How would know if your boyfriend is faking his 'i love you'
By ddaguno
@ddaguno (3107)
Philippines
June 15, 2010 8:14am CST
when I asked my friend how their relationship was, he frowned and said he thinks he fell out of love. I told him that it was tragic and asked him if they were having problems.
According to him, things are fine. They are not fighting, they are still sweet but everytime he says 'I love you' he doesn't really mean it. He said there is no 3rd party. He just doesn't feel in love anymore.
I had the chance to talk to his partner too and when I asked her about their relationship. She said it was great and that my friend is so sweet.
I think she has no idea of what my friend really feels and I sure won't be the one to tell her.
I hope they work things out. But their relationship made me wonder, How would you know if your partner really is in love with you and is not just being sweet so he wouldn't hurt your feelings?
7 responses
@PriscaJoanne10 (292)
• Mauritius
16 Jul 10
I personally cant say much about if its faking but as for me its real and for my husband well he is sincere but you dont know really what's in another heart and you will never be able to read in his/her eyes or thru his mind what he really feels.
Taking example of your friend the girls thinks that his bf really care about her and loves her a lot while the boy says i love you with no real feeling for her , i mean he is lost in his relationship now.
I think that he should try talk to her or try something new in the relationship , do new things together, make the relationship come to life again...
I really hope it will work for your friends, i would be so sad if this had to happen in my couple and i do wish good for them...
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Talk is cheap..including when it comes to saying "I Love You"...I'm a firm believer in SHOW ME over TELL ME...ANYONE can say I Love You and not mean it but you can't fake SHOWING someone that you love them..or not....
I have to say too shame on your friend for playing games with his girlfriend..thats just cruel IMO...not only is he lying to her and leading her on but he's wasting his time and hers by not being honest..
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
16 Jun 10
I guess sometimes you wouldn't know, especially if your relationship was stale or extremely comfortable, everything could just seem like business as usual. But otherwise I think if it started to sound too automatic or if it only came out when your partner wanted something from you those would be red flags. I feel bad for the girl in your discussion, your friend really isn't being very fair. If he doesn't love her anymore then that's fine but he should let her go and stop leading her on. He should really just end it if his heart's not in it.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
16 Jun 10
If he is not nervous and is saying those words almost effortlessly, that means he is not serious about the relationship
@kharlav (1667)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
I do believe in the saying "actions speak louder than words". If your boyfriend really loves you then it will show, you will not have to tell him to act love to you. A boyfriend that loves you will be there for you and not try to ignore and hide from you.
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
15 Jun 10
Some people are experts in faking matters of the heart. Saying i love you is not a feeling or emotion. They are just words someone wants to hear. The heart is the only truth teller when it comes to love. your hesrt will let you knowif your loved one is being real with you. You just have to listen.
