have you almost fallen in love with your best friend?
By nrab_11207
@nrab_11207 (174)
Philippines
June 17, 2010 9:17pm CST
had a chat with my old buddy from college early this morning... he was one of the closest friend i had then, maybe he was my best friend way back then... we had a lot of what ifs... what if he'd courted me? what would i have done? what if we more time? would we have had a relationship? would we have ended together? what if? what if? and he shared a lot of things which surprised me, that he planned doing but didn't anyway because he was afraid i would avoid him or get angry or get hurt...
but then it didn't change anything we are now... we are at least a world apart -- physically and emotionally;
so, although, it feels nice to have been loved before (heck, i didn't know i was), it wouldn't be much of something today, is it?
4 responses
@nrab_11207 (174)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
yes i agree with you, patnoy, maybe we are afraid to ruin the friendship if we ever will take it to another level. i think that was what stopped me and my friend before... and it took us ten years to be brave enough to discuss it.
@nrab_11207 (174)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
where were you ten years ago?(lol)
We could have used that advice then. but thanks to you, some other people should take that advice..
thank you
@malou03ph (12)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
..nice..this would be a great help to those who fall in love with their best friends...lol
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@zalmazan (40)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
before i graduated from college, i experienced falling in love with my closest guy friend. He just broke up with his gf that time and our classmates were thinking it's my fault why they broke up. I just found myself one day confessing my love for him and was really surprised to know tha he feels the same way. Bad thing about it was that the relationship only lasted for 5 months and it ended up me losing him and him losing me sa friend.
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@nrab_11207 (174)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
that's sad :(
but thank you for sharing. i hope the friendship doesn't have to go with the relationship..
and i hope someday, you'll get to talk and be the same old buddies again
@zalmazan (40)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
i'm afraid that it's not gonna happen. i lost contact with him. i just like to leave it that way. good thing is i know to myself that i've forgiven him (coz he dumped me for no good reason knowing that he considers me as his bestfriend that time).
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@nrab_11207 (174)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
what happened to me and my best buddy was that, we talked about it after ten long years. well, we really did not became "lovers", we just sort of, avoided the issue and lost contact.
ten years later, we both affirmed having confused feelings towards each other. lolz.
anyway, as for you, we'll never know, maybe you'd meet again, maybe not. only time can tell... (smiles)
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
most of my friends are girls so i've never really fallen in love with any of them. i have this guy friend last year, however, who i got close to after i broke up with my ex and he just broke up with his ex. all my friends thought he was courting me. one of the even told me just a few days ago that she was rooting for us. we always get paired up in school when we were younger, that's why they thought it would be so cute if we ever get together. just a few days ago, when me and 2 of my friends went swimming, we played truth or dare. they asked me what really happened between that guy and me. so i told them the truth, i said it just really friendship. that there were a few times that i wonder if he was serious with his sweet nothings to me, or if he was really just teasing m. i told them though that even if i thought that, there really was no spark whenever we're together, it just felt like i'm with a friend.
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@nrab_11207 (174)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
hello allamgirl :)
thank you for sharing. you see, that is almost exactly what happened to me and my friend 10 years ago. and it took us 10 years to discuss the "what if's" of that time.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
3 Jan 11
Hi nrab_11207,
Best friends can be best life partners, this is from my experience. Me and wife were best friends for many years, fell in love and finally married but the friendship still continues.
Happy Mylotting 
