Have you ever confessed to your partner that you cheated???
By xio shi
@simonelee (2715)
China
July 3, 2010 11:14pm CST
Guys, do you have the guts to tell your partner that you cheated? Have you dared confessing to him/her that you've been never loyal to her/him?? That you love him/her but you've been weak and swung behind her/his back? How did you handle the situation? Does your conscience eating you?
I'm curious on how you manage the situation. Temptation is everywhere and sometimes we can't avoid it to be tempted(we may not do it actually but sometimes we think of it). Love to hear your stories.
I'm curious on how you manage the situation. Temptation is everywhere and sometimes we can't avoid it to be tempted(we may not do it actually but sometimes we think of it). Love to hear your stories.1 person likes this
14 responses
@mario_stevens (6964)
• Malaysia
4 Jul 10
nope... i don't confess. because i don't cheat on her 
well...not that i know of..
but she still says that i cheated on her when i finished a tub of ice cream by myself without offering her any.. 
well...not that i know of..
but she still says that i cheated on her when i finished a tub of ice cream by myself without offering her any.. 
@simonelee (2715)
• China
5 Jul 10
You two are cute. Why didn't you offer your partner? Is it only for one person or you just don't want to share the ice cream?
I often to that. I sneak out to the kitchen and grab a bowl and load it with colorful toppings.hahaha Sometimes it's a good feeling to see our partner envy on what we are eating.
Be childish sometimes.
@Memnon (2170)
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4 Jul 10
Luckily I do not have this to worry about, as we have been together 14 years, and I guess that if I were tempted, I would have done so by now.
I have had one woman cheat on me. We split for a while (I did not know about her duplicity), and was baffled by this as it was her doing. Then we got back together, but something did not seem right. Eventually someone commented that they thought we had split because of her cheating- which is when it all pieced together. After making sure I was not hearing Chinese Whispers I dumped her in a manner that all who knew her were aware why.
@Memnon (2170)
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5 Jul 10
Thanks. It actually goes a bit further than that. My father , mother, step mother- and her husband, have all been divorced at least twice. You would have thought that, if anything, this behaviour would have been perceived as normal.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
7 Jul 10
Oh! You've been through a lot of heart aches. The the situation thought you a lot to be a better man. Divorcing nowadays is a bit normal to almost family. If the relationship doesn't work they can file anytime they want without giving so much effort in fixing the problem. That's nice to know that there are people like you who give much concern to their family. Thanks for the share.
@sender621 (14889)
• United States
9 Nov 10
I am happy to say that I have never cheated on a partner. I have always been faithful in relationships. even if i was tempted to cheat, the guilt would destroy me. I have been fortunate in relationships that the thought of cheating wasn't something that i considered. I am happy to never have had that experience and I hope it will always be that way for me.@simonelee (2715)
• China
10 Nov 10
When you are tempted to cheat what do you usually do to stop it? Why is it that there are moments that you're tempted? What makes you think of doing it? Are you happily married now? God luck and stay strong.
@annavi23 (6633)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
i haven't! well,i do think i did not cheat when i happen to have something bad to do.
hehe,sometimes there were really people who cheats and doesn't have conscience on what they have done. hate that! for me,if i would have something naughty to do,i would make sure i have no commitments to others.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
10 Nov 10
Whoa! I guess conscience is still there but they didn't entertain it when the person cheated. I'm sure after doing it the person wished that he/she didn't do it and feel sorry. Regret is always there(I am referring to the first timer because people who committed the same sin has no heart and its already in his/her genes).
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
4 Jul 10
simone i think that when someone cheats is bcs there is something wrong. but i think if someone cheats must tell. also who cheats is bcs doesnt love like before. also about feeling guilty i think everyone must feel that bcs some people that cheat cheat on people that dont deserve that. like those that have a wife or husband that really loves and cares.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
10 Nov 10
There's definitely an issue why the person cheated her/his partner. Do you think love is enough to to be loyal? What if you both love each other but you're far from each other? I've seen a lot of situation like this.
@dfhonline (130)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
I once confess to my boyfriend(now my ex-boyfriend) that I was unfaithful to him.
I was so depressed after knowing he cheated on me. And I was on revenge mode so I did what he did to me. But I was never really the type to be cheating on someone I love. Thats also the reason why I confess, Im not used to it. After long hours of crying and stuff he forgive me, I forgive him. And after several months we broke up. :) I guess its not meant to be. And I'm really really happy where I'am now.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
10 Nov 10
Whoa! You're so brave to admit your sin. Where did you get your courage in telling him that you cheated him? When you revenge did you enjoy being with someone else? Did you fell in love with that person? Did you regret of doing it? Glad your ex-boyfriend accepted you despite of all things. Though he also committed the same mistake it is not easy for men to accept it. He definitely love you.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
5 Jul 10
Hi, Andy. Straight to the point huh? Your partner is so luck to have a loyal partner. What if your is the one who cheated? Do you still stand on your statement of not getting married again? We are not in control of everything. Sometimes, destiny play on us. Never on your entire life you cheated? when you where young and single? How about tempted?
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
I could never cheat with my partner. Even if its the last thing I have to do, I will not do it. There's just no way for me to do it. I am married already and marriage between a man and a woman is not just between the two of them but it is also a commitment with God. People who cheat are stupid and I dont think they are in their proper mind set.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Jul 10
Ouch!
That hurts! You think it's an act of "stupidity"? Well, that is so true that cheating is a sin you committed not only to your partner but also to God. For me not all people can manage in avoiding temptations even if you are so so in love with your partner, i guess. Do you think flirting is also an act of cheating? Anyway, how long you've been married? Do you think your husband never cheated on you? No offense though. Thanks for your strong statement.
That hurts! You think it's an act of "stupidity"? Well, that is so true that cheating is a sin you committed not only to your partner but also to God. For me not all people can manage in avoiding temptations even if you are so so in love with your partner, i guess. Do you think flirting is also an act of cheating? Anyway, how long you've been married? Do you think your husband never cheated on you? No offense though. Thanks for your strong statement.
@udaymohan (437)
• India
4 Jul 10
If you love your partner, you would never do anything behind his/her back. You are actually not cheating your partner rather you are cheating yourself and your own conscience would never pardon you. Honesty in love is extremely important otherwise it is no love at all.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
Indeed, this would be a dilemma. I haven't cheated and have no plans of doing so. but I guess if ever that happens, I would tell my partner. I think it would only be fair to give him the choice if he would still accept me after that or if he would choose for us to have separate ways since he couldn't trust me anymore
@simonelee (2715)
• China
5 Jul 10
Confessing about your sin is a bit hard especially if you don't want that person to be hurt. It's emotional torture though. But, as what you've said it's up to her/him is she/he will accept and love you again. It's a risky action though but you have to deal with it, right? I think he/she will trust you again but not like as before. There's always a doubt in every actions and words you utter. Thanks for the share.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
10 Nov 10
But definitely your conscienceless will eat you in case you commit a sin. How will you face your partner if deep inside you done something that possibly destroy your relationship?
@edwardjoy2000 (2386)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Jul 10
I have cheated my wife...and she caught me smoking. but my wife has confessed cheating me...and i understand her feelings and i have forgiven her. I know its the situation that was the culprit or else she would not have even dreamt of doing such a thing. we are all human beings and tend to do mistakes. Forgiveness will not change your past but will definately expand your future.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
5 Jul 10
I like what you said. "Forgiveness will not change your past but will definitely expand your future". So, we have to be careful of our acts. Let your experience taught you to be a better person.
If his/her feelings is true then he/she will accept her/him again. But don't bother nor ask for forgiveness again if he/she already said "enough" it means that the pain is intolerable and he/she doesn't want to be hurt again.
@mone2008 (2)
• Brazil
4 Jul 10
[em ] assustado [/] em remenber este querido homem e womam outro, nunca vou admitir que caiu em tentação , pois só considera isso uma traição , quando você tem o sexo whit outro e cair no whit amor getway agora não me recordo jamais admitir que se enganaram eles podem fazer uma quantidade ínfima de gênero e outros asmart
@simonelee (2715)
• China
5 Jul 10
Hello, Mone. I'm not sure if understand your statement fully. Had trouble in understanding it because you use your dialect. So, you've been tempted? How did you deal with it if you didn't confess it to your partner? We may escape the consequences but not to our conscience, right?
@charmlenile (387)
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4 Jul 10
Opinion, It's tempting to allow a lapse in your personal integrity when you're out time with your partner and the feeling of stress of all your commitments. But unethical shortcuts cheating,being dishonest and taking advantage of others is not good.your conscience will trap you in a cycle of compromise.Rather than doing so for your partner.Cheating is not the answer.So you don't need to confessed if you don't do bad.Truth is really painful to admit.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
10 Nov 10
"truth is really painful to admit" It is so painful but it's the only way you'll be in peace, right? It is indeed unethical but I'm wondering why some are tempted to do it if in they are aware that it's morally wrong? What are there reasons?
