait for her/him to notice you?
Kindly shares your thoughts. Thank you.
6-2-10
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15 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
2 Jun 10
Hello there!! haha =D
Well, everybody does have that flirting strait in them, or in us.. Just that we dunno about it, or dun have the right person to flirt with.. hehe ^_^ And u are right, there are times whereby we unknowingly, began to flirt with the other party, and yet we think it's normal..
BUt to others, it's flirting, and we might be so used to it, thus seeing it as a norm.. haha =D Usually, flirting is often lead by something to it, and it can be anything from personal or even work.. haha =D
Thus flirting is inevitable.. hehe
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi señorito kun,
Very true and i am like that i think like a dumb sometimes and just carried a conversation whatever it goes without giving too much meaning. So i avoid being misinterpret. So sometimes they just get carried away with sweet words which appear to me as a joke not to be taken seriously..lol..
I really have no right ideas about it. So i think your already an expert on it..
ok, so.. you just give me tips if their still other things I don't know..
maybe when i act silly or stupid that may be flirting too???
what do you think so?? lol...
I really have no right ideas about it. So i think your already an expert on it..
ok, so.. you just give me tips if their still other things I don't know..
maybe when i act silly or stupid that may be flirting too???
what do you think so?? lol...2 people like this
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 Jun 10
haha =D I dun think u are that bad.. U are actually a smart gal.. haha =D
IF u dun like that person, u can always be keeping quiet or divert to other topics once u sense they are flirting with u.. haha =D
Acting stupid or silly, is not flirting, but make it seem like a easy target to be bullied.. hehe
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
hehehe..
are you so sure?
that the problem, i like them all..lol..
that sound greedy, isn't it?
just joking...
that sound greedy, isn't it?
just joking...2 people like this
@pusakathvcut (3)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
no, don't believe, because even a simple person can axct flirty without knowing that they are already flirting with someone. with having a converssation or even with a simple friendship there will actually be a sense of flirtiness, becausing going nowhere leads u to somewhere...tnx.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Such innocent flirting depend on the other person point of view and interpretation. It maybe a casual meeting r conversation as long as it is mild then that a good way to have interaction getting to know your subject of interest. While other have misinterpret flirting when it involves physical contact and you lose your self respect by engaging in dirty talk leading to somewhere else when the other party vehemently protest or some just go in for the dive..thanks.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
I really don’t know it. Flirting comes out naturally as they say. You know when someone is flirting on you and when you like that person you do the same. Maybe I am conservative on this area. When I know someone flirting on someone I don’t want to belong in their company. I move away. But I do understand people are different. For me flirting is not real, you are just doing it to show the sign that you are interested with someone. Maybe I am not that type of person that is why I can’t explain it further hahahaha. Or still I haven’t been tested to flirt with someone. I know I am friendly but I will not give sign.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Especially when they always find a way to notice you every now and then. like taking some clues just the way he treat you becoming so special then he call or text you every now and then. That would be some of the clues this person like to know you better by forming more closer relationship with his constant communication. When ordinary treatment becomes sort of extra ordinary when he say some sweet words then you feel happy then sending mix signals of emotion. That would be a way to be in love if both both feel the same way. Making the first initiation seem very hard for most women unless one exudes a lot of confidence. But times would come you would experience it when you meet that special someone.
@noquite0325 (473)
• China
3 Jun 10
it`s a cute question,and for me, most of the time i could distinguish people`s flirting or not.perhaps i`m sensitive to it.if only playing game or party,it`s ok.
but some guy is flirting to me when we stay alone,i think he must be have other attempt.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
hi noquite,
As long as it is good fun not really the bad flirting which involves a lot of physical contact. I think it still harmless just the strategy to getting to know the other person who could be the object of your amorous affection. Those attempt are something to be watch for and never give in when you have no interest just to safeguard yourself. thanks.
@my_name_is_coco (4334)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
I know how to flirt and I do it in a subtle way.I flirted with this Taiwanese guy I like.unfortunately,I don't think he knows I'm flirting with him.to be a good flirt,make it more subtle rather than be all-out.flirt with a guy,but give him the opportunity to chase you.it will keep him more interested.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
That good reason to make flirting the casual way not to obvious but making the other person aware. But the bad things just like you experience he never get the point unless you tell the word to him then maybe he could get the clues. That would be easy if you never hesitate and that person maybe get shock at first but if the feeling is mutual that would be a happy beginning for both of you. Chasing is good things if the other person really seem interested it would comes as handy while if you are the one to chase that would take some times especially if one is so shy.
@onpudepon (9)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
There's nothing wrong with flirting for me. As long as you won't do it to somebody who's already committed to another person. And it's also not necessary to leave your friend for that special someone. You're going just going to manage your time properly
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Yeah, that is also in my mind most of the times and I would not dare to embarrass myself to be caught in hot water. Since I am not going to flirt with someone i could not connect for that have hard time to dealt with after when their is really nothing to gain for.
@srirambond007 (524)
• India
2 Jun 10
I don't have any experience with Flirting so can't comment on this Question :-)
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Lol..so better try a few rare one so you could know the meaning or at let observe how other people are doing it you may get some clues.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Jun 10
DOnt think I ever flirted not that I was aware of.
and if I have a someone close to me and they flirt even if they know it wouldnt do to firlt meself to get even as that makes a bad relationship as long as I knew he is mine I wouldnt care just nature of that person.
@cecillecarmela (3818)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
Hi there! Well before anything else, good question neelianoscet! I'm actually thinking about the same thing too all these years since that "line" is my usual friends' advice on me for the past five years having no romantic connection with someone. :(
About your question, well I guess it has a point too. And I have nothing against flirting because all of us are aware that those are human tendencies and it's perfectly normal though there are some flirting levels I would really disagree on such as what you said in the latter. Personally, I would not like to go to the extent of having to read flirting manuals just so to get my prospect's attention.
Though I'm naturally a shy person, well I also have conscious flirting tendencies especially if I'm really attracted to the person. However most of the time when I like the guy I would act awkwardly around him, and I personally think that this is the reason why I still don't have a boyfriend until now LOL.
I'm too ideal about my love life so I usually get this line from my friends. :p I don't know but for me, flirting efforts can be really tiring, except of course if I know that I really REALLYYYY like the person. I mean, I wouldn't like to go for someone just because I wanted to give him a chance or plainly co'z I wanted to have a boyfriend soon; sorry if I may sound overly conservative with this one, but I don't really want to flirt with just anyone just for the sake of having a relationship I'd regret later. I still trust God that He will give me the right person and He will tell it to me at the right time :p
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
hi cecil,
I do think the same things and that is my reason to come out with such topic. Most of the tomes those friends of mine have annoying habit of teasing me constantly while I am very so hesitant to imitate them. It is not for the reason that I have no pleasant look or have little confidence. But surely it is awkward things for me to be the first one to initiate.
So most of the time I am on the waiting period while others still advice to be the one to make the first move so the other party could notice. it drives me even to hide..lol.
Well, seriously speaking flirting is very normal things to do when still the way to have a connection with other people like starting a good friendship that turn onto another prospect.
However, flirting when their is a need to exhibit body contact of instill conversation which could be way to attract your subject could be quite embarrassing if one is not really confident..
While some are expert on the matter of developing relationship they could easily manage they way in to form a company with their latest acquaintance..
Some have flirt out of control which is a bad way while some manage to flirt in a good way and that is for being selective of your choice..
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
2 Jun 10
Nothing wrong w/a little bit of innocent flirting if u are in a position to do that. I use to like to flirt myself but got too old for that nonsense, lol.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi antiquelady,
loll..I am always like that and often confuse joking as flirting or funny messages that I do not like to put myself too such belief and just pass it as part of growing up as long as it is clean fun. thanks.
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@josga2008 (320)
• Canada
2 Jun 10
They may not continue to flirt with you, but I do believe that they will try whether or not you know how to flirt. By the way...who doesn't know how to flirt?
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
If they really think someone is very interesting and a good target. Even if one does do the first stage of initiation they would find a way to do their own mission. Those who never know to flirt are usually silent, dumb founded and tongue tied as far as I know then they ask their friend to be the one to help them because they could not do the act of flirting the real way.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
If they find the person attractive because of the law of attraction. If you think you are attractive many would come to be magnified like a magnet to notice you with little effort on your part. While to other it seem next to impossible when all the effort they do to be notice the subject seem refuse to even recognize them. That is a failure for sure.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
However their are situation one need to make the first move as such shyness not only limited to women as men do have the same emotional trait. I think some have develop good relationship when the other party come out with full courage to speak out what on their mind not waiting when their is nothing to wait. It may sound impatient attitude sometimes it is best to try whether one does know the outcomes to identify if the person whom you eyeeing have the same feeling as yours. thanks.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Maybe that is only when you think the men are in for friendship without any malicious intent and that I like to do most of the times. Developing friendship while other think it is flirting when it is only a chance to getting to know the person closely. As no one would really know the real person attitude if one do know to initiate a conversation or some gestures as long as it still very decent not really the bad flirting. Not really mean of physical contact maybe verbally then just fun talking with then some would only follow when both agree..
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
I don't agree that if you don't know how to flirt, no one will flirt with you. That's because there are people who are naturally flirtatious. I don't see anything wrong with flirting, as long as it's "harmless flirting" and done without intention to hurt someone. Sometimes it's just a way of being comfortable with someone from the opposite gender. It doesn't necessarily mean that you like or lust for that person. Usually it's done for fun and out of spontaneity, especially if the other person is attractive and not malicious at all. :)
