Would you enter into a relationship with someone who has a different religion?

@eileenleyva (27562)
Philippines
June 3, 2010 5:50am CST
I had a friend, a Christian, who fell in love with a Buddhist. And she married him. I am apprehensive about such relationships but had come to accept that they were in love. Still, I had to ask if you would enter into a relationship with someone who has different beliefs?
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@mentalward (14691)
• United States
3 Jun 10
I respect everyone for their religious beliefs. I think that I wouldn't have a problem choosing someone with different beliefs than mine as long as the other person respected me for my beliefs as well. When it comes to children, that can be difficult but not impossible. I had some friends a long time ago, a husband and wife. He was Jewish, she was Christian. They had a son and raised him to know about both religions. They celebrated both the Jewish and Christian holidays. Their son was allowed to make up his own mind about his beliefs. I think this is an ideal example of how differing beliefs can work together. However, I also believe a relationship is much easier if both are the same religion because it's just another thing they have in common. There would be no awkward moments when a mixed couple celebrate one religion's holidays or the other's.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
3 Jun 10
I think it depends on the person and how strong their beliefs are. I have a neighbor who is Lutheran and her husband is Jewish. But they both are not strong in their beliefs, though the husband says he'll never convert, he is very liberal, so it works out.. Another problem that can arise is what happened to me..I thought my husband and I had the same beliefs, both believe in Jesus and that the book of Acts is for us today..But I have grown much quicker than he in my spiritual life and have changed from a typical Christian to what I call Biblical beliefs. This means that not only do I believe in the bible, but I celebrate the feasts and festivals and observe the Torah. My husband, though he claims to want to learn, isn't even close to where I am and it is putting a lot of pressure on our marriage because where he goes to church, they strongly believe in "grace" and not the law..My beliefs is they have to be balanced..So he will do things and not change, even though he knows it's wrong. I on the other hand, see that I have to change and do my best to do so and ask G♥d to help me too..
• Australia
3 Jun 10
Yes, ask God to help you. Jesus did come to free us from the law and to dwell too much in that area can be labeled legalistic. It is nice to feel really free and Jesus can do that for you.
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• United States
3 Jun 10
Sorry Nick, you misunderstand me, Jesus din't come to remove the law, but to fulfill it..This would be like saying, "Let's get rid of all speed limit laws" We don't want to do that, but an occasional grace where an officer lets us go with a warning is similar to what Jesus does..Too much grace allows people to do what they want without concern of judgement on them.
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@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
I'm not really against it but I'm very much devoted to my religion. I can't give it up because I know that a lot of people from my family would be greatly affected.
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@zsarhea (302)
• Austria
7 Jun 10
If we both love each other of course i will,i will be willing to convert my religion too if thats mean being with someone i love. Religion is not really a hindrance of being with the person you love.And besides if they love each other then one should understand the other right?Hope it'll hep,hehe
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@bentreed (31)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I would not. Its quite hard to reconcile the different faiths. Besides the Children may get confused on which religion to follow.
• India
29 Jul 10
Religion is bar of in between two loving people. However it doesn't matter to me. I am Buddhist and my man is Hindu. We fell in love with each other and now we are living together. Still we having normal and happy life. So i would say i don't belief that i should go with only my same religion.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
4 Jun 10
Hi eil! I think if I have to enter into a relationship, caste,creed or religion would not matter much. If I find someone compatible, irrespective of what religion she follows, I would go for her.
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@derek_a (10874)
4 Jun 10
If I loved someone I wouldn't mind what religion they followed and I wouldn't interfere with their beliefs. I don't have any single belief as I am a Zen practitioner and can see that all religions point to the same things and that is to tolerate and forgive the mistakes of others, and do unto them as you have them do unto you. If everybody practised this, then the world would be a better place. But throughout history, few conventional religions have practiced what the originator taught. _Derek
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
6 Jun 10
i have known a lot of couples who are living together even they have different religions. i see no problem about it since it is not the only thing that should be considered in a relationship. besides, me and my wife have also different beliefs.
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@annierose (19657)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
hi eileenleyva, It never entered my mind to have a relationship with a person who has a different belief with me. For some time in my life, I had met some men whom I like but when I found out that they have different beliefs in terms of religion, I automatically forget my feelings.I remember when I was in second year high school, I have a good friend that time. Actually I had a crush on him. His religion won't allow him to celebrate birthday and when I ask about their beliefs, the feelings I have for him was gone. I am a Catholic and I celebrate birthdays. However he mentioned some words which is not good to hear. It seems as if their religion is the only religion that will save mankind.I respect his belief but what turned me off is when he tried to tell me how bad other religions is. My brother also experienced to have a girlfriend having other religion. Their relationship lasted for ten years. I thought they can overcome the difference in the religions. However, we just found out that their relationship was put in vain. The mother of his girlfriend strongly disagree with the relationship and it was one reason why they did not end in church.
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
I think religion doesn't really matter in a relationship.I would enter a relationship with someone who is in a different religion than me.I would never change my religion though.I would make it clear to him that he should respect my religion,let me attend my church,and won't change my religion for him.same,I would respect his religion.
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@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
4 Jun 10
Hi eileen.... I think I will not married with someone with difference religion. I think religion really matter in my future family because its will shape how we see value of marriage and the way we educated our children. In this crazy world I think we need religion to have hope in our life especially in raising children who ready to conquer every problem.
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
FOR ME ITS NOT! but others can be, it depends upon on how to deal with it.. maybe they respect its other belief in order to aware some argument about that matter.. but for me on my own basis how would you stay longer into a relationship if both of you have different belief? much more for other things.. cause i know a couple would share each other helping each other not only for material needs but for spiritual needs.. so how could it be if they are in the different belief?
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• India
4 Jun 10
Hey Eileen, "Love is blind" so obviously when they are in love ( true love ) this things such as religion, country, color does not come in to picture and also if they are in relationships they does not need to give up there beliefs..I guess love is all about understanding each other and appreciate the difference .. Love forever ... Sasi
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
i had a relationship with a Hindu before and im a Catholic..the relationship runs well but in the end the relationship did not lasts..first we have to consider their culture where the parents chose the wife for them..also i think we didn't love each other that much to be able to surpass the differences in our views and beliefs..since your friend married the Buddhist..then they surpass those stages..im glad for them..
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
4 Jun 10
Hi eileenleyva, Yes, I know I could. It would not bother me one bit if someone that I loved was of a different religion. I don't practice any formal religion and I figure if a person is ok with that and I'm ok with his religion then we are good to go. Part of true love accepting the other person as they are. I could never fall in love with a man and love him only if he changed his religion. That is not love. Likewise, I could not love a man demanded me to change to his religion.
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• United States
4 Jun 10
I would, but I can tell you from experience it can make things really complicated in the long run. However, I believe love can carry you through anything if both parties feel the same way.
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@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
For me not because there's a conflict about the belief's you learn and in terms of you children they have both not sure of.
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@zubirik (111)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
Yeah... Religion is not a barrier for me. As long as you have understanding then your relationship will go stronger. Good communication and love tends to break barriers. I tried it. I'm a Christian and I had a Muslim partner before but with proper understanding our relationship went stronger(that was years ago) but after such because of so called 3rd party we broke up.
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@Cliff94 (49)
4 Jun 10
Well, I believe that it is okay for two people of different religions to have a relationship, as long as they both respect each others religion and don't try and force the other person to follow their own. If they truely love each other they should be able to see past their religious differences and be able to love and respect that person for who they are. :)
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