Did you experience harsh, unfair treatment from a friend?
July 1, 2010 10:58am CST
Just because you do not want to do what he/she wants to happen you were treated unfairly. Harsh words are spoken, counting all the good thing she/he has done for you. It really hurts and is so aggravating. I don't like that type of treatment? did you experience it? I do.. I just nurse myself for the hurts I had. What about you? what did you do?
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3 Jul 10
Was she/he your friend? If yes, then she/he is not a good friend. Refrain from seeing or going this kind of people especially if she/he was doing it to you several times already. He/She is a kind of friend that's selfish and self-centered one. Do not do unto others what you do not do unto them. If you agree with this, I think this people you mentioned is not worthy of your friendship... Good luck my friend...
2 Jul 10
Hi Bebs, I know what you are talking about their are just people that they always liked to be pleased and if you can't please then you become the bad guy or gal and it really hurts more having to experience this to someone who is close to you and someone you don't expect such treatment from. I too had experience this I just pray for them for enlightenment and thankful knowing how they really are.
2 Jul 10
I experienced being slandered by a friend I thought was a good one. It was a nightmare and would not want to recall the days I suffered emotionally. If only I could pull her hair till she gets bald then I'd do but God would not be please to see me doing that. Anyway, I just have to suffer silently for I know God has ways of punishing this person. She is indeed punished in God's own way and now the people who used to believe her have known her true color. Nowadays, I've been so choosy with friends. Those who overacts and seem very sweet are those who might just stab you later. So be careful!
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5 Jul 10
I agree with you 100 percent my friend. Those who are so sweet and kind are the ones so mean. They want all the favors in exchange of the nice things they've done to us. Ridiculous kind of friend. I am choosy too at this time to have a close friend. I don't want people to do it to me anymore.
1 Jul 10
there lie many situations where one can tell harsh words to you some times the words may be harsh but not their intentions its like they want to do good to you so they behave harshly look for instance if your teacher behaves harshly on you to make you study its for your own good its the thing that you have to understand what the other one wants to tell you if the other one really meant to hurt you, you can just ignore them as they are not of much value to you
1 Jul 10
yea,its like what you give is what you get back sometimes differently, anyway we have to adjust accordingly not by throwing back harsh words as they might have done, being calm is one thing that i posses, so far i have seen anger brings nothing but remorse and regreets of our doings. my idea of being hurt is that i forget them and never look back again.
1 Jul 10
You described it very well. I know this kind of treatments, it hurts a lot when you care about it. What do I do, I wait until the friend calms and forgets it, but if the friend continues to insist, and I don't find a way to explain and to defend myself, I give up and do what does he/she want... Maybe this is not the right way, but one of the sides have to step back... When all is said and done, we're friends, there would not be the relationship between good friends if someone didn't step back his desires for accomplishing the desires of the other. It's called love actually. Good luck.
1 Jul 10
I did experience back stabbing(not literally). It hurt for a while, then I realized it was good that they showed their true colors.
13 Aug 10
Hi, So far, I never experience any harsh treatment from my friend before.SO I totally can't explain how will be my feeling if i do happen to me. I believe I will be very sad and I will talk to my friend straightly to get the matter solved. I like to be treat fair and if I do things wrong, I prefer my friend to come and tell me straightly,rather than back-stab me from behind.
9 Jul 10
it was all in a chatroom but i really took this serious :( i really loved this guy :( and still im hurt with what he did :( me and a guy we were best friends i did all for him always showing i cared and everything and one day he just started to walk away and find more friends and like forgot about me. one day a girl that was being his good friend now said to me he loved me and i said i dont believe in that and she said is true and he said ohh why you tell everything? it was a secret.and he said he loved me. and i said no he doesnt love me he loves you to the girl and he said i love you to the girl. so then they said it all was a joke. he knew i really loved him and even let the girl do that. i said i hate him he said dont be on hating me. then he left saying love you all bcs i guess he didnt mean to hurt me that much. anyway the girl said to dont be angry with him that was her fault and that. and then i didnt talk with him for some days and he came to talk with me and asked if im mad and i said what he did and he said was all her that did that and that he was sorry for being bad to me and that nothing never changed that we were still best friends and all. but the truth is when he saw that girl he like forgot i was there you know. and then one day that girl the one that made the joke humiliated me and said that im a liar and that i talked with her bf and said she likes someone else and i never did that and my friend he said he doesnt know in what to believe. i was very sad and hurt with this bcs the girl left after humiliate me and he went after her :( i even had to ask my friend to go near me and support me bcs the things that girl was saying. can you believe that she even was saying i love you do you love me to my friend just for me to read him saying he loves her and for me to be hurt :( why that girl was so mean to me? i never did nothing to her why she acted like that? :( she even acted like my friend before and did that? :( i just feel so sad that my friend after all i did for him ignored me like that :( still now im very sad with that :(