Do you think Indian girls would marry someone outside of their circle?

United States
June 18, 2010 3:27pm CST
Here is the question I would like ask Indian people for long time. I just wondering would Indian girls marry someone who is outside of their circle? Someone who has total different religion and custom than they have? Would that bonding be possible?
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
18 Jun 10
I sure hope so. I'd hate to think the hours I spend on IndianBrides.com was wasted.
@zralte (4178)
• India
19 Jun 10
My mother-in-law wanted my brother-in-law to spend some time there.
@pooja30 (203)
• India
18 Jun 10
I think it depends on the type of family she was brought up in. Most cultures here prefer that the girls marry into the same circle, so that the transition into the new family is made a little easier, and so that the values that she's grown up with are practised even when she's an adult. Also, it's less of a culture shock when the two families practise more or less the same traditions and celebrate the same holidays. There are some families who are very strict about enforcing this "endogenous" marriage system, and their reasons for being this way are very solid and have strong rational arguments. However, I personally grew up in a family where it is my personal choice to marry into a family that I like. I grew up with the values of my circle, but I have the freedom and flexibility to marry someone outside my circle, if that's what I choose. I've been warned that this might be problematic for me later on, because I might not know the traditions that the other family follows, but socialisation can happen at any stage in life, so. I have a lot of friends who've grown up with the same principles as I have, and at the same time, there are girls I know who can be attracted to anybody they want, but when the time comes for them to get married, they have resigned themselves to the fact that the boy that their parents choose for them is the boy they're supposed to marry. At the end of the day, it is possible for people from different religions to bond and get married and live as a perfectly happy family, but the decision lies almost entirely in the way that they were brought up, and in the way that they choose to handle their parents' decisions. I hope this was slightly helpful. :)
• India
18 Jun 10
I agree. I would say that it depends on how the families are. If they are open minded, then no matter how different the cultures are they would still be able to get along with each other. If you have a mind block and are rooted in your own culture and shut out everything else then obviously there's gonna be a clash of interests. Personally I wouldn't go for an inter caste marriage. My ex-bf was a Hindu while I'm catholic and he comes from a very orthodox family and me a liberal one. I definitely know that I would never have been able to adjust to his culture cause I love my freedom and hate to be told what to do!! I would prefer to marry into a Catholic family now, after my bitter experience. But would mind a non-catholic as long as he and his family are broad minded.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
19 Jun 10
You can ask this question to any of the country girls? Are they all getting married to different nation guys and only Indian girls are marrying Indian guys alone? If there is love, any citizen can marry any other citizen. Hey! Are you in love with an Indian girl and you think that this nationality will be a barrier?
@funorb12 (456)
• United States
18 Jun 10
I have a Indian girl friend, as in a friend that's a girl. She is attracted to about any guy, but if you are not similar in religion, I wouldn't make my move. All I see her date and go out with are of the Muslim or Hindu or anything of that sort of religion. I am sorry but I think you need to let this one go. If you got nothing to lose, go ask her out on a mild activity like going to a chinless store or something like that. Not the movies! If she is comfortable, try asking her out on more intimate activities. Don't go too fast! If you like this, why not make this the best answer? funorb12
@zralte (4178)
• India
19 Jun 10
Saying 'Indian Girls' covers a very wide ground and different cultures. North India and South India is completely different, not just that, each state is different. North-East India has got completely different culture compared to the mainland India; and even in North-East India, each state has got their own culture. You cannot just say 'Indian Girls' and believe them all to be same. As far as marrying outside one's circle goes, you can ask that to any one in the world, not just Indian girls. It is difficult for any two different cultures and custom. Relationship is hard enough without different cultures thrown into the mix. I am an Indian girl and I married a British. My friend, who is a Christian married a Hindu guy, who has got totally different customs and cultures.
@criveraa (62)
• Mexico
18 Jun 10
yea you gotta ask her , and tell her a about you fillings mayve it will work