Dowry system in india

Hi Ramesh ! Dowry really is a bitter thing in India. Its upto the new generation to stop this. Brides should refuse to give and Grooms should be unwilling to receive. But of course, the families can help out each other financially, but not by demanding dowry. I hope its not long before this custom is wiped out. Lets make sure we have a part in it.

I am actually in a serious relationship with an Indian guy and though they are Catholics, I am still worried that as a girl I will have to provide Dowry to his family once we decide to proceed with our weddings plans. He actually explained to me before that a Dowry consists of golds, cars, lands and many more but he also assured me that he will not require me a Dowry. He told me that I should not worry about it at all. In my own view, Dowry is not really a practical thing. It's like you're getting married because of the money and not because of love. But who am I to judge, it is a part of Indian culture and I don't have a right to insult their beliefs. I'm just glad that I don't have to give Dowry just to get married.

It is such a shame that money has to take the place of love sometimes…We don’t have such a custom in our country and it is hard to fathom why fathers don’t just refuse to give their daughter’s hand in marriage for a sum of money or not to accept a well intended proposal because the dowry is not adequate. I respect others’ traditions and cultures but I do find this quite sad…

Dowry system should be eliminated in India. Imaging now if it wasn't an engagement and the boy liked the girl at first site then it's the other way around. He has to spend a lot and has to prove his love for her then only girl can accept him knowing who he is. I still can't believe that dowry system is there in India. And another fact is that most girls are also aren't asked if they like the bridegroom or not. Marriage is also done by the bride's father. Then what is the bridegroom for? I hate such systems and dowry is indeed still one of the greatest sins in the marriage system.

it has been a tradition. there's nothing to change. problem arises when the bride to be has higher educational attainment and that would raises the dowry and make it more difficult to the groom. but then i think they could talk about that over and both parties could have a negotiation

Well, i cannot judge India about the dowry system that they have coz that is there cultute,who am i to judge them i am not in their shoes.It is just depend to what culture you are in and it is always case to case basis. For me, in my point of view well nothing is wrong or right coz it is just my opinion but i still want to share it with you all. To me personally i do not like or i am not infavor of dowry coz its kinda sounds that what really matters is money when you talk about marriage.It sad to say but it it is true.

hi rameshchow ah yes I have heard the dowry system has caused a lot of problems in India and thats so sad as a marriage should be a happy time, and not marred by fighting and anger over as sum of money like that. I have read that in the early days even here in the US some people still used a dowry system. But it was overwith I guess in later years. You have some wonderful customs in your country its a shame the dowry system is still being used. I admire how your families stick together and help your young people.

It is difficult for us in the U.S. to judge the dowry system. I can't imagine a system where choosing my spouse would have been in the hands of my mother. Of course, she might have said differently.

It has become a problem in our country as well and i wish there could be a better way