Would you marry a man if you knew he was a cross dresser?

United States
June 7, 2010 5:58am CST
If you loved the man enough could you do it and except him for who he is? I would have alot of issues with this and I would be able to do it! It doesn't mean the guy is gay. Some men just prefer women's clothes over men's clothes!
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13 responses
7 Jun 10
If you love a person then you should love everything about them. A man prefering to wear womens clothes at times is nothing - women often wear mens style clothing such as shirts and combat trousers which were originally designed for men and people see nothing wrong in that. A man wearing womens style clothing is not hurting anyone and so I dont see any problem in that. There are so many abusive relationships out there that a relationship with a man liking womens style clothing is nothing. It all comes down to whether you love the man I believe. If a person can not overlook this aspect if it comes into their relationship then they dont really love the man completely for who he is.
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• United States
10 Jun 10
Good point. I know there is alot of women who wear mens clothes and nothing is said. If a person can over look this to marry a cross dresser, it really means it is true love!
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
NO way, I would never marry a cross dresser. It is a taboo to cross dress, I think that we will be a laughing stak to our neighbors, family and friends. And also, being a cross dresser is wrong, they have a psychologic problem. And I dont want to marry a psychologically unhealthy man.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
7 Jun 10
And also, being a cross dresser is wrong, they have a psychologic problem. what makes you think that?? And does that mean that a WOMAN who likes to wear certain mens clothes has psychological problems too??
• United States
10 Jun 10
Cross dressers don't have psychological problems and are unhealthy men! Where did you get that information? Cross dressers just prefer women's clothes over mens! That ia all!
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
What you normally think about having a psychologic problem is being crazy and those in rehabs.. But I read it in books. I study it that's why I am saying that it is a psychologic problem. They may be healthy looking but their minds are not perfectly healthy.
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
I do not see myself falling in love with a man who looks like a woman more than me. He is a man, therefore he should look like one. I can make friends with a cross dresser but not to the point of falling in love and marrying one, unless he is going to willingly change the way he dress up.
• United States
10 Jun 10
I have heard of women who are married to cross dressers that have tried to get them to wear men's clothes. Most times it doesn't work and the wives except their husbands even though they are cross dressers! Weird!
@ElicBxn (63233)
• United States
7 Jun 10
well, 100 yrs ago they'd've called us cross dressers, because we don't wear women's clothing granted, the jeans I wear are made for a woman, but that didn't exist back then
• United States
10 Jun 10
I didn't think about that! Back then women had to wear mens clothes! There was no such thing as mens and women's clothes!
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@ElicBxn (63233)
• United States
10 Jun 10
actually there were, there were even LAWS against women dressing like men a woman had to wear a dress of some sort
@crazydaisy (3896)
• Canada
8 Jun 10
I wouldn't never go out with a cross dresser, 1,Because people will think you are the same, 2,They wont want to bother with you, 3,They think you are strange, 4,They wonder if you are sick or something, 5,They will tell other people to stay away from you unless they are that way, I be wouldn't like him dressing in my clothes, cd
• United States
10 Jun 10
This is how I would look at it too! I could not date or marry a man that is a cross dresser for all the reason's you just said! It is sad but true!
• United States
7 Jun 10
no no no
• United States
10 Jun 10
Did you realize neither of us got paid for your post? Three words don't cut it! Please read the guide lines! Three sentences is what gets you paid!
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
7 Jun 10
Absolutely! If I loved and respected him and he loved and respected me then whats the issue ya know? So what if he likes to wear womens clothes..so long as he ASKS me first before borrowing mine then whatever ya know..
• United States
10 Jun 10
That is great! You'd would want him to ask first before borrowing your clothes! That is priceless!
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
7 Jun 10
Hi, blue65packer. I could not do this. I don't think that I could stay or be with a man that prefers women clothing over men clothing. That is just not something that I will be able to do. Our relationship will surely go downhill.
• United States
10 Jun 10
It would be to freaky for me just knowing a guy was a cross dresser! I could even date one must less marry one!
@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
8 Jun 10
NO Way. there is a strong possibility he would be. i dont like to see men in womens clothes
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
7 Jun 10
No, I really don't think I could marry a man who wasn't sure whether he was Arthur or Martha. I mean, what if he wanted to wear the frock down the aisle? I can't understand why any man would prefer women's clothes, and I can't see me ever falling in love with one who did. Of course, it hasn't happened to me, and things could be different if it did, but I don't think so, somehow.
• Spain
7 Jun 10
Hello, Lori. I always try to keep an open mind, and as you've discovered, there are worse things than cross dressing. Hope you'll be really happy now.
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
how can i love someone whose a cross dresser unless he lied to me from the start and he only told me when we almost got married. its not that i hate nor i odnt like cross dresser but i prefer to have a straight husband and thats my choice. so if i found out that his cross dresser then im sorry, i cant love someone whose almost the same as me.
• United States
10 Jun 10
I thought of that too. What if the guy I married had lied and you found out he was a cross dresser?I be very angry! I hate liars! Being a liar is and cheating is the worst things a person can do in a marriage!
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Most of the times when we are talking bout love anything is possible. When we reffer to love that means we are willing to do just bout anything for that person that we love. It has no limitations, if you love someone and you found out that he or she is a crossdresser i will just be asking for his or her explanation and i want to hear the complete story about it. But as to the question of im willing to marry that person stil the answer will be absolutely yes, my love for him or her will never change just because i already know his or her secret, what i loved is the person and not the secret. Yes it is an issue that he or she lied to me but with understanding and love comes forgiveness thats what makes love powerful you can accept just about anything in a person for as long as you purely love this person indeed. Its more like a test of your love, if you fail then its your loss .Happy mylotting!
@karen1969 (1779)
7 Jun 10
I am not sure if I could do this, I think I would feel a bit uncomfortable about it. I had a male friend who was a cross dresser and that was fine. I would go shopping with him and give him tips on outfits, wigs, make up, etc. but I only had a friendship with him. If he had been my husband, I think I would have found it harder to deal with.
• United States
10 Jun 10
It is possible it could bring a man and wife closer together! I personally have not know a cross dresser or know one that is married. I think if I had a friend like that I don't think I could handle it! It would freak me out!