will you keep in touch with ur bf/gf after u dumping him/her

June 22, 2010 11:51pm CST
Last night i missed my ex bf so much~but I was afraid to call him,cause i hurt him so much and dumped him.Now he is in another city . I don't know when I will meet him, or never .I deleted his phone number and photos in my pc. How silly I am.What i could do ?forget him and never contact with him ?
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6 responses
• China
23 Jun 10
I never keep in touch with my ex girl friend after we break up . Because she lie to me before . So I do not want to contact with her . But if you still love him ,I think you can call him ,tell him your feeling . Wish you all the best .
24 Jun 10
yes ,one month ago ,I did miss him so I called him ,i felt everything had changed ,he had no patience on me and said he couldn't stand me anymore I felt so sad and nearly cried my heart out. But I still couldn't forget him I feel i am a loser to some extent~Hah~so later I’d better not contact with him~
• China
24 Jun 10
What a pity !
25 Jun 10
that's ok ~now I am not that sad~time could help heal any pain ,ths ur respons~good luck~
• United States
23 Jun 10
Of course I would! But it doesn't always work that way. Even I had a close.female friend about 6 years ago. Because I confessed her & I could not be more than friends she hates me to this day! I know my decision hurled her because she was indeed my best & closest friend yet my decision for my own life caused her much pain! (sigh) if only she would speak wit me & understand I m of a different culture & accept our differences as she did before in friendship! Now my actions have made her my enemy! Yet I only meant to maintain our friendship.
23 Jun 10
maybe u still love her and couldn't let her go ~but have you thought that could make her unhappy ?love one is give her happiness if you can't ,give her free~
• Portugal
13 Jul 10
but safir sure you hurt her bcs you said you love her and you said you cant be more than friends with her :( so why dont you try to talk with her? it doesnt matter if you have a different culture than her what matters is your feelings for her and her feelings for you thats all that matters^^ try to talk with her and say sorry for what happened and try to be with her^^ you have nothing to lose^^
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Please don't misunderstood me with my answer. This is just my opinion on the matter. I think, keeping in touch with an ex is not proper just after the break up. Although, that depends on the reason for break up or how much deep is your relationship with the person. Based on my experience, I never wanted to get in touch with my exes because the pain is fresh and of course we both needed to move on with our lives. However, I had this more than 5 years relationship and he is already my fiancee then, and broke up with him last February. I know it is not proper for me to get in touch with him just after breaking his heart and his dreams for me, but I just can't help not to talk to him because I wanted us to remain friends or even best friends. He became part of my family already and I felt guilty for hurting him, but I don't want to be unfair to him too. I have a new bf now and risked to have a new relationship and breaking the 5 years relationship. It is of course a stupid decision on my part, but it seems that we are like that when we are so in love. Well, until now, I am still talking with my ex fiancee and he has not moved on. I know am too selfish that's why when he wanted not to talk to me, I don't persist talking to him. He is and was so nice that I still can't let him go.
23 Jun 10
oh it's a little complicated ,and what is the relationship with u and ex? sometimes love is selfish ,but i don't think what u do is right ,let him go ~and now i know i won't keep in touch with my ex bf~ let all bygone be bygone.and hope u happy with ur bf but not the ex one~
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Well since you deleted anything that connects to him then might as well pray that he calls you back so you can patch things up.
23 Jun 10
After seeing these friends advice ,maybe i know what i should do. The beautifu past had gone and never come back .Maybe he is not my mr right .let time heal all my pains~
@juicekodai (1121)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
it happened to me before... after the break up, i was still trying to communicate because i missed him... somehow, he was cold... probably because i hurt him... there was a feeling of wanting him back.. but it just seems imposible as he even barely reply... and besides we had long distance relationship since i have moved to another place.. maybe it still woudnt work... i let it be... i gave both of us time to heal.. i never contacted him again and i changed my number... i didnt even know that he came to the city to visit her relatives... i guess, you can still try to communicate with him..if he is still bitter of what happened, give each other time to heal... BTW, welcome to mylot!
23 Jun 10
yes,let time tell,maybe what i should do is forgeting him~
• Portugal
13 Jul 10
ohh you deleted his number? how can you contact him? no dont forget him. if you miss him is bcs you still love him so dont let go. if you said he was so hurt is bcs he loves you so why give up? if you dont remember his number just ask one of your friends his number if they have it or talk with one of his friends guys and ask them his number for sure they have it. dont give up of him^^ you both love each other so^^ you just saw you made a mistake by breaking up^^ so im sure he will accept you back sooner or later. sure that now he is hurt but if you show him you are sorry and that you really love him for sure he accepts you back^^
16 Jul 10
oh my dear friends, everything has changed,we can't go back neither those good old day. But recenty we keep touch with each other through internet, or chat online ,but I never ask his new no. he also didn't tell me. this is good for us. Maybe I have moved on~ thank you so much for your response. happy mylotter~