Working mom or full time mom?
By niairen01
@niairen01 (1018)
Philippines
June 30, 2010 4:15pm CST
Before I really think of myself as a full time mom. Just taking care of the kids, housekeeping, loving wife, cooking and everything else in between. Though I'm great at school I never thought about helping out on earning money, well, it's a man's job. When I got married, I figured out that life wasn't that easy. I need to help out. Though my husband didn't approve of it cause he wanted me to just take care of our son. (who very active and naughty. ^.^ ) My friends always told me that, I am not meant for house chores and it will be just a waste due to my degree and what I have achieved and I think so too. Yes, of course my family comes first.. but I still, I can't help thinking... In this kind of reality when life isn't easy.. Working mom or a full time mom? what do you think?
4 responses
@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
hi there niairen01, i can relate to that, im married right now and i got a son who is very active and naughty as well, i love my family especially my son. i tried to be a full time mother for 2 months i filed a leave in my work, i just stayed home and take care of my son, at first it was fine, but as days goes by i find it hard to stay home, coz when i was single i dont usually stay at home, i go to work 6 days a week and now im not used to staying home and nothing to do, so what i did i hired a nanny to my baby and go to work together with my husband, my profession will be put to waste if i dont work, im doing my very best to balance my time with my family and work... girls and boys are equal we also have the right to work... remember 2 heads is better than one, your earnings are doubled if the two of you work, its just a time management on our part...
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
yes, it's funny in a way that you of all people sometimes wishes to just go to work instead of taking care of you child. lolz. Don't get me wrong, I love my son so much, he is my life. but sometimes you tell yourself "what am I doing here? if only I could go to work I could give him so much more." Anyways, that's nice to hear that you could already go to work butterline33, as for me... I have issues with nannies, I don't trust them. (or maybe I'm just so paranoid) what I did before was I also have nanny for my son but I make it sure I never leave them alone in the house, I usually leave them at my moms house or my in laws house, in that way I could have peace of mind at work.
My situation is working just fine for me. mom by the day and working during the night inside my own house. ^.^ and look I still have time to visit myLot! lolz. Thank goodness oDesk and freelancer sites are around. and you're right, it's just how we handle time. ( I do wish to have longer sleeping time though.. ^.^)
@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
hi there, yeah your right its hard to trust your child to any one else, lucky for me i got a very responsible nanny, and my mom is also there to supervise, thats a good thing knowing that even if your a full time mom you still tries to get some income by just logging to networks...good luck on your being a full time mom...
@annavi23 (6633)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
you know,it's really hard to combine being a mother same as working mom.yeah,i am still not a mother but i am taking care of my niece who is always hyperactive and most of the time i do household chores.it's really hard being a mother,i know.i really want to have a job but i can't because of my niece.her mother usually went home for like one day due to fully loaded work.i am currently having online stuffs like mylot.though i haven't tried odesk and freelancer.do you think it's really good site?can you tell me what it's like?
well,as for you,you have work as programmer right? and i think it's really hard for you to be sleepy always.same as my sister,she also always sleepy when it comes to her daughter.not enough rest would also feel you weak and can't support your own child.
better have work when you can have little time but your income is like full time also.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
wah. I read my comment and my english is wierd.. sorry. i'm really sleepy already... -.- zzz...
@aquariand (464)
•
30 Jun 10
You could do both and work part time which will give you the time to help out earning money and the time to be a mum too
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
I'm doing it right now. full time mom during the day and in the night I'm doing online jobs (I'm a programmer) and other stuff that could earn me much more. it's really hard. My son would look at me every morning when he wakes up and tell me, "mom are you still sleepy? " which is very sweet. but I think you can do it if you're really up to it right? thanks for the responds. ^.^
@astreadido (608)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
I depends on your family's financial capacity and needs. You're even lucky to have the luxury of choosing to work or not to work. Some people doesn't have that. Either they have no choice but to work or they don't have the necessary education to work. In your case, if your husband can adequately support your growing family, i think being a full time mom would do your family best. At least until your kids are old enough to be left behind by themselves or with a maid. Or you can also try online jobs on your free time, that way you'll earn while taking care of your family. You can always explore career or business options until then.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
you're right, it's really good that I am still blessed no matter the situation is, being able to still work if I choose to, whether at home or not. Education really plays a major role now matter how you look at it. ^.^ thanks for the response!
