Have you advised your parents regarding something and have they listened?

Hi Kala! I think I keep giving advice to my parents about their health etc. and if they ask me something. I do not force them to act upon my advice, as I feel they are more experienced and mature than me. My mother, at least do not feel frustrated, when I talk to her or advice her, she would listen to me very patiently.

I do not think that I have ever advised my parents expect some medical advice to my mom. But my daughter is advising her parents especially my while I get upset at the erratic behavior of the other drivers and pedestrians on the road.She always says 'Cool Daddy you cannot change them.Don't get excited.It is not good for your health'. And I listen to her and have changed a lot too.

That would be a hypothetical question in my case since both of my parents passed away many, many years ago. However, neither of them was the sort of person to list to anybody else. That is OK, as I did not pay much attention to their advice, either, There is a saying about not judging someone until we have walked in their shoes, and about my parents I can say that I never walked in theirs, nor, for that matter, did they ever walk in mine. They went their way, and I took the road less traveled.

My family is a family who always listen to advice from one another. We do not look at age or position in the family. If the suggestion is true, helpful and very useful would be heard. My parents also always ask for advice to his children. I am very happy with this situation,

Hi Kalav, Since i was a kid up to now we were able to establish open communication in the family. so, aside from us receiving advises and being in agreement to our parents advises...we too have the right to ventilate or speak up our minds and it's taken into consideration. Our parents listen to us and appreciate our opinions and views on anything. i am happy to say that we have harmonious relationship in the family.

Hi, First of all we must consider the fact that our parents are human beings themselves. They are no God, and thus have every right to do mistakes, like we the children often do. Children who considers their parents next to God often get frustrated in the long run. Back to your topic, I don't advise my parents, nor do I think that they advise me. We discuss things and try to reach a conclusion where everyone agrees. We have set up a democratic system within our family where we all have equal importance and right to share our opinions. As long as that opinion is based on logic, there shouldn't be any embitterment. Things may get complicated when a person tries to impose his ideas upon someone else without showing sufficient reasons. That will end up in exchanging impulsive reactions, which is unhealthy for a family. They can be adamant about something especially when it is traditional. True indeed, there is no need to abandon our traditions entirely. Changes can be brought in even within the tradition, provided the process should be backed up by strong reason. Even revolution has its own process, a peaceful and sensible process. Thanks God bless you

Yes, it is interesting. I don't have as much experience as my parents about the world. But sometimes, I have advised my parents. My father will give it some thought and sometimes accept my opinion and sometimes not (but he gives explanations when he cannot accept it). But my mother is very adamant and thinks she knows more than us because of her experience and doesn't listen ...no matter what. Having seen other couples and their parents, I think it differs in each family. I've seen some families where the parents listen to whatever the younger generation now tells them. They feel that the younger generation knows the present world better than they do and go along with it.

Yes, Kala I’ve tried to advise my parents on some occasions but unfortunately, they’ve never listened to me. I think being an only child, my parents still consider me as immature and inexperienced who doesn’t know what she is talking about or is not intelligent enough to understand the world *shrugs* I don’t know really, have never asked them coz they just shrug it off! So I think it more of a discussion that I listen to whenever they have any problem, than giving them any advise.

Hi kalav, I'm really happy that I have open-minded parents. Before giving any advice to my parents I would like to explain to them the advantages and disadvantages of doing thing which is related to. We would discuss it harmoniously so that they could understand it fully, especially about the safety and correct ways of using new and advanced appliances which they don't have much knowledge about them. I do always accept the advice given by my loving parents. the advices are mostly about health and how to take good care of my son. If I couldn't follow the advice I would like to explain to them calmly, like I stay up late is just for I have to complete the task before the deadline. Happy posting

hi kalav, i think it is reverse to everybody not to me,when my parents are advised to me to follow this and that i never follow and given a lot of trouble to them,now i am facing the same behavier from my children means only (one children is doing like that)he is not listening our advice and he is acting on his own way,once we warned him also,we have never hear our parents words in my younger age,now you are not hearing our words,in future your children also will never hear your words,parents every time wishes their children best,but we are thinking that they are imposing unwanted rules and regulations on us,what they done is that's all for our smooth life only,have a nice day

Interesting…I don’t think my parents have ever listened to anything I have to say because, according to them, they are the only ones who know how to live, everybody else doesn’t have a clue. Especially my sister and I. Your discussion did remind me of the phone call I received from Mum a couple of weeks ago. Her and Dad are holidaying in Italy at the moment and, before they left, my sister spent a long time teaching them how to use the cell phone and explained to Mum to be careful when the phone has the words ‘roaming’ on it not to use it because the calls will be expensive because it means she won’t be going through her own provider’s tower but another. Anyway I have been taking care of their bills while they’re away and lo and behold we have a very large phone bill! I reminded Mum when she called not to use the phone when it’s roaming and to this she said, “Really? “ I told her that my sister did explain it all to her and to this she retorted, “Oh, yeah…I do remember her talking about something like this, I just wasn’t listening!”

hi kalav, its sure an interesting post my friend. well in my case,many times do i have advised my parents. well because sometimes they are childish! hehe when i was younger they don't usually listen to me, well they are listening but not doing what i said or suggest. but since i finish schooling & find a job and maybe they think that i am already mature in my thinking, they do seek advise from me and im happy that they consider my advises. and now that i am already married, from time to time my parents are still asking me and consider my advises in many things in their life and i am happy about that. i can feel that they respect me even if they are my parents and that they trust me.

Hello kalav, I don't remember an incident regarding this matter. Up to this writing,i am thinking id i ever did like this. In my family,we are very close to each other. My parents and my siblings were like friends and buddies. We share ideas,have fun,and we also talk with our parents about our marital problems.(me and my siblings are all married and had kids of our own) We never hide anything from our parents,we are a bunch of best friends in our family. Maybe,i think,i do have advised my parents,but i can't remember what advised it is. Like how my siblings always asks advised from me whenever there is a problem (i am the eldest of four) Have a good day always dear

I have given my input on a few things that my parents have done. I think if they at least listen to you and consider what you say, that's good. If they do not take your exact advice, maybe it gave them another option to think about. That is most certainly a good thing and that will allow people to get thinking. I hope that at the very least, my parents have really benefited from something such as that. I think with a lot of people there is only so much you can say. Whether they are your parents or anyone else for that matter. Once an idea gets into the heads of some people, it is very hard to get it out. The only thing you can hope for is to give them your advice and hope that something gets through their minds. You never know what might happen. Perhaps they might listen or perhaps they are just humoring you. Still, everything's worth the time.

I have given many suggestions to my parents and they have followed some of them and in some others they showed me the minus points and did not follow.The same thing applies to my children .They are grown up.I ask them their opinion regarding many activities and I follow them if they are very apt .

Ya my parents do listen to me when i advice something.They are the kind of persons who are always ready to adapt according to circumstances and that is why when i or my brother put forth something which is meaningful they listen and appreciate. On the other hand my in laws are very adamant.They do not listen to us.My FIL is such a rude person that if some dish being cooked in the house without his permission he will talk endlessly and blow everything out in proportions.

There are many times in life where we do not totally agree with whatever others say and to make it a win win situation we have to voice out our opinions and this is what happens at home at my place where I always tell my parents if something is wrong and how I would like it to be, so I give advises and sometimes they take it and thank me and sometimes they refuse by saying it is not a good one.

Yes, when we become adult, we have our own opinion, not just the kids do whatever their parents advised them to do. In my opinion, my parents should have their own views of life, no matter how I am excellent in career; I am their kids after all. When they are jawing at me, I always have no objection if they are not maintaining. My hubby is a different guy that he always likes to argue once his opinion is different. I really don’t like that. I always said to him that he should be respecting their parent in this, though they are wrong, just forget it if it is not significantly violating our principles.

Yes, i have. Although it's not something big. I remember giving advice to my mom about what phone to get. I think she'd listen to me though if ever i gave an advice about life and decisions but she always had the better opinion than mine. I don't think she'll need my advice.

My mother who is now no more, always used to complain about her health specially when we came down on our holidays to spend time with her. This she did with all her children. All of us got used to this and never took it seriously and it also did not improve the situation for her vis-a-vis our love for her. One day I spent some time with her and told her how this habit of hers interfered with our love for her. She realised it and from then on stopped complaining.