Relation between husband and wife?
By udaymohan
@udaymohan (437)
India
June 23, 2010 5:46am CST
I have noticed that a number of relations between husbands and wives are breaking up for some silly reasons. It has started taking place in my Country India also.
Why such thing happens? Whether relation between husband and wife is limited to physical relation only? If that is true whether 'live-in' tradition, started all over the World, is a healthy sign when a boy and girl friends start to live together without marriag?
Obviously, there is something more than the physical relation between husband and wife. All Religions of the World advocate marriage and not a single Religion preaches 'live-in' life.
A married couple in gradual course of time starts depending on each other so much so that in old age, they fully depend on their spouse only. It is the trust, confidence on each other. You might laugh that even today, after 36 years of my marriage, I heavily depend on my wife for everything including my under-garments.
This trust brings happiness and feelings of protection to their children. This becomes a tradition in the family and even children, after their marriage, start loving and confiding on their spouse. This leads to happy conjugal life which we all require to fulfill the Wishes of God.
God wants His creation Earth to have happy families and happy offsprings to further enhance the beauty of God's creations.
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8 responses
@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I think the main reason why marriages doesn't work for some because both parties doesn't like to work it out. they easily give up the marriage when trials and problems came up. They prefer to fight over the problems than taking time to sit down and talk about it to patch up and resolve the issue. In every relationship it takes two to tango that is why it is important to have an open communication.
Great to hear that you and your wife is doing well with your relationship. 
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@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
8 Jul 10
well some relations break when there is no love anymore. im happy that you and your wife are happy like always but it happens. we cant control our feelings and the truth is you can love someone so much one day but it can change. we never know if someone is forever till we really feel it you know. so sometimes marriages end bcs there is no sparkle there is no care anymore
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@babshish (1387)
• India
24 Jun 10
Hi Udaymohan, married relationship is not limited to physical relations and those who thinks that way are totally wrong in my view. This relationship has much more than any other relationship, Its kind of starting of a new tree of relationship. When you marry someone you not only make a new relation with your better half but also with his/her famiily. And again you move forward with these relationships.
For better married life, it is very much important to understand each other feelings and should give respect to each other. The most important and basic reason of issues with these relationship is EGO and nothing else. Once we overcome this EGO problem it will be the best relationship ever. Sometimes you have to sacrifice your things to make your better half happy, it might seems difficult at present but will be very fruitful in the long run. The better we understand each other the better will be for us in long run.
It is easy to break a relationship or make a new one, but difficult is to maintain it. So we need to think in that terms.
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@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
The best relationship to a husband and wife, each of them must know their responsibilities and duties in the family..each of them have trust each other and must know their rules as a couples..the needs of each other sakes and for their children..God must be the center of their relationship..
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@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
the beauty of life is that god never created anyone alone, somewhere someone is waiting for the puzzle to be one and to tie the happiness that is bound to be shared.. im a newly wed,me and my partner are enjoying life together. we love this kind of relationship we have right now,a friend,a lover and a partner..we know someday we'll experience tough times but as the song goes "i rather have bad times with you than good times with someone else" because this problem makes us stronger together and appreciate life and everything in it more..
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
23 Feb 13
I agree with you that a number of relations between husbands and wives are breaking up for some silly reasons . Now all husband & wives are well-qualified or good family background . So they have no adjustments. So this is easy way to get divorce .
. Now all husband & wives are well-qualified or good family background . So they have no adjustments. So this is easy way to get divorce .
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Jun 10
hi udaymohan I think why a lot of couples break up is that they are seeking something they cannot have, a perfect mate. we are human beings, not saints, and none of us are perfect. So look for a person whom you love and like, and love unconditionally like Christ taught us. accept your mate warts and all. AS long as you both have a well founded Christian background the little flaws of each can be accepted for love
is much more than small flaws. Love conquers all those picky things.You
must be best friends and stand by each other through all those wonderful words of the marriage vows, in sickness and in health. So many
people in my country the US bail out when one or the other comes down with
a serious illness.This is not unconditional love that was taught us by Jesus Christ.To love unconditionally is to accept each other as is, not polished but real people with all their flaws showing. that is real love.
