life is not fair...and it never was!

Hi, If you show kindness without expectations, your efforts will be appreciated for sure. If you don't show kindness its up to you. Being kind is not mandatory. If you feel happy not being kind to others, I would say that is the right path for you. But if you don't feel comfortable with being unkind to people, then you should reconsider your decision. Now, if you are sincere about helping others and don't expect anything in return, then no one can hurt you. We often say that we didn't expect something from somebody, or, someone did something to us even after getting such a great favor from us. This necessarily means that we actually helped them with some ulterior motifs. We should get rid of these expectations and be TRULY sincere in being kind. That is, we have to help unconditionally. Thanks. God bless you

just be yourself.. I mean If you are going to help somebody do not overdo it... You will not be abused if you wont let them. Help only but still let them do all the work.. do not work for them, because you are only teaching them to be dependent on you. In this world, you can never please everyone, so expect bad comments from other people if they don't get to abuse you or to benefit from you. Don't mind them, they should be helping themselves in the first place, in this cruel world no one can help us but ourselves... Love yourself and you will see the benefit of it.

so life is not fair but we can damned well try to be fair to ourselves and others.being nasty hurts you yourself more even than the one you were nasty to. So I do not give a fig if someone abuses me when I have b een kind to them, as I can still look at myself in the mirror and not feel like I am an awful person.the nice thing to do is to think we are all good people and treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. whjen I stand before the judgment seat it is only my own actions I must be accountable for not the others who may have abused me.two wrongs will never equate to right.

I must say that i tend to agree with you.In the past i have done my upmost to try to help a friend and all they done was treat me like dirt and also made me feel at one stage aswell as now as worthless.I try to do all that i can to help anyone that needs help if i am able to but some people just take the mick and end up treating you bad.

I am also in that situation now. we are similar indeed. I think we deserve to have a break. There are really things in life that we have to deal with. The only way to make this out of our lives is to be strong. It is beyond our control. Maybe, you should continue what you think is right.

The right think to do is what we believe to be right, without worrying about what others will think. Helping people can't be a despecable act. If you think so, there isn't why to worry about what others will think.

The only thing you CAN do is treat others the way you want to be treated, and hope for the best in return.

Not all the time, you will be abused if you show kindness. You just have to be true whith what you are showing to other people, show who you really are. If you want to show kindness, just go on, if that is who you really are but whatever the result you should not regret. So it is better to always do the right thing. It's up to you anyways if you will let that person abuse you.

every coins has two sides. similarly life has 2 side good and bad.if there is no bad only good things are there so might be geting boored........:) Both are importent . If you wanns live cool.....forget bad thing.....and enjoy cool life......itz totaly totaly depends on person.