i don't love him. but i still feel hurt

June 18, 2010 12:26am CST
we started our relationship after something happened the night i was drunk. he had kept chasing me for about 1year but i refused because there was still someone in my heart even if he was abroad. i knew it i clearly the one i love wouldn't come back with me again and this guy really treated me well, so i decided to be with him. i was serious and loyal to our relationship. how could i imagined a girl sent sms to me and ask where her boyfriend was? during these days, none of his friends and my friends told me he had another girl beside me. everybody knows the truth except me! he avoided giving me a exact answer to who he really wants. instead, he kept telling me he really likes me and doesn't want to break up with me but his family makes him to be with that girl because of family profit. i really don't love him i think. but why i still feel so hurt when all this happened. do you have the same feeling about this? even if you don't get into one thing ,but after you devote your heart to it and it really becomes part of your life. how i can do next? i have blocked all his connections on the internet and mobile phone. i think it will make me forget him more easier. but i just can't forget and forgive him in my mind. who can help me?
1 response
barneyjjones
@barneyjjones (63)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
It was a wrong start in the first place, you know that that thing wasn't supposed to have happened. I think that what hurts most is that your pride has been stepped on. If it were me, I would also be hurt even if I don't love him because I trusted the guy, like what you said that you devoted your heart to him and gave him a chance even if he is not really what you want in the first place. You are hurt because you have been betrayed after trusting him. It's good that you are trying to forget him now because he doesn't deserve someone as good as you, there are other people who deserves you better. However, I think it would be nice if there is a closure to the relationship so that he won't ever bother you again. Maybe talk to him if you are already feeling a bit better and have cleared your mind... but then, they say only time can heal wounds, so be patient my friend, I know you will eventually feel better.
miniheven
@miniheven (74)
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18 Jun 10
it's so great to have you here. your words really makes me feel better. i rarely log in mylot and this is the first time i feel warm in my heart these days and it is so useful to have your advice,support and understanding so my life seems become not so tough. as you said, what i need is time. i will try my best to focus my attention to other things. love is not all my life. there are so many things that need to be cherished. i can't let him ruin my future. i hope you can get your real love.
aamir007
@aamir007 (129)
• India
18 Jun 10
our heart is very innocent,it reacts according to situation. Heart is rythem of life if someone comes to break this beautiful rythem thats mean that one is not appropriate for your heart so far my dear friend dont think about him to your heart beacause it is innocent it is not thinking about profit and loss...So look forward and everywhere is happiness with real rythem :)