Why would someone hide their divorce from the kids
By pastorkayte
@pastorkayte (2255)
United States
July 5, 2010 10:15am CST
This has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard, when a family is going through divorce, the parents who hide it, hurt the children, those children grow up feeling that the parents lied to them and start wondering what else the parents lied about. I even heard of a guy who told his children that the reason he moved out of their house was so he could get more work done, this is so crazy, what do you think about it?
3 responses
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
5 Jul 10
yes i think is a crazy thing but at the same time i understand why some parents do that. some children change and be sick when they find out their parents are getting divorced you know so parents just want to protect them to be hurt. anyway i think they should be honest and explain things instead of hide it bcs if they find out by accident or throw other person will be worst^^
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
5 Jul 10
I agree but I think the best protection would be making them prepared, making them understand why this is happening and explaining that they are and will be loved even if the parents are divorced.
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
8 Sep 10
yes sure^^ they have to be honest and sure both will love their kids after all^^ that way they wont feel so sad anymore^^ bcs they will see that no matter what happened their parents are there for them^^
@ceduard23 (93)
• Romania
6 Jul 10
i guess a little lie didn't heart nobody and probably those parents lied because they didn't wanna harm their children specially if they are young
If i had been put in that situation myself i have probably have done the same
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
6 Jul 10
Yes but what about the child, especially one in their teens, those children will feel as though you lied to them and that you cant be trusted. I asked some teens how they felt and they were angry at their parents for not including them in the process, they felt they were tricked and lied to by the people they loved the most. It does hurt someone, the kids. I think parents are selfish when they do this because I think they just dont want to explain to the kid so they lie.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
5 Jul 10
I have no idea why. Perhaps the man you used as an example had a hard time admitting to himself that his marriage was done and in a way deceiving himself as well? I haven't gone thru a divorce and don't plan on it so I don't have much opinion on what to say. Though honesty would probably be the best policy.
