in love wit bestfriend...Wait or JUST IGNORE those silly feelings?
@MademoiselleEma (165)
Malaysia
July 3, 2010 12:20am CST
i have a bestfriend. i know him almost a year. he was very good, very understanding and he was part of my happiness. at the beginning of our friendship, i just broken up with my ex-boyfriend. i was suprised, i was eager to continue live happy with my new bestfriend. i know he has a girlfriend. and i really like to see his smart, tall and beautiful girlfriend. (sometimes i m so shy to be with his bestfriend because our height just like the highest building in the world and my house in the village. but that's not the question. but YES...sometimes those things made me shy just because the big difference height of him and me...the height!)..and now, our friendship is almost a year. many time he said "No need to worry,u'll not be lonely anymore" , "wait for me, just wait" , "i'll marry you, someday", he probably just made jokes, but only two of us know the truth of his words. Everytime i told him i want that friendship over, he angry. sometimes i feel angry and jealous of his girlfriend but i can't do anything. i want to ask your great-great-greatly opinion to give me some advice in such circumstances..should i just wait for him (like what he said) or ignore this silly feelings? How long of time do i have to wait for his love and how long should i feel sick of ignoring him? i would die with this situation..
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@MrDollars (454)
• Australia
12 Aug 10
Hello MademoiselleEma,
First, I have have to say that the feelings that you are feeling are not silly. It is something that you are feeling and I personally believe that no, you should not ignore these feelings or you could make yourself sick and depressed. ALWAYS share your feelings if you can for it can help. Better to try than keep it all in and wonder your whole life.
Next, ( of course this is up to you ) but I reckon you should tell your best friend about how you feel. I know how you feel but it is pretty selfish to wait for their relationship to "fall apart". I think you should tell him how you have been feeling and try to go out and meet new guys. Otherwise if your best friend does not like you that way then you are going to be very depressed and thinking that he is the ONLY guy for you but trust me, there are plenty more out there.
Look, no matter what you decide to do, I wish you the very best. Love can be tough so again, it is your decision but try to be mature about this and think about what is really right for you and him. All the best!
$-MrDollars-$
@KaiPrincess (57)
• United States
3 Jul 10
Listen if you care for someone just let them know... but don't let it get in the way of supporting yourself. The comment above me has a point but not everyone is that way... we need emotional support for men and woman depending on own gender. It's the way of life... if you like him let him know and see what happens from there. I wish you luck and I hope that you end up with someone who makes you happy!
@consultrainer (4992)
• India
4 Jul 10
thanks a million for the support./
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I liked your words.. "it is the way of life" .. you seem to be a Princess.
@MademoiselleEma (165)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 10
Firsyly, thanks for the respond..i've told him that i really love him before and he never objected. he also showed the same reaction when i said like that. yet, we're only friends. do you mean, my act do do such things was true? so, i should wait for him?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 Jul 10
First your feelings aren't silly. I wish I could tell you wait this amount of time and then you will know for sure. All I can say is follow your heart. if you Love him , and he is the Only man you want , then tell him that you love him.But if you feel this is just a crush or that you Know he isn't in love with you then don't wait.
I thought I was in love with my then best friend but it lasted a week.I had heard that it is great to be in love with your best friend. I had just broken up with my ex and my best friend was there to help me heal.then I thought am I in love with him? but after a week , I Know I wasn't. It didn't feel right. and then I met my guy. He Is Now my best friend.It feels natural and it is mutual. So It can work but the feelings Have to be mutual . That is why if you find you love him , tell him and ask him how he feels about you. If he isn't in love, then you will know. Then you can move on.
@consultrainer (4992)
• India
3 Jul 10
i have read and re-read all that you have poured out here in words. .. and, I feel heavy ... weighing my response.
let me put it all this way: ...
while it is quite okay to expect some attention and care, .. I WOULD strongly recommend you to IGNORE all these friendships for a while, and CONCENTRATE on your career and education. Once you reach a point of settlement in your life.. then the true love of your life .. will stumble and present himself at your feet!
goodluck.
@MademoiselleEma (165)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 10
very brilliant suggestions.. but buddy, i never stand for apart from him. i don't know why. and i have tried this many times, but failed. every time i try to stay away from him, he will contact me, and i will start giving up. maybe there is the best way to be stronger if i use this suggestion after this..have any advice about it?.by the way, thanks again
@consultrainer (4992)
• India
6 Jul 10
why don't you take up some part-time vocation/job .. to keep you so busy, as not to respond to calls.. for a while?
