Reason for loving someone

Philippines
July 5, 2010 5:32pm CST
When my girlfriend asks me why I love her I always tell her that I have no really reason for loving her because if I have then that's not loving. I just do love her. She don't like this answer because if she ask that question she just want me to say something sweet to her. But I think that answer is sweet enough. What if those reasons are not there? Then I don't love her? I just think we don't need a reason to love someone. We just love them. I love her because she is she, the girl that I fall in love with. What do you think?
17 responses
@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
Before you learn to love someone there is something that attracts you to her/ him. Maybe that's what your girlfriend wants to hear. Sometimes girls want to hear what attracts their man. Instead of saying "I love you because..." you can rephrase it with the following, "The first thing that has attracted me to you is your *** and then when I get to know you better that's when I learned to love everything about you- no more no less. Everyday of my life I learn something new about you and each time it happens my love for you grows stronger. It's like I can't get enough of you. I want to learn more about you. You're like my fountain of knowledge. I will never get tired of loving you." Whew! That was long and for me it's so sweet.
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
That's really sweet! I think I will borrow your lines. Thanks a lot.
• Portugal
9 Jul 10
lady slipper is so cute what you said^^ wish a guy says to me something like that one day^^
@ivygrey (550)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
hahaha! you have the same reason as my husband. and yes at first I really thought that His feelings was just nothing, I mean no reason at all? !! but as years passed by. I realized how true he was. How he just can't say any reason. if i were you. Let her read this..Love is something that you can't explain. Some people might make up some really cheesy reasons but behind it was unreal feelings,. so i guess you should let the her realized that.. or just let her read the responses in your discussion.. Goodluck!
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I agree with you. There are people that are good in saying romantic or sweet words but sometimes they are just making this up to please a girl. "love me for a reason, let the reason be love"... Just heard this song again when I'm on my way home.
• Romania
6 Jul 10
i always tell my girl how much i love her an i miss her when she's gone and the reason for loving her is that she makes me fell like a better me
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I'm also feeling that with my girlfriend. But what if the day has come when she no longer makes you feel that? It happens. She's busy, you are busy, etc. Will you still love her?
@smartjack (521)
• India
6 Jul 10
You are right my friend. Let there be no reason to love your girlfriend. When a person falls in love, he or she never thinks why they are falling in love or what is the reason. It just happens. Please tell your girlfriend that having a reason to love means the love is intentional and that is not true love. This shows that the love is not love and there is selfishness in the relationship. Such relationships never last for long. Love is something very pure. Its an image of God. When there is love there is God. When there is a reason there is selfishness and hence there is devil. So the reason for you love for her should be love.
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I can't say anything but I really agree with you. That's my point. Loving her for a reason is not love at all. Even if you call it love it will only temporary since the reason may fade. Thanks a lot for this comment.
@grayxenon (1315)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
i have this hopeless romantic line that answer the question well, "the day i figured out what i love you is the day that i don't love you anymore" somewhat i agree with this, sometimes when you are in love you become blind and dont see any thing, when you begin to see imperfections, and shortcomings then you are not starting to loose the grip of love and start noticing things.
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Totally agree with you. Of course the day you don't love him/her anymore will only come if you really don't love him/her in the first place, that is you have set a standards for your love at him/her. Thanks for the respnse.
@LeoWyatt (170)
• Bulgaria
6 Jul 10
A reason for loving someone? I can tell you many reasons for loving a girl/boy. First of all when you love someone he is everything for you and you always try to keep it next to you. Second of all, the person you love gives you powers to move on in difficult situations and it gives you ambitions to move forward and to give all the best that you can. When you love somebody, it makes you happy, you have a reason to wake up in the morning, a reason to live...
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
That's kinda the effect of loving someone and not the reason for loving him/her. I'm experiencing the things you have mentioned. Thanks for the input though.
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
I always tell my girl that my love to her is unexplainable. It is right? If you get to define your love to her, then sometimes it's not sincere anymore and she will do those things you admire about her and she will abuse those things to keep you droooling over her, haha. Well, sometimes love is simply sweet when it is simple.
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
Yup I agree with you. Or she can test me and do things opposite to the things I love about her. Of course I still love her but it will contradict what I have said. So we really do not need reasons to love someone.
@jennyze (7045)
• Indonesia
6 Jul 10
Next time try: Because I could not live without you. That normally works. For myself, I agree with you. Loving someone is because I want to be with him most of the time, and I miss him all over again even after seeing him 10 minutes ago. If asked why, maybe I would say, that's how I feel, I just could not describe it.
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
I don't want to give that answer since that always or most of the time leads to discussion about her dying or me losing her. Thanks for the advise though.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
I guess there must be a reason why you love someone.You just cannot say I LOVE YOU without any feeling towards the person you say that word.We girls also ask that,like me I often ask my special someone sometimes like.." why you love this much?" he will answer me also.It's not that we are thinking that the guy doesn't love us,but sometimes it is needed to check whether the relationship is still at it's best. When there is something wrong in a relationship I tell you if you will be ask those questions I know you cannot answer it directly.So in loving someone there must always be a reason why.
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
What if the reason is no longer there? Do you still love her/him? Like I love your long hair, I love the way you took care of me, etc. Yes giving answers is really a must when that question is asked but is our answer the real reason or we really don't need a reason to love her/him?
• United States
5 Jul 10
I have to say I agree with your girlfriend: Women want to hear a REASON that you love us, and sometimes vice versa. It can be anything, your smile, your laugh, or in my case, my boyfriend always tells me that he loves me so much mostly because I " get" him, a guys way of saying he feels understood =)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
That's a good reason. But what if the day has come when you no longer get him? Does that mean he will no longer loves you? That's my point. If the reason is no longer there then you no longer love her/him because that's the reason you love him/her in the first place.
@mspitot (3834)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
I think that we have reasons why we love our partner but love overpowers it that we can't say them. we end up saying i don't know why or i just really love you. what we think more is the love than the reasons for loving a person.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
Well, being a girl, I know what she's expecting to hear. Tell her your reason first then add "but I love your smile" or "I love how you always worry about if I'm home already or not" or something like that. Your girlfriend is fishing for compliments. She wants to see if you notice the small things that she does for you. Just tell her all the things that make you appreciate her and she'll be okay. Just think about this simple rule: most girls love to have romance in their relationship. All girls want that "kilig" so you better give it at least once a month or suffer a terrible, unexplainable mood swing :D
@meirhu (363)
• Israel
6 Jul 10
I think you're right on. However many women like romance. See if you can come up with some poem or some flowery language.
• Denmark
6 Jul 10
I don´t think there could be a better explanation to this. As I think love is something you should play with, as it can be tough as a rock and smooth as a butterfly. But you´re right, we do just love each other for who we are. M.S.A
• Ethiopia
6 Jul 10
I think telling her you just love her may not good enough to make her happy about your love for her,i think you better tell her that hoe special she is.
@eLsMarie (4348)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
You're so sweet and I love it. How I wish all the guys are like that. You're right but I think your girlfriend just want you to appreciate something about her.
• Portugal
5 Jul 10
aww thats so sweety^^ all guys should think like you^^ you are right i think we love someone bcs we feel that person is sweet to us sure but dont know sometimes the person change and we still care like happened to me. i liked a guy really and today i saw him and wanted talk with him but didnt but hurt me much :( so im proud that still exists guys like you out there^^ and your gf should be proud of you also^^ what im sure she is^^