ladies listen to this.....men before are more gentleman then now, do you agree?
By butterline33
@butterline33 (184)
Philippines
June 22, 2010 9:47pm CST
it was just last night, when i went home from my work at around 11 oclock in the evening, i was so tired from the night shift. my house is far from the city, i need to ride a bus for 45 mins, and the schedule of the bus was every hour, so i need to catch up for the 11 o clock bus or else i will wait for the 12 midnight schedule. i ran immediately to the bus, but it was already full of passenger, so i just stand at the middle and it was so tight, i was holding my big bag and it was so heavy,. beside me was a boy at around 24-27 of age, he was sited texting. he looked at me, and i thought he will offer his sit since he will just go down just a couple of kilometers. but he didint. so i just stand there holding at the pole, and when the brakes were applied... boom i was swing to the other side of the bus because of the force the brake was applied... i saw the boy again, he was just staring at me with nothing to say or offer....grrrrr...after 15 mins he stop the bus and went down , and the worst is that another guy at almost same age with the other guy who went down immediately sat on the occupied sit, he just looked at me...i was shocked really...i ended up standing for 45 mins,being thrown when the brakes were applied....my night was so stress and unbelievable....are all men really now a days are all like that?have you experienced ladies?
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16 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I am not surprised. in my everyday commute to and from work whenever my boyfriend can't pick me up - i always experience men pretending to be asleep so they do not give up their seats to the ladies in front of them... some are more vulgar that they practically don't mind seeing ladies and even pregnant and old women standing in front of them. I know its just alright for me to stand up and besides first come first served but then how can some guys take notice and pretend not to be affected by seeing a pregnant woman standing. geesh, this happened to me and i practically had to give up my own seat for the woman! Her husband was soo thankful to me seeing that and even said his wife is really having a difficulty. Hayy men nowadays really don't care much anymore. It seems like all values and respect for the ladies have gone down the drain....
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@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
oh.. thats very nice of you, giving up a seat, how i wish all men are like that, even though yor a lady, you did it.. I hope all men who was riding on that vehicle saw it because it was a big slap on their faces......you go girl!!!
@drumgurl21 (58)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
im so sorry to hear about what happened to you last night. sigh i know what you mean when youre off work and just tired , taking public transportation is just hell these days. THere are still some gentleman out there , but they are a dying breed..i guess we just have to accept that .:(
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@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Hi, Butterline.:-)
I believe it the way how these kids are raised. Some kids doen't even know how to be polite anymore.
Here in my country, where people are a little conservative in cultures and practices, it isn't hard to encounter a gentleman. Both young and old still observe this kind of manner. I'd say, I'm not scared riding an overcrowded bus because I'm pretty sure a gentleman would offer his seat to me.
Well, there are some possibilities to not being offered a seat. It could be he is with a jealous girlfriend or just too old to give you comfort while he is silently suffering from his rheumatism.lol
Of course, there are exceptions, too. Some guys aren't really that nice anymore. There are always non gentleman wherever we go....
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Jun 10
There doesn't seem to be as many gentlemen out there. In the past, men knew how to be gentlemen and trat women. Now it is so much different. Manners have just flown out of the window. I am sure there are still a few good men out there. All we have to do is find them.
@juicekodai (1121)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
i guess not all men.. but there still rare cases, those men who would try to impress the ladies still offers seats.. hahaha
yeah, ive noticed that too.. men, specially in the bus, acts like they dont see anything.. even if they know that the lady is uncomfortable..
not everybody though, like what ive said..
i experienced one time in the bus, i was off from work, i was tired and the bus is full, a man offered me his seat... i thanked him and sat down.. probably he is already near his destination or he really just have a good heart...
i remember in grade school, we were thought that men are supposed to offer seats to ladies specially in that kids of situation... growing old, i realized it rarely happen in the real world..
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@monaquezada (85)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Yes! I agree! The best example here in the Philippines is the MRT. There is a separate car for the ladies, old and those who have kids (where I normally ride) but there was one time that I was really on a hurry so I get in the car where men and women shares. I stood in front of a guy who was around 23-26 years of age, I looked at him hoping that he's gonna offer me a sit but to my dismay he just closed his eyes (maybe to save him from being forced to offer his sit for the ladies around him)and beside him is a man who far older than him who offered me a sit since I'm carrying my laptop which is too heavy.. Thanks to that gentleman! Boooo for that young man.
@TexLadyPj (1328)
• United States
23 Jun 10
Herro butterline33
I understand that the younger males of today's age were not taught the same manners that the males of my age group were taught. I do have an advantage when riding the bus. I'm older and disabled. Normally someone gives me a seat.
Prosperous mylotting
@hvedra (1619)
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23 Jun 10
I think people in general, not just men, are less well-mannered and considerate. Everyone seems to think they are entitled and no-one else is.
Some years ago when my sister was heavily pregnant another woman gave up a seat on the bus for her even though there were some teenaged boys sat on their rears. My sister asked if one of them could let the lady sit down and they were "we paid our fare why should we?" - actually they had only paid HALF fare and my sister pointed this out and what did they do? SULKED like a bunch of toddlers because they had been called out on their bad manners.
The thing is it isn't always youngsters - you can get the middle aged being just as self-absorbed and obnoxious - and not always males.
@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
gee, thanks for sharing your side.. yeah your right some people care or considers an individuals condition even if its handicap individual...
@kaylachan (57596)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
24 Jun 10
Some people just don't have any respect regardless of their gender. The chance the same would happen if a woman was close by is just about the same that it was a man. Often women have to speak up to be heard, and men listen only when it pleases them. I wouldn't take the behavior personally though. Some men are like that.
@dolphin0106 (34)
•
23 Jun 10
Oh I so agree with you, especially the young generations. Seems to me only the oldies are polite gentlemen these days hehe. All young lads care about these days is partying, drinking, smoking(not ciggies), they don't even hold doors for you anymore. I think they need to be taught a lesson!
@gunsirit (90)
• Malaysia
23 Jun 10
If I were the boy, I would have given you the seat. :) I think, it really depend on which type of person you are involved in. We do recognize that there are two types of people that we tend encounter every day - the good and the bad, and perhaps the third type, the person who belong in between. You happened to have met the first type, how unlucky of you.
I do agree that men of yesteryear were more gentlemen than today. If you sit back watch the movies back then, there were very few violence and most were romance. I think it has to do with the environment that we are in nowadays, especially the type of upbringing a person had.
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@mavhequijada (110)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Hi butterline33, I always encounter the same situation. Every weekend, I visit my aunt in Cavite, 2-3 hours of bus ride, and I always notice men who keep on their seats seeing ladies standing in front of them. Here in Manila, I encounter such situation when riding on MRT train. Yes, men today are less gentle than men before.
@mrscallands22 (2852)
• United States
23 Jun 10
Coming from a 22 yr old woman's perspective:
Not all men are like that. But, sadly, the male generation that is coming up today is not stranger to seeing women being disrespected, degraded and belittled every single day in the media. Even little boys lack the respect that was carried from many eras of the past. But, I cannot say tha about a lot of other males, also. Because I have run across plenty of gentlemen, respectable men whom know how to treat a lady. If I had a son, I would definitely raise him into a strong, loving, God-fearing man. It shocks and saddens me so to see women as mothers let their sons dog other women and ignore it just because it's their offspring. That is very wrong. In most cases, these women are being dogged by other men and feel that that is the way of life when they need very rude awakenings lol. I will say this and leave it at one of my grandmother's favorite sayings. She always said...
"Back in the day we got the man and not the ring, today you all get the ring and don't get the man..."
And it's CRAZY!!!
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@Krisaea (114)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Sorry to hear your experienced. How ungentlemen they are!
Thier upbringing is far different now. They just care about themselves and respect to women is not seen anymore. Or perhaps they just forget their culture. Young generation now adays are terrible to deal with.
@dreamkeeper (455)
• United States
23 Jun 10
In my own point of views i sure do agreethat men before are gentlemen than men nowadays. I will site some examples like in the train or in the bus men they will usually get the sets especially the younger men coz they are more active and quick.So they will always get the set but when there are some old people they will not give thier set to them some men pretending to be asleep. Anotherexample is that at the mall or grocery store younger men or in general men do not open the door for older people. It is totally different nowadays.
