how much should you know about your partner?

Philippines
June 5, 2010 11:48am CST
how much should you know about your boyfriend/girlfriend? i have been thinking how much should a couple reveal to their partners about themselves. should they tell everything their partner needs to know about them or should they keep a little bit of something to themselves for some reason? what's a little privacy like? when is sharing information too much? when is a partner being too eager to get involved in your life?
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11 responses
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
5 Jun 10
Sweetie, let me put it this way. Privacy has got nothing to do with this. You need to trust and be trusted by your partner. Reveal all and no misunderstandings will occur. TATA.
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
hey thanks.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
Thanx for the BR, sweetie. TATA
• India
6 Jun 10
it really depends on the person and the person's pair. according to me one should know about their partner completely and let it be anything of any category. One should know more than himself about his/her partner so that the life goes fair without any problems, ego, doubts etc. Its better to confess anything we did to our partner and later happy life is ours with our partner.
@dodo19 (47118)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 Jun 10
Although we haven't been married for long, my husband and I did tell each other everything before we got married. I think that I can safely say that we know each other inside and out. And I can also say that our relationship so far has been a healthy one. Yes, it happens that we get mad at each other and we have our share of fights and arguments. But, at the end of the day, we talk about our problems and we solve them together. Personally, I think that this is the way to go. To be a team as well as a couple.
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
I think it depends on the couple. My boyfriend and I share a lot of things, but we don't make each other tell everything. I mean, you can tell, but if you don't want to then it's perfectly fine, it's not that you have anything to hide, but we all know that everybody still needs their privacy..
@ndubose (418)
• United States
6 Jun 10
I think you should know at least 98% you can leave the 2% for mystery
• India
6 Jun 10
there is no such formula existing,leaving even something to mystery is really dangerous
@pooja30 (203)
• India
5 Jun 10
I've been in relationships that were too open and honest and some that were too secretive. From what I've experienced, you and your partner just need to find where to draw the line. There's no need to go out of your way to hide something, if you're planning on staying in the relationship for a long time. But if it's something insignificant that happened way in the past, then I suppose it's alright not to mention it. It all depends on the level of committment, I suppose. In the really long haul, honesty's probably the best way to go.
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
true. girls dig honest men. thanks.
• United States
5 Jun 10
well in a true relationship both girlfriend and boyfriend has to share everything or else it won't work out so in my relationship i shared everything about me and more. I sometimes think my girlfriend isn't just a girl anymore she is more like an angel watching over me knowing always what im doing where im at everything.
@sinois (139)
• Mauritius
5 Jun 10
Well trust me man, you should say everything and at the beginning! its not when things are getting serious that you are going to reveal everything and then trust me RUINED everything! the more they know each other at the beginning the less surprises they`ll get in the future. i have this friend of mine who didn`t ask and dated a maneater for 2 years, he wanted to get married too lol.
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
although honesty should be practiced when you are in a relationship, it still depends on the two of you to draw the lines..sometimes, too much openness leads to some misunderstandings and secrets will also yield misunderstandings..but there are things which you should not tell each other, not well until you are too familiar with each other. sometimes, even though you would like to know the secrets and past of a loved one, it does not mean that it would not hurt to hear it from you personally.sometimes, not knowing is a blessing actually.. just tell the things that would have impact on your future together, but if its not connected or have no impact whatsoever on your relationship,better keep it a secret
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
hi.. your question is very interesting for me.i can say that you must have something to keep for yourself as long as you are still in bf/gf relationships. why so? cos if you decided to end the relationship but let me tell you first ok.. dont get me wrong i am not telling you that someday you will break up. i mean just in case ok? now let start it again.. when the two of you for an instance break up you still have this what we call pride cos you still have the privacy of something you kept from him.. means he did not get all of you.. you left something for your self..goodluck !
• India
5 Jun 10
well if you happen to be in a relationship then it's your right to know everything about your partner becoz your love does rest on your trust and it's this trust which carries your relationship forward,it makes you more motivated and keen to keep moving on in a relationship