single mom

United States
June 3, 2010 9:30am CST
do you believe a a women can be a better single mom to children if the father is dirupting the family and causing problems all of the time?
10 responses
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
oh yes!!!!i believe a women can be a single mom to their children even if their father is not in their side..mother knows best what's best for her children.. i have a friend who's a single mom,,she has a 5 yr old son and as i observed her, she can manage well and taking care of her son,even the father of her son is gone she proves that she can raise her son and can give the best education that her son ever needed...having no partner in life is not a hindrance to any women who's raising their child/children with their own way....
• United States
9 Jun 10
i know women are strong an it seems they som times do double when they are married sense some men need to be taken care of them selves.thanks for your coment.
@shinxna (36)
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
Better off to be single than with him! This is what my mom believed in and this is what she did. She is a single mom of five (5). Yes! Five! She must be a super mom!
• United States
6 Jun 10
wow!how old were they when she left?i guess my main concern is having enough money to raise them. how did she do all of this?
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
3 Jun 10
I am technically a single mother of 4 kids. I have done fine with that. I am strong, strong-willed and then some. I don't necessarily need a man for anything other than companionship and the prospects of mating. I have God on my side and for that I am thankful. I can play sports with the kids, help with homework, financially and mentally support them on my own. I believe every child needs a father as mine raised me by himself. But, on that note, if the father is causing ruckus in the home, then by all means, do your job and be the best parent you can be. I have hurt, loved, lost and won all my battles being a single mom and I wouldn't have it any other way.
• United States
3 Jun 10
thank you so much i am so happy to hear astrong women sucess story .i do think that my husband will not change and things are a mess as soon as he walks in the door.
@la_chique (1498)
3 Jun 10
I think that separated parents should act in the best interest of the child and I think its awful when the child/children are treated like some sort of possession and the parents fight over how to split the possession of the children. Ground rules and boundaries should be set and stuck to and the kids need to have some sort of routine.
• United States
3 Jun 10
i agree with you so much .this is the problem we are having now my husband was raised in a family with 15 children and they were left to run wild.now he trys to keep my 7 year old triplet boys out until 11 at night and skips feeding times when they are with him.this will sure be in my divorce papers that they will be kept on a routine schedule that is healty for them when they are with him.
@cicisnana (772)
• United States
3 Jun 10
[/b]ABSOLUTELY!!![b] And it's just not if a father is being disruptive. If the mother is the one being disruptive and the father is capable of bringing up his child or children he should do so. Having a disruptive parent will usually cause a whole heap of problems in the childrens older years..
• United States
3 Jun 10
i agree i think the things that my husband has been threw as achild is still standing in his way and i realize i can not fix that now and it is hurting all of us.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
yes because we have to think about the children. they have to be brought up in a loving and nurturing environment. if the father is the cause of disputes, arguments, sadness and confusion for the kids, then they are better off without him. the mom should make sure, though, that she's capable of caring and providing for the kids.
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
I agree with you on that! Eliminate what is rotten to preserve a whole lot. I salute single moms! I give high respect to them. It is not easy bringing up a child or more alone.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
8 Jun 10
If a lady has a nasty husband that causes problems a lot of the time she would certainly have a better time if she became a single mom. Then the lady and her children could have a more pleasant time in life. However the children would have to maintain contact with their father. If the father was violent they would have to meet up at a contact center where the father's behavior could be watched. Sometimes a single mom lives with a low income. Leaving a nasty husband a lady might have to move to accommodation to fit all her family. It might cost quite a lot more than she would be used to. She might work and get $150 a week but childcare might cost $80 so she would struggle to pay for all the bills.
@med889 (5941)
7 Jun 10
A woman can take care of her children if she thinks she is enough responsible and can cope with daily life too, because she has to be both the mother and father of the children so it is very important she understand both roles before indulging into something which surprise her later.
• United States
3 Jun 10
it is as simple as this if the father is a problem towards the kid then i would say it is best for the kid if he didn't have a father i personally think if something is a problem towards a kid i suggest getting rid of that problem before damage is caused to the kid in his childhood
@durgabala (1360)
• India
3 Jun 10
Women are better in handling kids. They can manage a house single handedly. They have all the will power.