TWO REASONS: NOT SATISFIED and UNLOVED
By elleb0418
@elleb0418 (1107)
Philippines
July 1, 2010 11:49am CST
For me this is a continuation to some of my discussions topic here.I post it today because the hot topics this day is all about separations because of cheating again. I did put that two reasons as the topic title.My topics goes this way.
The two main reasons in cheating is for GUYS,they cheat because they are not satisfied with their partner while for GIRLS,they cheat because they feel unloved.Do you agree with this? Will this reasons is valid for you to cheat on your partner?Share you thoughts here.Thanks!
7 responses
@yresh12 (3210)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
hey elle!!
You forgot that men cheat for the sake of having fun and they see it as a great conquests. Yes there are some things that men doesn't see with their partners that's why they cheat. If they are not satisfied that should not be the best way to do. honesty and trust to their partners say what they need to say to make the relationship work and prevent cheating
The problem with some women they see the relationship as one sided that's why they think that they are the one loving more and feel that they are taken for granted. I think that they should not think of that way so that it won't give them a chance of cheating.
As for some it's really true that they are really taken for granted.. why cheat when you can just easily let them go and move on to the next one. Easy to say but hard to do. ^^
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
Yes that's true,men cheat for them to call a real man or it just add to their handsome looks,that they can get as many girls as they can.There are many who are taken for granted and they ended that way,cheating their partners because they are seeking for the love that was not given to them.
@rosie230 (1700)
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1 Jul 10
Yes I totally agree... I am a victim of being cheated on by my boyfriend, and it is not the nicest feeling in the world... I wondered what I did wrong, if I was not good enough.
I am also guilty of cheating too. A long time ago, I was in a relationship, which I classed as a part-time relationship, because I could only see this person for a few hours a week, and he would not commit into a proper relationship with me. We broke up after 10 years together, it lasted so long because I put up with his ways, because I was in love and too frightened to hurt by letting him go, Eventually I stopped loving him, because I knew we was not going anywhere. It was very sad and a great waste, especially as we had a son together, but I was not for him, as he still could not commit even after having a son to take care of.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Hello Rosie,
Maybe most of us had an experience of being cheated.I am used to it already hearing all those stories being cheated and left,being hurt and exchange with someone,because I am also a victim.
But did you know that your story really touches me,In terms of love I also gave my all that sometimes nothing is left with my self.I always thought that,it's the proper way to show how much you love the person,but sooner I realized that it's wrong,because sometimes all you do is not appreciated and still you will be left alone crying.
@rosie230 (1700)
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1 Jul 10
It is very true. I actually look back on my life. I am 30 now, and I met my first love at the age of 17. In the 10 years that I gave him, he could not commit at all, when our son was born I thought that he would change, and that he would live with us, because he would want to be with his son, but I was wrong, it made no difference what so ever.
I thought rather stupidly, that you fall in love, someone falls in love with you, and eventually you move in together and then all the rest. This was how I thought it was supposed to be. I guess that is pretty niaeve to think this. I never asked him for marriage, I just wanted him to live with us, to be there for his son and for me. Now I look back and realise that I wasted 10 years of my life with someone who just messed me up, hurt me and my son, and let us down.
@kenneth101383 (908)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Cheating should not associated directly to men. That is the misconception usually takes place from a womans point of view to a man. Isn't that unfair for all man that truly are dedicated of loving a woman. However man like me cannot undo that reputation.
Based on your questions, I think that a man cheats because he was not given much attention from a woman. Also, too much attention can lead to cheating. The important aspect of every relationship is to be aware that there should be limitations so that their will have an instance of the preservation from one self. And maybe, that man is not satisfy of what the woman gives.Constant communication is essential for a relationship. And in order not to be cheated, the relationship will go on from the process of "GIVE AND TAKE".
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
My topic is not all about for men only,it's for both.I put that topic here so that I can get all the views of the mylotters.Yes you said it right relationship should be gave and take and communication must be always there.But there sometimes an instances that only the one are doing it,the other one is blind and deaf.So due to that situations cheating starts there,one searching for someone who will understand and listen to what she/he feels.
@edwardjoy2000 (2386)
• United Arab Emirates
2 Jul 10
Yes you are right. But i know a girl who cheated bcos she was not satisfied not bcos she was unloved, but she admired a person who was more successful than her husband. And i know a few guys cheated not bcos they are not satisfied with their partners but they wanted something different. they wanted to have a physical relation ouside marriage.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
I must say that I a a perfect person,I am not because I do have some wrong decisions in my life also.I have my own flaws which sometime to the point I realized I made a wrong decisions.But sometimes in our life our worst enemy is our heart.Heart overcomes the mind to the point that we cannot identify anymore the right over wrong.
In a relationship we will arrived to the point that there is a test,only us if we can handle it or not.But also sometimes it's a case to case basis also.Whatever the reason behind it,but we must realized that if we can fix it we should but if we cannot,the two of you will decide what is the best.
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
12 Jul 10
i agree with what you say about why boys and girls cheat but i dont think people must cheat bcs they feel that way. if we are with someone and feel unhappy the best is end the relation. why be with someone that doesnt make us happy? having a bf or gf is to feel loved and happy not to feel unhappy or unloved. so i think if people dont want that relation anymore they must just end it and find someone that can love them really^^ why being stuck with someone that is not the right one?^^
@mcabiles (44)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
My gf just left me. Yes we fight a lot, mostly because I'm kinda jealous. But in the past we work it out. She left me for another man, a co worker. We had a fight, she felt bad, the guy came in while she's feeling lonely and then she just told me she needs space. Although I know that's not the real reason. The worst thing is we already have 2 kids. Maybe she felt unloved during those moments that's why she fell for that guy, but she knows in her heart that I do love her very much. I'm not such a bad guy like an addict or someone who beats her up, nothing like that. Her decision to leave me, for me was wrong. She believed the guy, even if she doesn't know him that much compared to me. My point is at the end of the day, all of us has our own mind. We know what is right and what is wrong. If she really love me and our kids, she should have stayed and worked it out with me. I'm just hoping I can get over this soon.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
Pity quarrels in a relationship is often present.Jealousy is a green eyed monster,one reason why relationship broke.Why you are always jealous?you don't have trust to your gf? You said that you love here very much,did you know that sometimes too much love can push away the people you love? Because sometimes you did not know that you already hold her tight and she cannot breath anymore and cannot decide what to do in her life.That's why often times there is cool off and asking a space.
She exchange you with another man,you have two kids.I cant say if she made the right decision,but I hope she thinks it million times before she decided to left you and your kids.
@dweebs_8000_j (881)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
that is the main reason for both men and women, they are either, un-Satisfied of Un-Loved... that really holds all time true, fairly and squarely....
but at the End, People are generally Good, they make mistakes, and the most thing, They should always be given the benefit of the Doubt....
My best Regards...
God Bless and More Power,,,
