What are the reasons women should not cry during work?

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Philippines
June 2, 2010 9:40am CST
It is only normal for humans to cry and most women are prone to it. It is say that women should not cry when she is on the office. This is the kind of situation where most senior men are afraid of to happen in line with the office work. Women who could not set aside personal lives and bring it to her work seem unprofessional. So it could be a signs of weaknesses in which most women should avoid of. It doesn’t mean that most women should not cry but at least cry inside the bathroom or where the office mates never see you. So that they would not be emotionally affected by your emotion as it hampers also productivity during the working hours. f you are a woman, do you know to hide your emotion that you are crying when you are at work or you let your other office mates know it? I also like to know from the point of view of man, what you think about women who cry during work? Kindly shares your thoughts, Thank you. 6-2-10 9:34
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
2 Jun 10
Well, it's always ok to cry, and be crying at the right place at the right time.. Be strong on the outside, and yet not suppressing one's emotion, making one look like a robot.. I guess nobody likes to be seen crying, even for woman.. Because the sight of crying makes man's heart melt, but the sight of crying makes man run, due to the smerge make up!! lol =D Just kidding!! And i do agree with u, if possible, do cry in a quiet corner whereby one can really let it all out, and it does not matter to be heard, for others wont know who's the one crying.. hehe ^_^ SO, why bother about what others think, when we ourself are feeling so miserable!! hehe
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 Jun 10
YEah, be strong only in the right time, so as to not appear to be vulnerable, and overtime, one's crying will be seen as a form of weakness, rather than form of frustration.. haha
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
some could not hide a sad face and it is infectious to others because somehow they also get the same moods so just learn to pretend everything is alright except if the news is very terrible then controlling the emotion is not a good thing..
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• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hello kun, I do cry too when i really feel sad but like to hide since i am too ashamed to let others know it. As they may asking repetitive questions which could be annoying. So I think it is the best to kept it secret as long as i could control. lol..makeup melting or like the mascara makes any woman look scary..right... that why i avoid putting it unless it is a waterproof or colorless.. yeah, letting others know that you are crying makes them pity you and it attract more intrigues if you do not really like others to know. just keep crying in private to avoid being the talk of office gossips.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Jun 10
would have never done that. altho I watched while a man downgraded a woman worker so bad that they did cry. they didnt keep jobs long. When he got over me I told him he wouldnt ever make me cry as I just wasnt made that way and ya know he never did try it.
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi lakota, Yeah, it happen too in a jib as you mention so if the woman is so emotional and she could not hide her feeling so the crying exist and that is the kind of situation i think most men dreaded not to happen. Since it make them to sympathize with the woman taking the emotion to control them instead of penalizing and it make them pity them. Though, as much as possible it is not that bad to show that one is sad but only for a shorter period not lasting for longer hours since it affect the work and the people around seeing their co worker crying makes their concentration focus on the woman crying that may awake their curiosity. So as much as possible it is best to cry in private not in public to avoid further gossips. thanks for your reply.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
3 Jun 10
Oh he didnt do it to be sympathtic he did it for he thought he had power over them enough to make them cry and then he would fire them. Bosses shouldnt do that in the work place in front of all the people. And yes the women should have went to the rest room to cry. But to me made me mad and I worked faster with my anger adn I cussed him under my breath lol
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
that so uncool at all and some men who are in authority tend to abuse their workers when they give them unfair treatment so it lead to the feeling of being humiliated. I do agree with you and if ever the same situation happen to me i may even too lost my control since it is not a good etiquette to be left embarrass in public then it is like adding insult to an injury.
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• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Every time we work in the office or in one company it is already in line with being professional. We should leave the problems at home as it has nothing to do with our job. If our co-workers see us crying of course they will be concern and might stop what they are doing. If that happens that lost time for their job. As an employee we are paid based on time so it is unfair to the owner of the company if we use our time for personal problems. Even the one who are crying is being unfair to the company if it is about personal problems. But on the other hand , one cannot control her/his tears. When emotion strikes the only thing we should do is go to the place where we can express it like you said restrooms, so that we can’t influence others. Some sees crying as a sign of weakness because when you cry , it means you are giving up to the pressure you feel. How about those cry babies? Anyway not all crying in the office is because of pain, it also because of happiness.
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
in places like work, a woman's sanctuary is the little cubicle called the restroom. it would be unprofessional to cry at work especially when you are become too emotional to the point that you are already affecting your colleagues. as they always say, when you leave home for work, leave your problems at home once you step out of the door. this makes total sense because a workplace is where you are supposed to work, the reason you get paid. however, there really are times when you go to work and bring emotional baggage. it's ok to weep, but to sacrifice the quality of your work to feed your emotion is quite unfair to your employer. as for most whom i know, they do cry outside the office and in private places where they can cry without being judged. these places would be the restroom, parking lot, inside the car, back portion of the buildings, etc. let the women cry, tears bring out the emotions from the body. =)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi godeeassjes, That the right action to do since the working place as you mention is like a sanctuary so the personal matters should be keep aside making it the less priority. it does not mean that crying should be avoided but it is not advisable to cry where many people could see you and i think it is not limited even in other places where their are lot of people who do not know the real situation. it would affect anyone predisposition since when the other people is happy then seeing a colleague cry is infectious it makes anyone feel sad too. Yeah, those places you mention is very safe to cry since if the one crying like her situation to be keep in private then it is advisable not to share the scenery with other people to avoid further intrigues when you have no interest to share your feeling then keeping it to self is better than sharing it to other who in the first place could not remedy the sources of the problem. thanks for your reply.
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• Philippines
2 Jun 10
I honestly have never cried in my office... My life is sometimes on its downfalls but I never cried in the office, despite of... I am really not comfortable of others seeing me crying especially if it doesnt involve them... I would probably share my problem to some close friends at work, if they notice the sadness in my face and eyes but I would not cry as in super cry... probably tears will fall from my eyes but I would try to hold my emotions well... I only cry at home really... Some problems are hard to carry but I always try my best not to show it to my work... It is really hard but I just don't like others be affected on me... They have problems of their own too... I cannot leave the problem at home however I am carrying it to myself...
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi lovelyn, Ok.. that better since crying as you mention may be express for a short period of time and not for the longer time where the crying involves a lot of of sounds. it may result to other peers to focus on you rather on their work which could lead to embarrassment. Better to keep the emotion or anything that troubles your mind to express it if ever you could no longer hold it in private where you could fully express it out without being criticize by other people who never understand your real situation. yeah, confiding with your close friends could help too as they could provide lot of comfort and even receive good advice from them. thanks.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
It is true. Crying could be a sign of weakness on your part when you are especially in the office. You don't want anyone to see your weak side, to know your vulnerability to certain things. It is better to keep emotional outbursts at home or in a place where no one can witness your weakness.
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi cutie, That best things to do to keep crying in private then just release it in a private cubicle o after work hours is over than letting others know you are sad or crying when they could more focus on their work rather than asking the reasons of your crying which could makes you more prone to intrigues. So to keep it simple and safe, crying should be done in private. thanks
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@kirthy (383)
• India
3 Jun 10
yes i accepted it friend.
@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
4 Jun 10
I am an extremely emotional person. It doesn't take a lot to make me cry. I have cried at my jobs in the past but, I try to take it to the bathroom, get it over with in there, and be on with my day. That being said, I have cried in front of bosses before, and some co-workers. I really do have a hard time controlling my emotions. It is just the way I am. I know it is unprofessional but, when my emotions take over, it is hard to stop them from showing. Women shouldn't cry at work. It does make them look weak. But, it also shows their very human side.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
well for me it depends on the reason and what makes them cry but as much as possible its always better to cry in silence than in public unless you are trying to get some sympathy. on my part, i think there's one time in my life that i do cry while at work, oh well its because i am kinda angry to a certain person but i just can't do anything that time. i am trying to control my anger and that triggers me to cry..hehe but its something that my tears are just falling but i wipe it as fast as possible so that no one will notice. i hate getting attention that way and i don't like people around to think about me & pity me & my situation...although there are also sometimes that we can't really hide it coz our eyes can't hide some feelings...
@mac_fish (723)
• China
3 Jun 10
Hi, Lady,well it's important for u to realize u are surrounded in the high modern civilization as soon as u begin to step on the road to work,I mean u show that u are ready to adapt urself to the environment ,the reality and the whole society no matter u are forced or not when u start to make up and wear nice suit. I think u will be fascinated by the beautiful designed clothes and conscious on whether the suit u wear and even the fragrance of the perfume u carry on is good or not as a common person.All of that show u have been used to the life u have now,of course including the work,there are many ways to solve the problems,provocations ,blames and unfair things,crying in public occassions is the last choice should be taken,coz I think it shows mass sharply and ironically constrast with the suit and cosmetic u use that moment.