Envy Of being Successful

Philippines
June 22, 2010 12:05am CST
Do you have a friend who has a deep secret of envious towards you? I have a friend who is good to me, we use to hang out together sharing secrets. But things change, when I got a nice job, have own business and lots of new friends around me. She is nowhere to find, everytime I call her to join me and hangout with her she will decline my offer. But in times she has a big problem I'm always there for her to support her, when she needs a money I am there to help her and even to find a job for her. I don't know what makes her different nowadays, as on my side I haven't change my treatment towards her as a friend. Now I have heard a lot of bad things about me coming from her, she makes a story that isn't true. Even with my bf, she used ti flirt with him when I was not on the scene. Until, my boyfriend breaks up with me and guess what who the new girl is???? My dear old friend. do you have any experience like this to your friend?
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7 responses
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Your title is very suitable for what you have experienced. Your friend have developed an insecurity to you during the years that you were together. It could be that she had undergone a lot of not so nice things in her life before. When she saw you, I think that she saw the self that she wants to be in you and she secretly aimed to get what you have. It feels sad to have a friend like that but it is the reality. We just have to move on and get a life.. :)
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• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Yes, most people should get a life and try to strive it as they can. but i realized too it's not that easy, most specially if the person you were close to are even more successful now that ever before. i believe she got really insecure on those moments that she even took away his friends BF and took him as her own. like what i have been saying, friends come and go. let's live it at that.
@cassisto (63)
22 Jun 10
i could only say that you should forget them both ur ex. and your friend for both of them are not worth ur respect and love..though it is not easy nd in case in the future if your friend realizes her mistake you should forgive her..moreover before forming any opinion be sure that there is no misunderstanding or rumors that have resulted in it
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
all i can comment is, you are better of alone without the two of them. for you exboyfriend to leave you for your friend isn't worth keeping. just be glad that you are somehow detached from people who wont do you good. be glad too that you have more friends and a better life at work. ;-) let them be envious, the stress is not on you. ;-) also, don't mind the rumors going around about you. if you don't matter, people won't talk about you. but you do, that's why. happy day to you
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
I haven't had anybody like that in my life, I don't know why you even call her your friend after what happened. But on the other hand, maybe she has her reasons, and hopefully one of these days, you two can talk about it..
• China
22 Jun 10
Hello krischine, wow, such a story really strikes at the heart of the friendships. well, i can't to you but i can relate to your friend. but the difference between her and me is that i never bad mouth any of them. it was they who bad mouth me, most specially during my time as a student.i just stayed away from them after graduation and moved on. i have this good friend of mine, after a year being in Dubai he finally went home and start his own auto ware store. there was a supposed to be reunion but i didn't attend, probably i was too shy to answer their questions. you have to understand that they couldn't help it, they just couldn't help it. all you do is pray that things will go better on their own way. besides, let her be, she needs to choose a path for herself, with your presence, because that's what would i do. but never i would bad mouth her, probably she just got too jealous.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
22 Jun 10
All I can say is welcome to the world honey. Believe it or not this experience is going to help you to make some very sound decisions in your life. I always enjoy telling this story: When I was in first grade I met this wonderful girl from a wonderful family. They were my second family. By ninth grade she has spread so many nasty rumors about me I no longer called her my best friend and completely stopped associating with her. She thought she had stopped being my best friend by her choice. She came up to me at the public pool one day and said, "My mom thinks you and I should be friends again". The words just miraculously came to me! "But, I always thought we were friends". The look on her face was priceless. I moved on. Sometimes it takes some people longer to grow up. Head up, shoulders back, smile at the world, get continuing education and leave them in the dust. Rock on!
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Hello krischine, wow, such a story really strikes at the heart of the friendships. well, i can't to you but i can relate to your friend. but the difference between her and me is that i never bad mouth any of them. it was they who bad mouth me, most specially during my time as a student.i just stayed away from them after graduation and moved on. i have this good friend of mine, after a year being in Dubai he finally went home and start his own auto ware store. there was a supposed to be reunion but i didn't attend, probably i was too shy to answer their questions. you have to understand that they couldn't help it, they just couldn't help it. all you do is pray that things will go better on their own way. besides, let her be, she needs to choose a path for herself, with your presence, because that's what would i do. but never i would bad mouth her, probably she just got too jealous.