Man and Women
By udaymohan
@udaymohan (437)
India
June 23, 2010 5:26am CST
Just a few days back I had written how peace of a happy family could be destroyed by a nasty disclousures which happened much before the marriage.
I have received number of messages on this and almost all my friends felt that the incident pertained to my personal life. I was advised to be more careful etc.
I have not been able to reply to my friends individually. However, I must inform mylotters that such thing never happened in my family. I am happily married since last 36 years and both of us heavily depend on each other.
I have seen such incidents taking place in other families and that prompted me to write on this topic.
I wish all married people for living very healthy conjugal life.
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2 responses
@udaymohan (437)
• India
24 Jun 10
It would. I am sure. It needs your full hearted effort and forget all egos. I never mean to surrender yourself to evil desire but never nurse a grudge.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 10
hi udaymohan yes I do agree that nasty disclosures should not be opened up that happened long before someone's marriage. HOw did people work that around to think you were talking about yourself? I never got that
idea. I thought you had a very happy marriage and a great life from
what you said in other discussions. Something like what you were talking about happened in my own family and I was searching for information on my family tree and found more than I really wanted to know,I was shocked but
all the people involved are now deceased so the revelations did go into my genealogy files as it explained several things that had caused bad feeling between my parents. In this case I think that lying about these things was worse than making an open confession and going on from there.
The not knowing for sure and guessing made it worse, and I think my mother would have been happier had this all been told to her. It did shoe
that my own father had a lot of hidden faults and that he was definitely
a hypocrite. sad but true.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
24 Jun 10
Dear Hatley,
Do not feel distress whatever happened in the past. You do not the situation which your parents were facing. However, I fully agree with you that your father should not have done that. However, we do not have any right to comment on that. When we do not know the full story, we should not comment on that.
However, I do not know whether you are married or not. But I am pretty sure that if married, you would keep you spouse and children happy as God desires.
We should always remember that one day all of us have to go to God. He sent us with specific purposes and we should try to find out those purposes and try to fulfill them so that we can go to God with our head raise without any black spot on us.
I wish you a very happy future and pleasant days ahead.
