What can you do to rekindle your marriage..

United States
July 2, 2010 10:39pm CST
My wedding anniversary is coming up 7-7-2010. I've been married for 3 years and it seems like we're not in love anymore. There is the silent treatment and nothing going on in the bedroom..lol. Do I stay and try to make it work or do i let go and try to find happiness again?
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• Malaysia
3 Jul 10
Hi, Have you tried communicating with your spouse about the problem you are both having? If you have and it isn't working, don't give up yet because your marriage is still new and there are a lot of things which you still need to discover from your partner. According to survey during the first five years of marriage a lot of couples will find a lot of problems because they are actually in the adjustment period. I had a lot of problems during my first five years of marriage too, but as time goes by we learned to discover each other and things get better from day to day. The key to a relationship is enough communication and toleration. If both is used to the maximum both of you will be able to resolve your problem. Whatever it is, I wish you good luck. Don't give up yet. Seek a counselor if that will help you.
• United States
3 Jul 10
Thanks..Our communication has dropped off drastically..I just want to be happy again. One of the things that i think is hindering our marriage is past hurt..Not letting go of the past and when you do that every little thing brings back the things that you haven't got past..I've tried talking to her about letting go of the past but it still plays a part in our disagreements...Thanks for the advice and hopefully we can get things back to the way they were when we first got together
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
3 Jul 10
Is there an underlying problem that you're having or has the relationship just become stale and boring? If there are no problems then it's possible to rekindle the spark that brought the two of you together in the first place. My husband and I "date" every once in a while. We go someplace special and turn the cell phones off...or we go away for the weekend. Spending time together doing things that you enjoy is relaxing and gives you the opportunity to have fun like you used to.
• United States
3 Jul 10
Yeah..that's another thing we don't date or go out anymore. Things are just stale right now..Hopefully we can try dating again or try something romantic..Thanks and i will see how things go for our anniversary