Would you marry a hoarder if you knew they were one?
By blue65packer
@blue65packer (11826)
United States
June 8, 2010 2:45pm CST
I am asking this because I am wondering if someone would love a person so much and then put up with their "disease"? I know I couldn't! I know alot of people,when they find out a loved one is a hoarder then dump them! Some try to get them help. That doesn't always work! So I'd like your opinion on this?
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
11 Jun 10
A friend of mine said we are all alittle bit of a hoarder. He can not depart with any of his clothes! I it is magazines and pictures and articles from magazines! I can get rid of clothes when I want to with no problem.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
8 Jun 10
Hiya blue,
Do you mean someone that just collects the odd thing here and there or someone who has what they call Diogenes syndrome?
If they have that syndrome they need help as it is an illness that needs treatment. It seems to be a tough one too. If I loved the Person enough and they loved me enough to want to get help and also recognize their condition then I would stay with them but otherwise I think not it would be very hard to put up with. They collect anything and everything but again they really need help but most of the time they refuse to see that they do. We know one personally and his Wife threw him out then his Girlfriend too. He still does not want to be cured or recognize it.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
11 Jun 10
I meant the person who has Diogenes syndrome. I did see a show on hoarders where a wife was a really bad hoarder and her husband said he wasn't. He said he collected stuff,like model cars,He said he wasn't a hoarder becuase he kept his things organized. I still don't know what to think about that because he collected alot of different stuff! On another one of thes shows there was a guy who had a girlfriend who found out he was a hoarder and said if he didn't clean up his act,she'd be gone! This guy was working on his hoarding but did not make alot of progress! To much was of value to this guy! I don't know if he even really cleaned up his house but I beat he didn't! Hoarding is a disease and I couldn't deal with it!
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
9 Jun 10
Hi Blue,
No I would not marry a person knowing that about them. It would be a real problem for me. If I loved the person enough to even consider marriage then I would let them know that was something I could not live with. If they loved me enough to consider marriage then I would think they would try to get help to overcome the problem. It would not matter how much I cared about this person, I KNOW that I could not live with that so why bother getting married. I would not marry anyone knowing that they had traits that I could not live with. It would be unfair to marry someone expecting them to change to fit my expectations.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
11 Jun 10
Hi Sid, I know alot of hoarders will clean their act up but most of them go back to their old ways in like a year! You can expect a person to get better but not stay that way! It is to must to expect to ask a hoader even if you loved them! It is a diease which some people seem never to get over! It is sad!
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Jun 10
If I loved the person, I'd work with the situation. To a point...
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
11 Jun 10
You know this topic reminds me my mom was like a hoarder. I guess she was! She would go to thrift shops and rummage sales and just buy stuff she thought other people,like me, could use. If not he'd buy stuff because she thought she needed it! It was extremely annoying but it was her way of dealing with my father who is pond scum and can be worse! You don't realize this until the person is gone! I believe this is the main reason I wouldn't deal with a hoarder even if I loved him!
