Broken Home

@elleb0418 (1107)
Philippines
June 7, 2010 5:45pm CST
Being in a family of what they call broken home is hard.For the kids when that situation is not well explained will be more harder when they get older.Her in the Philippines lots of family are in that situation and sad to say I am one of them.I don't have to enumerate what are the reasons why the situation is like this,its for me only and it's personal. But being a single mother I always tell my kids to still love and respect their father.I know that deep inside of them they have lots of issues to be solve,but I do believe that one day they will understand it and the question "why" will be already answered.
6 responses
@yresh12 (3210)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
I haven't tried being in a broken family but I have known quite a few friends who has been in a broken home. It is pretty hard when you are all alone raising your children. You want them to feel that they are loved and they are special but sometimes its hard to explain why some things don'ts work as you expected.
@yresh12 (3210)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Definitely!! Just live one day at a time. Enjoy very moment and don't let anything hinder you for your success!!
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
Yes we cannot force someone to stay if they wanted to leave.Things sometimes doesn't work when you expect them,but maybe that's a part of life also,being hurt and through that we can assess our self if how long we can comprehend to all those trials in life.
@ada8may21 (2404)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
I am sorry to hear that, I am also in the same situation. If there's a way that I could turn back the hands of clock I would not choose to be like this. But there is nothing I can do but to live this kind of life. I just need to be strong in dealing life together with my son. I am thankful that my son doesn't asked too much about our situation. I dont know if I need to be thankful or be afraid of it, maybe he is just keeping it to himself. Which is makes me worried. I just hope everything will fine no matter what will happen we can handle it and survive this life. Be a best of luck to all of us.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
Yes, maybe being strong enough and explained to our kids why it happened is the best way we can do.We cant deny that sometimes we are afraid but life must go on,we need to do so.I know our kids will understand it.
@ada8may21 (2404)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Yes we need to be strong in this times for them to know that we are not weak. As much as possible I dont want my son see me having hard times or see me crying I dont want him to see me in that way.
@setsuna26 (2748)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
I agree this kind of setup is much more harder for the kids than that of the parents. Although i recognized that parents suffer as well in this setup but the ripple of this situation affects the kids more and it will last for a long time too. When kids grow up they will be more than rebellious than other kids because their parents are not fully there to suppot them or at least to guide them well in their lives. We should try our best to at least avoid having a broken family at any cost. If theres a problem within couples they should talk bout it and not resort into breakups or else only the kids will be the worse victims in the situation. Hey you can also visit my topics i want to hear more bout what you think and your thoughts too my friend. Have a great day!
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
I don't want my kids to be rebellious,that's why as much as I can i do explained to them, my two daughters understand it already because they are already matured and now I am into my youngest son I know being in the young age he still don't understand but I am trying to explained to him why it happened.
@thomad13 (210)
• United States
8 Jun 10
I grew up in a broken home. My parents divorced when I was one. I never asked my mom what happen. My biggest problem was my father not maintaining a relationship with us. He remarried his mistress, had more kids with her and forgot about us. My mother never talked down on him to us. She always encouraged us to build our relationship with him, but he never put in the effort. When i got to about 13 years old I asked my mom how could a father just abandon his kids. When I really started to lash out toward him and vent to my mother as I got older, she told me she never wanted to put the impression that she had of him in our head. She was always respectful because he was our father and it was our place to grow and see the person that he was because she didn't want us to resent her for pushing her beliefs of him on us. Now as a mother myself, my husband and I both come from broken homes. My mother raised me and his father raised him. I get heavy hearted at times to see how good of a relationship he has with his father and to see how great of a dad he is himself. I am blessed to have found a loving man to spend my lofe with. I pray that it continues and that we are able to give our children the home that we did not have ourselves. Good luck to all mothers. My mom was a single mother of three from the time we were newborn, 1 years old and 2 years old. Its a struggle but your child is your blessing from this situation.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
Sorry to hear that, you have same situation with my kids.Their father forget his responsibility for them also.He married another too and already with kids.Thats why sometimes I cant blame my kids if they will get angry with their father.But always i told them that they will not feel that way.I told them to pray to God that,God will touch their fathers heart so that he will remember his responsibility for them.
@Alan70pct (170)
• China
8 Jun 10
Sorry to hear that.In fact,I once experieced that feeling as a child.In another words,when I was small,my family was not rich.But at that time ,I did understand my parents.We finally passed through that situation. There will be hope my friend.
@ladyg26 (58)
• United States
8 Jun 10
im very sorry to hear about the situation.i was part of a broken home a year ago.my mom and dad were not doing so well and there was just constant arguing.but through it all i understanded my mom more than my dad.my dad was the one causing our family to fall apart.me and my little brother stood together no matter what. you see your kids will understand when they get older because they hear and put things and situations together.yes in the long run there are alot of questions to be answered but through it all things will turn out great.it may be stress full but its worth it.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
Better for you that you and your brother stood together.You and your brother must understand that what ever will happened life must go on.Yes I know it is very stressful but I know you can handle it.