How Can I Keep A Man?
By hotpress
@hotpress (205)
United States
November 16, 2006 9:54pm CST
It's one thing to have a man, but what must I do to keep one? I tell you, it seems like men are just so unforgiving when a woman says one little thing that upsets them. Why are men so unforgiving, and can any of them ever be faithful? What can I do besides holding up a sign saying "Will get buckwild for food?" Give me your best responses...please!!!
16 responses
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Just be youself. Be happy with youself first.
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Man only respect girls who are hard on them, they like "rich b..ch" characters...sorry guys...that my experience...
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@canadabis1 (1953)
• Canada
19 Nov 06
Sounds like you just need to find someone so layed back...and the way I figure it should b...is...I dont cheat on my wife...and she dont cheat on me.
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
19 Nov 06
I agree that you should just be yourself. A man should love you just the way you are and not try to change you. Not all men are like that. It can seem like that sometimes but not everyone is unforgiving. I know I have forgiven my friends for things that they have said or done. You just haven't found the right man for you and he will come along. Yes, men can be faithful.
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@forfein (2507)
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19 Nov 06
Hi
From a mans point of view....
1. You look very nice, so it is not your looks that frighten them off.
2. How can you keep a man? Be your self and you will find the right man!
3. Can any of us be faithful.... 90% NO!!
Girls are like when you go into a restaraunt with your friend, he has steak and you have fish, and then when he gets the steak you wish you had that instead!!
Sorry for being blunt, but most of us are like that!!
I'm just lucky, I have met the best lady in the world for me! No need to be unfaithful!
@achyuta (2851)
• United States
17 Nov 06
Be submissive. Listen to your man. If women is submissive, Men will automatically be sensitive to her. HE will feel wanted. YOu will not lose him. DOnt get enamoured by these feminist movements. Being submissive is not being a slave. It is simply accepting a position so that things go on smoothly. From a physiological perspective men cannot be submissive, and it does not work if one is not submisisve to other in a relationship. So, good luck and listen to this advice. It is for your benefit.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
17 Nov 06
not all men are the same....not all men want submissive women to tend to their every need...and yes some men can be faithful. I love to wait on my hubby at meal time and stuff like that but when it comes to things that need to be bought for the house or a big purchase it is brought up in discussion he doesn't just go out and do it. As far as things not working if one is not submissive in a relationship I would have to disagree with this...Just because you are not submissive does NOT mean you are in a feminist movement. Be who you are don't change for anyone and the right guy will show up sooner or later.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
17 Nov 06
rock on wild cherry rock on....I've been married 7 and half years and am not submissive in our home...lol tried it once but he didn't like it...lol I am who I am love me or hate me...he teases me sometimes and I'll ask ya want me to change...he hugs me tight and says no....
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Thank you so very much for this advice, but in what way should I be submissive, can you give me some examples? In what way have you been submissive that has been helpful to you? I would think that a man may try to boss me around and control me if I am too submissive or submissive in the wrong way. Help!!
@lectricky (680)
• United States
17 Nov 06
lol, gotta love those double standards. I'm no expert in terms of keeping a man, but it seems to be reliant on communication. Which most men aren't the best at.
And also compromise. There are some things I'm just not willing to give up for the sake of a relationship, such as my friends, my personality, etc. Is that so weird?
I've had experience with that unforgiving trait. It seems like men can have a hard time letting go of things that were either a miscommunication, or something that isn't even a big deal (like wanting to go for a brief stroll by oneself). That is a total mystery to me. Can any guys shed some light on these things? I definitely don't want to be a slapper for the rest of my youth, but I see I'm not the only one getting a little jaded with relationships.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Thank you for taking the time to write to my post. I also truly needed to know that someone else is going through the exact same thing that I am with men. I am currently struggling with the unforgiveness issue with one man. We have been communicating with this one guy and he just suddenly stoped talking to me. When I asked where did he go out of town he got mad and said he is a grown man and doesn't have to explain himself. He also got mad since he was studying for exams, but he didn't tell me that he had exams. I was just so worried about him, and he won't talk to me anymore. It's not like I killed somebody!!
@ChewySpree (1832)
• United States
17 Nov 06
Just be yourself. If you act natural and enjoy being yourself and he breaks up with you, it wasn't right to begin with. If you pretend to be something you're not, you'll be miserable in the long run.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Thank you so very much for this great advice, but the thing is, I have been being myself. I am a very small framed woman and feel that most black men just want a voluptuous woman with curves like those in the music videos. I don't want plastic surgery and go out of my way to make them happy.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Yes, this is someone I really want to be with. Can you give me advice on how to move past not having this man to forgive me? He just won't communicate with me, and I have been trying not to let it bother me, but it does because he is such a good catch.
@ishqvishq (1021)
• India
17 Nov 06
FAITHFULNESS OR A MAN WHO LIKE YOU THATS NOT IMPORTANT YOU LIKE HIM
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Thank you, I do like this man, and I have made an effort (after a two week break) to try and talk to him again. He claimed that I was too much too soon since I started asking him where did he go and for what reason after he went on a trip for about 3 weeks without telling me first. I was worried sick, and he just couldn't understand this. He said we should just cool it, but I still want to be with him. Should I call him, email him or what? It has been two weeks since we last talked.
@axxepsonavane (318)
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17 Nov 06
IT IS NOT WHAT U THINK.....
BUT THE KIND OF GUYES U MET TILL DATE........
LIVE N LET LIVE N THE GUY WILL BE URS 4EVER
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Thank you so very much for taking the time to write me, but I feel that I have been dating decent guys. They are the type that my parents would even like too. They just have not been faithful or they just stop calling. One guy stopped calling, saw me two weeks later, and never even acknowledged how much he has hurt me by cutting me off this way.
@hotpress (205)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Yes, I am the kind of woman any man wants to keep. I have a degree, a great job, morals, believe in God, and I treat others with a great deal of respect. It would be nice to find a man who is honest, faithful, and forgiving. I think some people just want to see how much I am willing to take, but I can only take so much.
@PIITZY (749)
• Romania
6 Feb 07
thats a question with no answer:)just kiding hmm well if you want to keep him you have to never ask him questions let him go where ever he wants make him food do everything he wants thats what theyd wish of course:)but you have to try to b eyourself and if he doesnt apreciate that well he doesnt diserve you realy..............
@acosjo (1903)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
You need to find the right person. Once you do, you will be able to tackle any obstacle in your way. The right person will listen, be forgiving, not get too upset etc. Why, because they love you and they are meant to be with you.
When you are looking for the right one, you have to find these things out during the course of the relationship. Ask, can we co-exist? Do we share the same views on kids, running a house etc. Also, don't forget if you are attracted, get along, make each other laugh, can't forget about the fun stuff.
After all is said and done, you'll know. You'll just know.
