cheating wife

May 25, 2006 11:59pm CST
I caught my wife cheating on me and she doesn't know I have found out
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515 responses
@jiggin (39)
• United States
4 Oct 06
not much to talk about in my eyes. If you have 100% proof she is cheating and not just flirting or on the edge of cheating, then let her know by telling here the facts that show you know she is 100% and then tell her to get out. Once a cheater always a cheater, even if it is in their minds. A swift kick to the curb always gets their attention quicker than a warm fuzzy conversation.
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• United States
19 Nov 06
love - love
I have to agree with you once a cheater always a cheater. If you are complety sure that all of your information is correct Im gunna go with its time for her to go. You dont need sumone pretending that they love you and just leading you on and playing with your heart. Good luck hun.
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@blakky (137)
• Australia
20 Nov 06
that's harsh. sometimes people really do just make a horrible mistake and need to be forgiven. depends on the circumstances but you can't say "once, always"
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• Australia
20 Nov 06
This is not always the case people can change. I cheated twice when I was young and stupid. 1 was revenge to a boyfriend who had cheated on me then I left him. Glad I did not end up with him he is a wife beater. 2 was because I was 18 young and stupid. I learnt from both experiences and felt like crap when I did it and after I did it. 12 years later I am happy content and faithfull.
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12 Aug 06
are you sure she is cheating? if you plan on staying with her you really need to sit and talk about it not in a screaming match
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@ApexLim (302)
• Singapore
20 Nov 06
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20 Nov 06
sorry but it up to you. want to give her another chance.
• Kenya
27 Nov 06
Men have cheated since time immemorial. But the moment they get cheated on..! they want everyone to repudiate the woman for doing it. Have you ever cheated on her or any other woman before? Well then, that's just how karma works... Sorry though. I know it must hurt.
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@QnAQueen (555)
• United States
12 Aug 06
i hope you've really established proof that she is cheating on you. this must be really devastating for you! do you intend on staying in the marriage? what are you planning? I think you should let her know that you have caught her cheating, if she really is, and talk about it. marriage counseling should help you, but it depends also if you want to stay in the relationship and if she feels the same way, otherwise, maybe it would be best to part ways.
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• Zambia
30 Dec 06
Yeah, u need to establish proof. If that is the case, the decision is entirely up to u. U know how long u have been married. U know how long she has cheated on u. And many other factors. How many kids u have together, etc. After a thoughtful analysis, u should be able to decide whether u must separate or finally divorce altogether. U might also be able to decide if she deserves another chance. What is more important is trust. Do u think it was a one-time thing for her. Has she stopped? Any chances that she will do it again? As for me, once beaten twice shy is the way to go about such an issue.
• United States
6 Jan 07
maybe counseling could help some people to over come something like that, but if it were me, i don't think i could get over it. nothing would ever be the same. i would always have that in the back of mind. good luck though.
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@nake89 (557)
• Finland
15 Nov 06
The hardest part of course is that you love her. At least confront her, talk to her. Ask her why. Perhaps you have been to busy at work and she has been home alone. There are many dimensions in these situations. I suggest you investigate all of them before choosing an option.
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• India
27 Nov 06
I agree with you. Findout if you have gone wrong anywhere. If you were spending enough time with her. Of course, this should not lead her to cheat you, but try and think of all the angles. Otherwise, give her another chance. If you are still sure, she is continuing with her cheating, then I think it is time you have it out with her. But, let it be in a peaceful manner.
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• United States
15 Nov 06
If you have the proof, let her know you know. Talk to her and see why she did it. Most of the time when people cheat, they just are not getting what they want/need at home. I have been cheated on and I wish she would have just left me instead of being a cheater. Itw as about a 50/50 at fault. The old saying is true though, once a cheater always a cheater. So good luck with what ever you do and how ever you handle it.
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• United States
15 Nov 06
If you have the proof, let her know you know. Talk to her and see why she did it. Most of the time when people cheat, they just are not getting what they want/need at home. I have been cheated on and I wish she would have just left me instead of being a cheater. Itw as about a 50/50 at fault. The old saying is true though, once a cheater always a cheater. So good luck with what ever you do and how ever you handle it.
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@Kelian (768)
• Trinidad And Tobago
15 Nov 06
I believe it's more complicated than you think. men and women are as different as night and day, when most men cheat, it is only physical. But when a woman cheats most times emotion is involved. she may have developed a connection with this other person. I would asvise you to talk to her about it, let her know how you feel, find out why it happened, what was the cause (if any) and figure out what you both really want. because the only thing worse than being cheated on by your spouse, is living a lie for the rest of your lives.
• India
25 Nov 06
In this case, my answer is let our conscious speak to us and decide on it. Any wed lock cannot be put on public opinion. All of us are not hundred per cent pure.
• Romania
25 Nov 06
I m sorry for you. Try to talck with her about this subject, maybe you can save your marriage. At least try, don`t stay anymore thinking what you will do. A, and get that jerk with who your wife is chiting. Excuse my poor english please.
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• United States
26 Nov 06
You have to establish if you would stay with her or not. Then you have to see if you would ever trust her again or not. I would be devestated,and would have to move on. Confront her about this ASAP.
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@cloudv2 (221)
• Canada
21 Nov 06
Like the others said, talk about it with her, and NO SCREAMING! :P
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@alchemistrx (2551)
• Philippines
21 Nov 06
It would be best if talk things over.Ask if she's hiding something from you and if there is ask her why she did that? You may want to know. You should compromise.
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
20 Nov 06
If you have proof talk to her. Try to find out why she felt she needed to do it. You may want to consider counseling.
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@rimisha (219)
• India
20 Nov 06
talk to her and have a clear picture of it, then take ur step forward
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• India
20 Nov 06
cheating spouses is big menace which is spreaidng like a wild fire,couples should understand each other and be faithful in order to make their relationships and lives better
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@jamie11982 (1658)
• United States
20 Nov 06
you need to let her know that you have proof and know that she is cheating on you and then tell her that she needs to find some other place to live. If she wants to stay with you then maybe getting a medeater to help you to talk about this but no matter what tell her a new place for her to live might spice up the marrage if this is what she thinks that she needs is someone new.
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@odiabiz (30)
• India
20 Nov 06
Really not good.Husband and wife should have faith on each other.You should also analyse yourself why she cheat you.
@magnel (2263)
• India
19 Nov 06
If you are very sure and have got all the proof that she is cheating with you. Then she has not only cheated you but committed a much greater sin. I don't want to give you some wrong advise, but you should consult someone who is very close to you and can be trusted.
@Phlamingho (7827)
• Denmark
19 Nov 06
Sorry man... You have to confront her, you can't just keep it to yourself. Remember to not just attact her, you have to really talk about it.
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@slico79 (212)
• Philippines
15 Nov 06
Don't be offended but I have to ask this question. Are you cheating on your wife too? You don't have to answer me if you do. I think one of the ways that could appease both parties is to visit a marriage counselor. Sitting and talking about it at home wouldn't work even if there's no yelling or fighting. You need someone to mediate between you and your wife, to let the discussion flow. I hope this helps.
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@bizgeek (517)
• Philippines
17 Dec 06
you are right there
• India
8 Jan 07
yes man u are right.....the question is wheather he is also cheating or not......
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@ozzie13 (177)
• Australia
20 Nov 06
i hope things work out for you
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@msqtech (15075)
• United States
20 Nov 06
hope springs eternal
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@momto2 (471)
• United States
21 Nov 06
Calmly confront her about it. Communication is the key!
@jmp824 (741)
• Philippines
21 Nov 06
Are you sure that shes really cheating on you? Do you have proofs? Have you talked to her about this? Well if i were you i will discuss this the sooner the better. Dont make things get into worse, but just simply not telling her that you know. You tell that you caught her cheating on you. You will know by her answers if shes guilty or not. just my two cents...
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