To say something or not
By me
@dfollin (27267)
United States
June 25, 2010 1:22am CST
Today,I said something to my grown son about his daughter being exposed to something(that was not life threatening) at someone elses home.I was told by my grandaughters mother.She did not say not to say anything to him.But,I felt that I had to because the last time she was exposed to this my son said it was in my home and that I could not see my granddaughter again till I moved.
And as most of you know I cannot afford to do that. Not only would I be taking a chance of not seeing my grandaughter again,I was taking a chance of loosing our home.It is not the best home,but it is a place for us to sleep for now.Now my grandaughters mother is mad at me because my son called up up and yelled at her and used some inapropiate language blaming her for exposing their daughter to this minor situation.She did not do it intensiionally.
What do you think I should have done?
And as most of you know I cannot afford to do that. Not only would I be taking a chance of not seeing my grandaughter again,I was taking a chance of loosing our home.It is not the best home,but it is a place for us to sleep for now.Now my grandaughters mother is mad at me because my son called up up and yelled at her and used some inapropiate language blaming her for exposing their daughter to this minor situation.She did not do it intensiionally.
What do you think I should have done?4 people like this
6 responses
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
25 Jun 10
we often have to do what we think is best. i might have talked to your grand daughter mom about it. that what should have been done each time.
but the father need to know what's going on either way. if its something small and not life threatening then he should handle claimly if possible.
but yeah both parnets need to be inform in what the child is seeing or being around for her safety. the child is the main concern for sure
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
26 Jun 10
It was not life threatening,but it happened before and his ex was always saying that it was my fault.That she was exposed here at my house and now I find out that she wasn't and told my son because he would not let me see her because he thought she was exposed here.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Jun 10
I'm sure u meant well but if u figure out your son u will be doing better than i am. Sometimes i wonder if i know either one of mine.
@sunita64 (6468)
• India
25 Jun 10
Nowadays, it has become difficult to give even good advise, so I prefer to keep my advise to myself unless and until asked for. Well it is really sad that those who care for their people are misunderstood but that is the way. So better be at peace with oneself and let God take care of others.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
26 Jun 10
I was not giving advise.I told someone(the second person) something that they had the right to know.Because it had happened previously and the first person had caused me to be blamed for it and it was causing the second person to be mad at me and causing me other problems.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jun 10
dfollin If it was not life threatening I think its best to let it
go then there will not be anything for anyone to get them up in'
a huff.If you had just bypassed it then the granddaughter's mother
would not have anything to be upset about. whatever it was that his'daughter was exposed to, it w as probably not all that bad
anyway.so many times families seem to have some members out to
get othe members just on anything. So a tiny mole hill becomes
a mountain and guilt flies around like crazy,resulting in most
of the family getting 
angry at each other.
angry at each other.1 person likes this
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
29 Jun 10
Not quite sure I understand. Are your son and the child's mother together or separated? If they're together, they need to agree on what acceptable situations are and respect each other's wishes. If they aren't, well same thing, except that they don't have to agree on the major things, only the minor ones. But either way, as long as the child wasn't in danger, I think I would have stayed out of it.
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@cream97 (29085)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Hi. dfollin. You are going to have to eventually forgive her. I know that it is very hard to, but you are going to have to do this. You may have to speak to the other grandmother and tell her how you did not like being treated so rudely. It is not your fault of what is going on. I hope that this situation will get much better very soon. Take care.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Ok,I did end up forgiving her,but now she has started another lie.And I cannot talk to the other grandmother,she is worse then the mother of my granddaughter.She does not live around here and does not like me,because she does not like my son.Her and her daughter aren't even speaking anymore.
