How do you get over someone?

United States
June 4, 2010 4:12am CST
I know that drinking doesn't help because drinking reveals a lot of truth about an individual and then they'll just think about that person over and over again whether they miss them or hate them they'll still be thinking about them. I know this cliche and I do not like the answer myself but I feel that the only way to officially get over someone is through time and of not hanging out with them. One cannot get over someone if they continuously spend time over them. They need to have time to live life away from that individual and learn to stand without them. How do you get over someone? Picture them taking a poop? That's what my cousin said and I tried it, yet to no avail. Any ideas or thoughts about this subject matter?
7 responses
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
Drinking is not the solution of getting over. You only get headache and heartache after drinking. You will get hang over and the reality of breaking is still there. The best solution of getting over is facing it that your into a big trouble of losing that special someone. Below are the simple steps of reaching a new life without her. 1. Accept 2. Keep busy 3. Go out (socializing and enjoy nature) 4. Check yourself if you already get her out of your system by checking on her. 5. If pain is still there, do the 1 to 4 again. If you remember her without pain..... then do the 6 if you are ready. 6. Love...Love...Love... again. But do not rush yourself into number 6. Let time heal the wounds of heart aches and love yourself again. Pray always for guidance and peace of mind.
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• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Getting over someone is really difficult. But based on experience, a strong support group like your friends and family can help. Diverting your attention to more productive things would also be better. If you've been hurt because you love, then the only way to really say the pain is gone if you love again. It make take time but just move forward and keep telling yourself to move on... move on...
@ellago (127)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
Acceptance. You need to accept first that this person is not longer yours. Forgiveness. If that someone hurt you, learn to forgive. THE BEST IS YET TO COME. HOPE AND PRAY. Look at the brighter side. Things happen for a reason.
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@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jun 10
Hi, eddy. I'm not an expert when it comes to pain. In my previous relationships was a disaster. I was drowned in pain and become miserable. I thought the pain will hurt me forever. So, what i did was I try to divert my intention like keeping my self so busy, spending more time with friends, going to the malls, hanging out, watching movies and once in a while at the bar with my family and closes friends of course. And then i wake up one day being so tired of hoping to be with that person who causes me so much pain. I move on and let the pain heal and open my heart to a new relationship. Now, i can say i made the right choice... being with the right person.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
For me is to forgive her so that you not feel hatred about and forgive and said I don't care of.
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
" Time heal all the wounds ". help yourself though... one thing i discovered about myself from my last breakup was that no matter how you said you love that person very much, you and yourself alone can help forget about that love. here are few things i did : (1) i went out alone. i tried going to gym alone. going to mall alone, eating alone, and even stayed in an apartment alone. sometimes, i felt so sad... but most of the times, i find myself happy. i missed bein' alone. (2) i go out with friends. i travel from one place to another. i started making new friends. You know what, soon you'll discover that "yes, i can really move on now". Then by that time, learn to forgive & forget bout the sad things or bad stuffs that happened between you and your partner. Somehow, she gave you this lesson on how love really worked and how to deal with it. ;)
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@la_chique (1498)
4 Jun 10
Sorry, there's no answer to this question. It depends how much that person meant to you, what they did for you to split up and how you handle your own emotions. I had a hard time getting over my ex years ago, but I found someone else and eventually those feelings I had went away. You'll always feel something if they were a big part of your life but other things will come along to ease the pain.