At their convience
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
June 2, 2010 10:19am CST
Well SIL decided to take vacation w/o asking anyone when our kids would be out of school ect. So our kids will be out of school on the 9th they leave the 11th. So not only did that urk me but today is urking me to! MIL invited herself & FIL + SIL's Family to our house this afternoon. Now my hubby works late he usually isn't up til dinner time BUT they want to come over around 1-2pm WTF!?!? Don't they understand he's sleeping still?!? And of course this means I have to have the house respectable for company all on my own. THEN my DD has her last Scout meeting tonight... you know how long DD will get to see her out of town cousins for???? under an hour! She has not seen them in about 3-4 yrs! So both my girls won't see much of anyone and I'm supposed to clean like a mad woman to not be embarassed. I'm just ticked! And of course if I mention this she'll say that's life, that SIL will have to make due with what time we can spend. BUT again no one asked us they just invited themselves over! So with that in mind I must sign off of MyLot for today so I can get stuff done they'll be here before I know it!
GRRRRRR!
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@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
Hi Snugglebunnies! I hate it too when we have unexpected or invite themselves visitors, whether it is family members or friends. I think it is rude to come unannounced and at lunch time, so timely...LOL..Because here in my country, hospitality is a common and almost a general thing. But I think, they should know that not everyone has an open home everyday. My family and I, are more on the quiet type. And we only like people over for occasions. Even if they say, they just want to see us and don't bother about the clutter. That's not true. I experienced one family who told us that, and eventually when they became close to us. They say, you know your house is big actually, but just a bit untidy. What???
So ever since, tidy or not, visitors have to be entertained at the gate or the backyard. No more unsolicited visits and comments. 
(^^,)
So ever since, tidy or not, visitors have to be entertained at the gate or the backyard. No more unsolicited visits and comments. (^^,)1 person likes this
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
That's so true! Some family members just don't know or understand that people are not the same when it comes to cleanliness and being orderly. And it is so annoying when they have always something to say or see about your house. And yes, being a family of 5 is a handful. And it is not easy with children around. My daughter is the only child here but, wow the mess is like when you just picked up something, here is another one building up. And having grown ups too, is not an assurance of being tidy. No no no.
Here in my country, it is more like, when you turn your back someone is doing the dishes. Someone is sweeping your floor. I am very grateful for visitors that wants to help out. But sometimes, it is too much as if they want to clean your whole house.. They even look inside the bedrooms and closet...(^^,)
Here in my country, it is more like, when you turn your back someone is doing the dishes. Someone is sweeping your floor. I am very grateful for visitors that wants to help out. But sometimes, it is too much as if they want to clean your whole house.. They even look inside the bedrooms and closet...(^^,)@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
5 Jun 10
Oh wow!
I commented to hubby about what was said but as he said "She has 3-4 people cleaning her home" (aka her 2 kids, her disabled hubby, and her BIL) as she works full time and demands the home be neat when she gets home so she can relax and do nothing is what I've been told. Plus her kids are older than mine.
I hope they don't ever look in our bedrooms! As those are off limits to a degree seeing that we have out grown our house and tuck things in there when company comes over.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
3 Jun 10
Yeah I got one of those comments too "you call this clean?" 
It was her mother that invited them over knowing I"m not very domestic and I need help with the disaster that my kids make CONSTANTLY! He can't help if he isn't awake to help & did a mighty fine job despite my slack'n & frustration w/ the kids & their constant disasters.
But you know I found it funny that we are family of 5 & with the company that made 11 and you know they couldn't put their paper plates or anything away. So who are they calling messy?!?! I know my kids don't pick up after themselves as I'd like to BUT there were more than 5 plates laying around all over the kitchen!
It was her mother that invited them over knowing I"m not very domestic and I need help with the disaster that my kids make CONSTANTLY! He can't help if he isn't awake to help & did a mighty fine job despite my slack'n & frustration w/ the kids & their constant disasters.
But you know I found it funny that we are family of 5 & with the company that made 11 and you know they couldn't put their paper plates or anything away. So who are they calling messy?!?! I know my kids don't pick up after themselves as I'd like to BUT there were more than 5 plates laying around all over the kitchen! 1 person likes this
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jun 10
hi 3Snugglebunnies is that not the w ay with so many family members,why do they do these things. do they walk in uninvited to their casual friends home unannounced and never call first? I mean come on some times people have other things to do or other plans. its rude for anyone to just pop in with out calling first as you might not even be home
for heaven's sake. I always called first before I went to my mom's house and she always said you dont need to do that but yes I do. I tried popping in on her unexpected one day. And she and my younger sister had taken off on a trip somewhere.No it just makes sense to call ahead and'make sure that this is a good time to visit and if not ask about another time or ask your relative to your home when you have the time and are not frazzled out. good luck hope it goes by fast and peacefully.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
3 Jun 10
Yeah it's fun when they tell you when they are inviting themselves over even though I said I'd prefer another day so DH can get his sleep & help me. But what do I know it's only my house!
Atleast when a friend of mine stopped over a few weeks back they were cool w/ being in the yard as I wasn't expecting any company and w/ 3 tornados (+dh) that don't pick up after themselves yet I prefer not allowing anyone in the house unless it's respectable looking and it isn't w/o advanced notice anyway!
Good of you to call your Mom and even make sure it was ok to pop over for a visit & I'm sure you would of handled an objection if she had one gracefully rather than what I got..... "We come to see you guys not your house" 
But MIL has a walker and special potty booster she drags with her so I can't exactly leave things as is anyway KWIM? Glad that day is done we'll have to see what the upcomming days bring til SIL & her family are gone.
Good of you to call your Mom and even make sure it was ok to pop over for a visit & I'm sure you would of handled an objection if she had one gracefully rather than what I got..... "We come to see you guys not your house" But MIL has a walker and special potty booster she drags with her so I can't exactly leave things as is anyway KWIM? Glad that day is done we'll have to see what the upcomming days bring til SIL & her family are gone.1 person likes this
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
3 Jun 10
It'll go by quickly once they are gone back to their home state! But the stress didn't end there as we had a bad rain storm yesterday and my hubby failed to clean the gutters and there was a clog wich then over flowed into my basment. So YAY for more messs!
