to all the mothers, what do you say about it ?

India
June 14, 2010 6:12am CST
i have two little kids, elder one goed to his kindergarten and the younger one is still 7months old. my both the childrens keep me occupied for the whole day and also a little household work and this really makes me tired and i would sometimes feel like just taking a break and i just want to do something what i like and freak around with friends and speak to them and i think it would give me a change but i really dont know when can i get free. do you all mothers sometimes feel this way ? even do you want a break from all your duties and responsibilities ?
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8 responses
15 Jun 10
i feel exactly the same i have a son whos 18 months old and i love him dearly but sometimes it would be nice to have a bit of me time or time to go out with friends and have some fun. im luckily enough to have parents who help out a lot but things are so different when you have children.
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• India
16 Jun 10
that is what life is all about. we mothers dearly love our children but even we need some energy to boost and for that we need some time for ourself and this is what is lacking as all people in a family are dependent on the lady at home and not only the childrens dont you think ?
• India
15 Jun 10
Oh yes! Parenting can be demanding at times. The best way to beat the stress is to take a couple of minutes break once in a while. You could just sit quietly at a place or involve in a group activity with your children. Better still, if you can make your kindergarten child to engage your younger child. This way the bonding between the children will be much better and you would also get time to concentrate on something else. Ultimately good parenting is all about perseverance. Good luck.
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• India
16 Jun 10
i agree we really need a break and remove sometime for us in such a way that the child is happy and even we are happy too. but my younger one is really smaller and need more time to join him a kindergarten and one thing is that he is so attached to me that if he dont find me around he cries, even when he wakes up from sleep he should see me around.
@Sillychick (3276)
• United States
14 Jun 10
Yes, I think all mothers feel this way from time to time. Although sometimes it may make you feel guilty, it is natural to feel that you need a break. I would try to find someone to take the baby for a couple of hours while the older one is at school and do something by yourself. Whatever you like to do, read, shop, watch a movie, have lunch with a friend. Doing this will make you feel better and glad to return to your children. If you don't take some time for yourself once in a while, you may start to feel resentful, stressed and short of patience with your children.
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• India
14 Jun 10
really this is what happening with us and we are feeling now, but i can understand it is in one way not good and we ourself feel guilty about this kind of feeling and comments but cant help it it is the truth.
@sublime03 (2345)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
At some point we all get tired of all the hard work we do on a daily basis that we tend to lean on the option of giving ourselves a rest day from everything. I feel that nowadays but it does not necessarily mean that you are gearing away responsibilities. It is just a mere fact of giving ourselves a pat at the back by doing something for ourselves once in a while.
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• India
14 Jun 10
very true, if we have this kind of thoughts it doesnt mean that we dont like our childrens or dont want to takecare of them but we just want a freetime from the daily work.
@rastogisw (445)
• India
14 Jun 10
By reading this I thought you are telling about me as I am also mother of two kids one is 4 years and younger is 1 year old....younger one is too naughty..my whole days passes by like this by running after my kids...dont get much time for myself. Sometimes I thought that working people get off for at least one day why we did not get leave for 1 day....everyday the same schedule with kids...really I also feel when I can get the break...so when my parents come to home ,then I get little relief.
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• India
14 Jun 10
you are very true we dont get off for even a single day and it is really a hectic job staying back at home and fullfilling all the responsibilities, yes parents are really helpfull and when they are with the childrens we can take a break and even i feel this. hope and awaiting for the breaktime atleast a day in a week or a few hours.
@durgabala (1360)
• India
14 Jun 10
Even I feel the same. But actually its better than 2 years back. From the time my second one is into school. I find some time for myself. I have my MIL and mother for help though. I can't spend time all to myself but. Once I had left both my kids with my parents to visit a mountain temple with my husband. That was the first time we were away from our kids. I felt releived at first to be free for 24 hours but at the same time I missed them very much. Even though they do lot of mischeif and take out our life, without them we are a big zero.
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• India
14 Jun 10
i can understand even i had been away from my first child when he was about four months for about nine days as i had been to abroad with my husband, i was happy to go abroad but at the sametime i was just worried for the child but still i can trust my mother and so that she will lookafter him. my mother is my strength for me for most of the things.
@GemmaR (8517)
15 Jun 10
If you feel as though you need a break, you should take one! Try to find someone else to look after the kids (maybe your parents or partner) just to let you have one afternoon off a month or something, so that you can shopping to get some new clothes for yourself. It's important not to lose your personality when you have a child, as a lot of people I know who have had children lost contact with all of their friends and are now known as "Mum" and nothing else.
@indahfth (11163)
• Indonesia
15 Jun 10
Yes, I often experienced anything like you. I sometimes want to be free of all duties, and indulge myself, doing what I love. But always there is no opportunity for that. I'm always stealing time for myself when my husband and my son was not home. Although the moment, at least make me relieved.