Inferiority
@totallyundecided (3190)
Philippines
June 29, 2010 8:51am CST
Dictionary says it means: of small or little insignificance; of lower rank or quality; dull; not large enough to consider or notice
The thing is... I've been told many times how inferior I am of myself. One can notice when I am being apologetic of my mistakes. And then they suddenly bite my head off by saying how inferior I am.
There are times that I feel hurt because I am only human. One will always have limits. One will always be better than the other one but it doesn't mean they have to step our dignity in a way that we may feel more sorry of ourselves.
I don't know how to handle my inferiority sometimes but whenever times that I can't carry it anymore when someone makes a better out of me - I just walk away or try not to be in an argumentative position.
I know each of us has our inferiors in ourselves. I just don't know how to hide mine or somehow defeat it.
How about you my dear friends. How do you handle your inferiority? How do you succeed from it?
And if by chance you also have friends who has their own inferiors. How can you encourage them? Thanks. All your advices will be of great help.
=)
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@incus99 (1083)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
I don't really believe that there is any person in this world that can put you down.. If you think you will succeed, you will.. you can never lose until you say that you'll lose.. some lines from Desiderata poem that may inspire you .." If you compare yourself with others , you may be come vain or bitter for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself"... good luck ! 
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@rsa101 (40987)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
That is rather difficult to answer as well. But I think all of us have inferiority complex and even those with superiority complex is actually an inferiority hiding behind their inferiorities in life. Well I guess we just have to be our best in ourselves. Treating ourselves better than putting ourselves down will make it more prominent. So I guess realize this that everyone has it and it is in the way people handle this that make others superior and inferior. So one thing is do not allow your inferiority from taking control of your life. Start by being postive about yourself and learn to love yourself may be a good starting point in defeating your inferiority complex. Inferiority is a product of you seeing yourself down and acting on it like accepting it like it is you. But in reality, if you do not entertain it, it will not stick on you and others will see that in you.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Hi, RSA. Thank you for the response.
One of the reasons why I like Ryan so much of PBB because of how secure he is of himself. And the positivity he gives to his comrades - made an impact on me. Let's admit it that he's not handsome like the others but he outshined most of his fellow housemates. He didn't show any inferiority at all. =)
I will always keep in mind and in my heart about what you siad here. Acutally, I am writing one of your advices for me to be reminded of whenever I feel bad about myself.
Thank you, RSA. Looking forward to seeing you more in here. =) Cheers!
@rsa101 (40987)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Your welcome in here and I am glad that somehow I touch someones life in here. I also like Ryan in PBB because there are many things in him that he could feel inferior with like he is not good looking and he may not look intelligent as well to us viewers and may look dumb to be frank but he took advantage of those by making other people happy and entertained and I think that is more important about ourselves. Never look down on ourselves but rather appreciate what you have in you and take that as an opportunity to showcase yourself instead of hiding them.
@ellie333 (21016)
•
29 Jun 10
Hi Totally, Well both responses so far have been greatand don'treally know how much more than that I can add. Just start thinking more positively about things and try notto let others effect. Concentrate on what you know you are good at and not on things you aren't and start believing in yourself more as a person as there is no way as dictionary definition puts 'that you are lower rank' we are all special but in different ways. I am an outgoing person but deep down quite self concious when out in public but I hide it so well that noone would really know that except those close to me and the more I go out like this each time I feel less self concious so to repeat something over and over sometimes helps overcome too. For example if you don't like the dark try sleeping with a lower wattagebulb and keep loweringuntil eventually it is near dark and you begin to feel comfortable with it, hope that makes sense. Huggles. Ellie :D
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Thanks, Ellie. This has been a wonderful today for me.
I am very grateful of all of your advices and will always remember them each day I live.
Maybe one of these days, I'll try to wear the inferiority in me in a good way. Hoping somehow it will mold be to become better.
Thank you so much. =)
*Hugs*
@savypat (20216)
• United States
29 Jun 10
Feeling of inferiority are a great gift. These are the feelings that inspire you to improve, to learn and mature. Many great people will say they felt very inferior, but that very feeling kept them working toward their goals. After all if you were satisfied you would never reach to improve. Also always remember that others cannot make you into something, you have to accept that you are what they say you are. Don't do that, in your heart of hearts you know you are a good person, an honest person, and a person that is worthwhile. Just set your goals and go for it. Consider all your choices and choose what is best for you.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Savy, you have come to my comfort again. How can I ever live without? =)
I knew it. You have always been an angel and I am not only a witness to it but as well as your family, your friends and us here in My Lot.
You have no idea how you always made me feel. And will forever be grateful to you.
Thank you for always making me sane. LOL.
God bless you and your very kind heart. When I am over with this struggles of mine, please consider me as one of your success in life. And for always been a good influence in me.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Most of the time that I do something inferior I get the blame for it. People appear to forget that I'm only human that make mistakes. They often judge the book by its cover. I do not have any visible scratch or wound over my body but I am not always feeling well and no one notices it. I'm rather rendered weaker everytime that I hear people say how dumb I was. They just add fuel to my crisis let alone not understand my situation. To be inferior is something that can't be avoided that easy but as I have noticed, it shapes up life in various interesting ways.
@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Spoken from a real cowboy. =) I hope someday, we can all get over with our inferiorities.
But we shall always remain good even if others are not. As long as we have love in our hearts, we will come victorious and will never be able to feel bad of ourselves.
God bless you, Cowboy. Thank you for your kind words. :D
@raviteja_ravi84 (2619)
• India
30 Jun 10
The first step would be to see how many inferior qualities one person has. Me and my friends used to play a game every week. One guy from us would sit in a circle and the rest others would blame him or curse him for something bad or mention some inferior quality in them. He would just have to accept all with a smile and then proceed to hear the next guy say out. For me it would be like "You are fat!". Then within a week that person has to make some positive change withing himself regarding that quality mentioned to him. That way each one would get better in a week and then others would judge another person. That was a good game and everyone had some or the other quality improved in him.
After admitting one could just see a few solutions to make oneself feel better but one shouldn't compromise. If one likes a quality in himself and even if it inferior he shouldn't change that because that's what makes one so special.
