The only thing wecan do at the back of some one is to pat

I agree with you. Backstabbing or talking behind someone's back is really irritating. I've been a subject of quite a number of those with my first work. The hardest part was one was spreading LIES about me. I really don't get why people have to do that. I'm thinking, it's jealousy. Whether they admit it or not, they're somehow jealous about something you have or something you are that they want to be.

Sweetie, those people we call hypocrates. Nasty buggers. I hate people like that. Either you tell people straight to their face or you keep your mouth shut. TATA.

Hi there vijayanths! I remember when I was a child growing up. My mother had a quote that she would always say when she caught one of us spilling out bad things, whether it was to someone's face or behind their back. She would always say "If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all." Whenever I start to say something that my mother would consider impolite, I try to bite my tongue. I know sometimes in working situations when there are people that we really struggle with, it can be difficult. But, I always try to remind myself to be positive and that positive things will come. And also there is an expression that goes something like "Misery loves company". So if someone else is complaining a lot, or talking about someone behind there back, it is best if we just walk away from the conversation. Sometimes, you may even have to excuse yourself. I am not sure how the other person feels when you do this, probably a bit frustrated that you did not share. But, you have a wonderful point. And I hope that more and more people will start to see this. It will make for a much better world! Good luck to you my friend!

hi vijayanths no its horrid to speak ill of someone who is not there and I do not do that, and I do not like having it done to me. I hear this and I tell that person I will not listen if they are going to badmouth a person to me. Backstabbing and gossiping have even caused people to feel so badly they have took their own lives. this is just plain evil, no other word comes close to describe it.

hi vijayanths, yes its true and those people who talk ill about people who are not there are just ill themselves. hehe or maybe they are just not aware and it falls on gossiping. its irritating yes specially if what they are saying are not true or way too exaggerated. but of course we can also can't say such things in front of that person. haha its somehow human nature i guess. and yes we all know that its not good but many still falls on it.

Tell them. Then find an excuse to be away.

Well, it does annoy me. But I hardly found someone who want to speak that to the person's face. It's easier for them to complaint this and that when that person is not around. I don't like that sort of conversation but I don't pass the messages to the person. As much as I hate it, I don't start the 'war'. It's best to end it with me.

Hello again dear bhai, Nice to see you again and again dear. Well,i always have this mindset that,we can never please everybody. I don't care if they keep talking bad words against me,it is not my sin,but theirs. No matter how we try to be good to anyone,once we fail from their expectations,be sure to received bad comments (and so what?...i don't have any backaches ugh!!!)