Relationship with parents after becoming an adult

Though I am married and lost my parents just after my marriage at the age of 19 years. But yet I am responding to this discussion. In my house we are a joint family. My husbands are two brother and he is junior. From the very beginning I observed that they respect each other.My father-in-law and mother-in-law is alive. In many occasion my father-in-law has told them, criticized them and side by side advised them. My husband and his elder brother sometimes agreed with him and sometimes not. But they have discussed and taken a common decision. Regarding the education to treatment of the nephew of my husband and our daughter they must have opinion but not final. They parenting over us but it is not so far that we have to avoid us. As my husband is very busy, he naturally not participated in general family matter. And in many cases when my father-in-law rebuked my elder brother-in-law which causes great sorrow to him, we discussed each other and informed my husband. And my husband in turn, as I am observing during this 20 years of my marriage life, is going to him (father-in-law), touched him with love and en quired about his health and started to talk on many other issues which is valueless to us. Then he comes to the point and impressed him that the decision is wrong and we should to this or that. Father-in-law agreed with him. Then my husband told him not to use such word for the elder son as he his older enough, he has wife and a son and moreover he is responsible and how he is looking after the family. So, I realized that a discussion with the parents must solves many unusual situation in the family. My husband told me that the parents require attention. It is our duty to inform them the problem and to highlight the change in world and thinking. A good discussion can solve it.

Your parents love you too much.They treat you as a 10 years old child.They think that you are not old enough.You can discuss the problem with your parents carefully.Don't blame your parents.

I generally don't like my mom. she's the emotional, manipulative type, and her lack of sense of good judgment really irritates me. But there's nothing much I could do about it, except to avoid her. But she's my mom, always was, always will be. So I guess I still love her anyway. Even if she makes me go crazy sometimes. I hope you can handle it like I do. or maybe even better.

Did you let them know this????Communication is key. I love you mom and dad very much. You did a great job for I am well capable of raising my children.Learning is part of raising children. PLease allow me and my children to learn from each other. I will come to you for advice when I need it the most. Sometimes a person must do it themselves. Spoil them if you like. That is what grandparents do.

Its a fact that even if we are 60 for our parents we are still kids. thats bcos they love us. My realtionship has increased with my parents. When i was a kid, i used to hardly see my parents as they used to work. My mom left the job when we grew up and asked her not to work. I still share a good relation with my mom.

Can I ask you a question mrscallands22? Have you ever had a serious talk with your parents about it or maybe you just feel that they are over protective? Did you ever had a time together or a bonding between your parents? As A parent of three kids for me I'll make sure that they understand the situation and explain that the world is full of strange people. We are just avoiding something might happen and explain the facts and reasons what's in and what's not. We are not depriving the kids to do something they like instead I trust my children to do their things in a manner that can be entrusted for them that they can be responsible enough for their actions and courageous enough to tell us the truth. And on the other hand as parent we should be open as well so that in the same manner we respect each others privacy in away that nobody been neglected. The secret of a child and parent thing is the openness, honesty and the trust for each other that's how it will work. Parents don't treat children when you are responsible enough to your actions but if you act like not a matured persons that's the only way that parents cuts in.