Does friends changes with time

India
July 1, 2010 3:37am CST
when i was in school i had many friends and all were so close to me and when i went to college i thought that i'll never get such friends again but as time passed my college friends became so close to me and in the same way my school friends became far. I dont know but now my school friends have changed or i have changed, i am not able to understand. Now i dont feel so happy with them as i feel now with my college friends. or may be its due to time. Does friends really change with time? does this situation came with you also, if yes then why
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18 responses
@med889 (5941)
1 Jul 10
I have some friend who were very good to me in school and now they have changed, some hardly recognize you after leaving the school, some are too arrogant and some talks, and then after leaving college it is the same, and even after leaving University it is the same also, so I would say true friends are those who is with you no matter what are the consequences.
• India
1 Jul 10
yup i too think its hard to get true friends .. i have only one of my school friend who is still very close to me.. we dont talk daily. we will have a chat once in a month but in that much time only we share alot. and i think best friends doesnt mean to talk and chat daily. a best friend is one with whom we can share everything without any hesitation. and i feel very lucky that i have such a friend.
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
I didn't experience people sticking to me to the very end. so, i don't think i can say true friends exist, they just come and go.but one thing you all should remember, you can get along but NEVER reveal secrets.
• Iran
2 Jul 10
if u reveal secret it won't be a secret anymore:D:D
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
17 Jul 10
Well true most of them changes, but there are other factors which makes the change, like their family, job and busy life.
• India
17 Jul 10
yes, I know friends have more busy lifes than before but friends are friends. Atleast once in a time if we meet then we have to be nice na
@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
1 Jul 10
It is due to many things it is not only that our life changes but people change also.Just imagine the talks at college-studying,friends,exams,parties and stuff of the kind and probably your life is much different nowadays so you don't have common topics with the people you used to communicate just because of the different jobs and lifestyles.
• India
1 Jul 10
ya its true but some school friends are still with me in college and i dont share the same comfort level may be its due to ego. if ego comes in between then friendship never stays i think
@meirhu (363)
• Israel
2 Jul 10
Yes - friends change with time. So do lovers. So does your body. So do YOU. Learn to live in the here and now. *Kisses*
@boboypete (209)
• Manila, Philippines
3 Jul 10
My high-school and college friends are still connected with me currently. We chat whenever we are online and exchanging emails respectively. We could not let time to pass by without getting in touch from each other... we love to update ourselves and even find time to meet and spend it outside. As we get old, we change our ways of course the way we do treating oneself, we got our families nowadays so most of our time our thinking is common and that is "family comes first"... We should anticipate that they are there to listen to us as we need their advices due to problems we have encountered although time changed but most frequently do not forget them and stay the same as who and what you are no matter what the bad and good times pass by. Love them and pray for them and I'm sure they would really do the same back to you.
• Ethiopia
5 Jul 10
Yes through time and through your life experience you may change or your friends may change,i also feel i changed a little bit while i joined University and my campus Friends are so close to me than my school friends
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
1 Jul 10
We all change. Hopefully we grow and improve:) We might have wonderful friends in school and be so close with them it seems we will never grow apart or diverge in anything, but in reality they will be changing, we will be changing and one day we will notice that things are completely different. Sure there are friendships that last forever, and we should treasure those, but they last because both people grew in the same direction, not that both people stayed the same .
@jyksnow (45)
• China
2 Jul 10
To me,different time have different friends.I think different age have different idea.So, we will have diffent friends.Time is passed,and many many things will change.Friendship will change, relation among friends will change,all will be change.This is a nomoral phenomenon.So,I will be happy with my friend.
@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
1 Jul 10
Yep, friends change . . . we change. Sometimes we just grow apart . . . which is what has happened with me and a lot of my friends. I find that people are brought together by a common factor - like school or work or hobbies - but once the common factor is not there - like graduating to another school or finding another job - there are less things in common to talk about or share. So people branch off into their own directions and go on with their lives. That seems to be when the friendship is tested . . . you know your friendship was meant to be if you remain friends.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Jul 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think friends do not change with the time. A friend indeed is a friend in need. Nothing can change the friendship between friends. The friendship will last forever. No matter how old are you, how poor are you, your friendship between you and your friends never chenge. Just value your friendship in your life!
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
Indeed, Friends change with the time. Its so sad that sometimes the people who you thought are your friends for life .. will NOT turn out to be friends at all. And those whom you never expect friendship to form will be the ones you will have for life.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
1 Jul 10
My school friends all went away, thanks to mom. But since leaving her nasty, back stabbing domain I've found there are a lot of people out there who just want what you've got. Oddly enough there is a woman who, although nice is the same way and doesn't realize it. She wants to achieve it but never has the assets to follow through.
@nherison (74)
2 Jul 10
true friends are always there if you have loads of money then if you dont have they are all gone.
• China
2 Jul 10
Yes ,of course .Nobody can always keeping himselfes no changes. when you first make someone to be freinds ,however , after a few years ,the more you know to him ,the more different compare to that man you firet encuontering of your fedling.that`s true ,and you don`t feel any difficult and any uncomfortable you konw ,actually ,he is him ,but you changers.
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Friends come and go. Yes, indeed they do change in time, you get to have new friends as time goes by and some people change too because of their situation. if you become successful some would actually be envious of you that they will stab you in the back or accuse of things you didn't do. that's why i don't spent too much time with them. let them be if they decided to depart with you
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
yes, definitely. as we grow older, we meet different kinds of people and learn new things. we my change priorities and so does our feelings towards other people, specially if we re no longer spending more time together.
@iamster (123)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
As the saying goes, "the only constant thing in this world is change" whether for the good or not. If they were really your friends they may change but they won't ignore or forget you. But if it happens maybe they were not your friends at all. Maybe they were just acquaintances or colleagues. True Friends accepts you even in the worst mood you'll ever have.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
1 Jul 10
Friends change thru time because of responsibity a - Friends change in size and appearance thru the ravages of working place and lifestyles.
Yes my friends change alot , some facial and body structure does not change, but some change alot from skinny to fat and more youthful looks into haggad middle age face ecspecially those in high managerial posts.HAha.Meanwhile college friends still single and become playboy change girlfriends quartery,Some nerdy continues to study in master phd and such.