What's your feeling when you got pregnant the first time?

@ann101 (518)
China
July 6, 2010 1:26am CST
The first time I got pregnant I fell into great panic not great happiness like other moms.I myself still acted like a child and used to depend on others,how can I bear the responsibility to raise and educate a child?I had never dreamed of having a child before!They are boring,keep on cring and will revolt you when they have grown up.So I went to the hospital immediately hoping to do an abortion,and my husband and mother-in-law followed behind hurriedly. So,though reluctantly my daughter came after 9 months.Can you guess what's the first sentence I spoke when the nurse hugged the new born baby to me"single-fold eyelid or double?"I have single-fold eyelid and I have always hoped she can have a doule one as her father.Luckily she inherited good genes. Now she have two years old and is so beautiful and lovely,sometimes I wonder she is an angel God has sent to me.But almost be killed by her heartless mom once! What's your feeling when you got pregnant?I think no one can overreact like me.
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@marguicha (217423)
• Chile
6 Jul 10
Hi Ann, My feelings were quite different from yours, but I think they were just because I was absolutly irresponsible. I was just 18, madly in love and had never seen nearby a real baby. I was very happy I would have a baby (but thought that babies were dolls). I wanted the baby to be like my husband. I never, for a second, thought about the future. My mother and my mother in law worried for me and looked after diapers and other clothes. I remember telling my mother to sew this and that for the baby. The rest of the time I continued playing. I had a very good pregnancy and labour. I think the problems started after my girl was born. I discovered that babies had to be fed, changed diapers and put to bed. Even then, all my family helped a lot.
@marguicha (217423)
• Chile
7 Jul 10
There is something that is pure instinct. I remember that my daughters had their cradle in our room for the first 3 months. I took tare of the beby during the day buy my husband had to care for them at night. Even then I heard them crying before he woke up. But I just moved him half sleep to wake him up and then went back to sleep. My children have both children now. I have grandkids from 19 years old (the eldest) to a yet to be born baby. There´s 5 of them meanwhile, of different ages. If your mother in law wasn´t there, I´m sure you would be able to do everything she is doing now. Take care!
@ann101 (518)
• China
7 Jul 10
It's so fun for your couples to take care of the baby^_^. You have a so large family now,I can never do this,as I am fear of the pain of giving birth so I don't want to have another child,one is enough to me now,though I also think have two childs or more may be helpful to their growing:( Hope I could do well at your age,but as I have only one baby so I would be less relaxed:).
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
6 Jul 10
I don't think you could ever do that to your child too..perhaps it was just a passing thought. I'm sure you have a very beautiful daughter just as you have said. Awesome. Sorry to be answering this..not in my situation of course, LOL.. but I'd like to comment for the ladies around me whom I love. Some friends, relatives and all that. When they were pregnant, I see the glow on their faces and really happy for them. There were a few whom I've asked what they are feeling and all that and they have nothing but good, positive words. I think they must be happy carrying those babies inside their wombs. LOL. I like to ask people how they feel, because it reminds me of my own mom; of how she had to go through pain carrying me around for 9 months and etc. That's why when she said that I'm stubborn and all that, I always reflect towards when she first carried me inside her womb and I'll definitely feel nothing but appreciate towards her. The thought of being angry with her simply isn't there anymore, just like that, if any.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
10 Jul 10
Oh yes, I've been told to have too much of a personality, heheheh. Thanks, ann for commenting back. You are a great mom, I'm sure..or if you are yet to be, you'll be one awesome one. Yes, I always try to think about my mom's feelings. She has sacrificed a lot, inside and out and I'll always cherish her.
@ann101 (518)
• China
7 Jul 10
A good response though you are not a mom!I used to anger mom especially during perbuty,only when I have my own baby I know how difficult to raise a baby and the great pain of giving birth.Nothing can teach you better how to respect and love mom than the experience of being a mom by yourself. To you,you must have very strong individuality since you were so active even in the womb.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Hi, ann101. Just one look at my child when he was born, made me erase any bad thoughts that I would have had for him. I loved him so much. He was so precious to me. I was so in love with him when he was born. He was very healthy and long in length. He had very beautiful hair. He smelled so good and he was warm to my body too. I was so happy to have him right next to me. This was one of the most beautifulest moments that I have ever experienced.
@ann101 (518)
• China
4 Sep 10
I agree with you so much,sometimes when I have something boring I would hold her tightly to me and it seems can give me strength.It's funny but it does has some effects.
@bkrm_gupt (219)
• India
28 Jul 10
When i get pregnant first time i will feel exited and i will share to my husband.I will think more things to do with my child. Get more facilities,love,care so on.............
@ann101 (518)
• China
29 Jul 10
Hope you have a family of three persons or more in the near future.You will never imagine the great happy a baby can brings to the family!
@abhi000 (235)
• India
27 Jul 10
If i get pregnant i will be very excited and i will share to my husband.I will be eager to know weather my baby is girl or boy and at same time i will be worry that is he/she in normal condition or not.I will be visit hospital for monthly check up.Since i knew that i was pregnant i will prepare buying clothes and blanket for my baby.During my pregnant time i will eat lots of fruit and i will go for walk which is good for health.
@ann101 (518)
• China
29 Jul 10
How happy your baby will be with a so great mom!abhi,you must be a very kind person as you have so much love in the child.
• United States
26 Jul 10
I was scared and didn't know what to do
@ann101 (518)
• China
29 Jul 10
It's funny to recall the pregnant time,thanks god that we have passed the fear and birth.
• United States
7 Jul 10
I thought I was ill. When I discovered I was pregnant, I walked on air for nine glorious months. When we brought our son home, he deflated the airwalking by crying two hours, sleeping fifteen minutes, crying two hours, etc. for the next year! We all made it through that year and ended up with a son who is now 39 years old, a wonderful young man who married a wonderful wife and who helps me care for his dad and sister who are disabled. I never considered abortion or adoption, even when we found out our baby daughter had Down's syndrome, a form of mental retardation. She, too, at the age of 31 is one of the most fabulous and smartest people I've even had the joy of knowing. She, like her brother, helps with her dad. Brother helps her by taking her on overnight stays to give her a break from work, work, work.
@ann101 (518)
• China
12 Jul 10
I am so happy that you have a wonderful harmonius family now.I cannot imagine if I were you how can I do to deal with a baby crying so much. When I got pregnant there was a free checking for Down's syndrome,but even we know the baby has that syndrome maybe it's a hard decision to give up the little baby's life.Thanks that your daughter can act so well and help you a lot.So nice a family you have!
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
i was almost surprised since being pregnant wasn't a big deal for me. others had been telling of feeling sick and it was nothing like at all for me. but it was the first time i found myself falling asleep while working. finally, my pregnancy bliss ended at 7 months with a forced bed rest.
@ann101 (518)
• China
7 Jul 10
You are lucky but I am more as I have no reaction throughout.I often got sick before the pregnancy,but pregnancy seemed drive away all the illnesses. A mom and a lovely boy is drinking orange together on your picture,is it you and you baby?That's so sweet and warm.
@bettydeng5 (1822)
• China
7 Jul 10
It's surprise that you don't want to have your baby when you were pregnant,but it can understand it should have a transition times when you were pregnant for your first time. Now it's so wonderful that you have a lovely and pretty angel, best wishes to your daughter. Talked my first pregnant, it made me so excited when doctor declared the news to me, because I really want a baby, I felt it's difficult to adopt the pregnant time,because I couldn't have anything, and reactivity is very evidence, disgorge anything I haved, and felt very tired, even I couldn't work, and I must slept more than 8 hours every day,however when the baba nearly have to birth, I really want to see my baby, and image what will look like of my baba, wow, it's a angel too, now my daughter is growing up, she is very lovely and naughty. So talked our first time pregnant, it's full of much experience and interesting. Happy mylotting!
@ann101 (518)
• China
7 Jul 10
It's really a hard time you have experienced,and one of my colleague was very like you and she even lost 10kg weight after 3 months for the severe reaction.You can tell your daughter of this and let her pay you back in the future:) Best wishes to you and your lovely angel too!
@kuloor (93)
• India
8 Jul 10
First time when I was pregnant I had mixed feelings.. First I was very happy that we both are perfect to have a baby..bqz so many couples are there without results.. Next I was not mentally ready to think about a child. We were newly married for just 2 months and I had a lot of other plannings regarding to my caarier. But God's plan was different And I had a little girl and next time a boy. Now I am very busy with them taking and bringing from school, making home works,reading, taking them to extra classes. You are so lucky to have mother-in-law with you bqz My husband go to office and after I have to do all the works before kids arrive.I am not having mother-in -law in my house,she stays with her elder son, and our house is far away from their house.And bqz of her leg pain she can't travel, so yearly twice we used to go there. But I am very happy doing all these works sometime I also lost my patience during pregnancy but it is my nature bqz some times now also I lose my mood. Anyway my daughter is 8 yrs old and son is 3yrs old. My 1st delivery was without struggle and also normal, but 2nd one was with lot of struggles and also ceaseration. So i had both experience...
@ann101 (518)
• China
12 Jul 10
You have experienced both kuloor,s son and a daughter,natual delivery and ceaseration.Although raising childs is a hard work but always coming up with great happiness,and you are always there whenever they need you so you have so many wonderful times and you are a lucky one too.Sometimes when I heard my mother-in-law talked about the funny things of my daughter at night I would kind of envy her,I want share the same experience too.
• United States
7 Jul 10
I do have mixed feeling when I found out I was preggy, I was so happy and a little bit scared because of this things I heard that it's a horrible pain to have a baby..I am just wondering if I could handle the pain..everyday is always exciting..as you know I got pregnant on my very late 30's..I was told I could not have a baby because I was very high risk! But GOD gave me a birthday gift just before my birthday last year!..the best gifts I ever had! my baby boy just the way I want a baby boy!
@ann101 (518)
• China
7 Jul 10
So glad you are experiencing the happiness on the way.It's really a wonderful gift GOD has sent to you!Don't worry too much,my best friend has just birthed a boy 4kg at 31 without any trouble,what you should do now is to take care of yourself and prepare for you baby's coming. Waiting for your good news!
• United States
7 Jul 10
I was elated the first time I was pregnant. I was nervous of what my family and my boyfriend (then before he became my husband)'s family would think. But, I quit smoking, started eating right and anticipated a girl the first go-round. My other pregnancies weren't so pleasant as I became sick and alone....
@ann101 (518)
• China
7 Jul 10
You have made so many changes to welcome your first baby mrscallands!Obviously you are a good mom.Why did you become sick and alone on other pregnancies?just because your husband was so busy with work?Pregnancy can improve our immune ability as far as I know.
• United States
13 Jul 10
I kept hoping for months on end that I was pregnant. My husband and I weren't "trying" but we weren't doing anything to prevent it either. We both knew we wanted kids so we decided to start pretty much right away after we got married. We'd been together for 5 years already, 2 of those years we had lived together before tying the knot officially so it was like we were married anyway..lol It was 8 months after we got married that I found out I was pregnant with our first child and I was super excited, as was he. In the back of my mind, I won't lie, there were some doubts I had and fears that I wouldn't be a good mom or that I would do something wrong and miscarry or that my child would hate me or that I wouldn't know what to do even though I had been around babies plenty of times. Nothing can really prepare you for having your own though..you just have to learn. So, your fears I think were completely normal. I'm glad that you didn't go through with the abortion though. Children aren't as bad as we make them seem..lol
@ann101 (518)
• China
14 Jul 10
Thanks very much for your understand and as you have said,children are not so hard to raise,instead they can give you great happiness you have never experienced.
@mauricel (113)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Hi! When I got pregnant last 2007, I was confused because I know this pregnancy means trouble... big big trouble. I am single and school administrator/part time professor by profession and being pregnant and unmarried is a taboo to our society. I really want the baby, but my job will be complicated, the option of not keeping the unborn child in me is always an option I kept in my mind because of my situation. Aside from that the father makes my pregnancy more complicated because I knew that everything is unexpected. Still I chose to continue my pregnancy even with doubt at the back of my mind if I am fit to be a mom, not just financial but emotional and psychologically capable of becoming a mother, a single mother who will carry all the responsibilities of bearing a child. Now, my son just turned 2 years old, and I can say that, it is a life fulfilling to be a mother of a wonderful kid. I can say that unexpected pregnancy doesn't always means that it will make our life miserable because it is worth keeping. And the self fulfillment is unmeasurable specially whenever I see those sweet smiles in my son's lips.
@ann101 (518)
• China
16 Jul 10
Yeah,it's really a life fulfilling to be a mom and it seems our baby opens a new world to us we have never seen.
• India
6 Jul 10
if i got pregnant for the first time i will be very happy and i will first tell to my husband about this matter and i will be in some panic that at the time of delivery
@ann101 (518)
• China
6 Jul 10
This is the natual reaction of getting pregnant,may you have a beautiful manikanth in the near future!The delivery is the necessary process of giving birth,so if you love the baby there is no need to worry about it.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
6 Jul 10
I have to admit that i was afraid during my first pregancy. I did not know what to expect. I had never gone through the experience of childbirth before. it was a whole new world i was getting into. Anxiety and panic were my closes friends as my time got closer. The imagination can do strange things when iyou are unsure.
@ann101 (518)
• China
6 Jul 10
I agree with you,sender.If let me make the decision at that time maybe I would not have child even now,it does need great courage to accept a child into our life.
6 Jul 10
Hi Ann My feelings were very different to yours though I had always known that one day I wanted children and me and my husband had been trying for over three years without success. Due to medical reasons we were only given a 1% chance and started tests to get help. We found out I was pregnant on the morning of some of our tests and I was so surprised, shocked and couldnt actually believe it! After seven pregnancy tests, though, I started to believe and was so excited and happy I burst into happy tears! Dont worry too much on how you felt when you fell pregnant. Many people feel the same - what matters is how you feel now :)
@ann101 (518)
• China
6 Jul 10
Unimaginable you got the 1% chance!There are same couples around me and without child is seems the whole family is in a dark mood,and still they are on the way of therapy.You must have done lots of good deeds so can get the rewards.Congratulations elfbwillow!
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
there must be factors that made you react that way during your first preganancy. But it is good for you that you were not able to abort your child. Of course it is a sin and you wouldn't have seen the beauty of your daughter if you were not stopped by your husband and mother-in-law. With my experience, when I discovered that I was pregnant, I was really happy and excited. I was even imagining already that time what features will my baby inherit from me or from my husband. I even wanted to have a baby boy as my eldest but God has given me a wonderful daughter so it's okay. I followed all the do's and don'ts for pregnancy that's why I did not have difficulty during my pregnancy and not so much with my delivery.
@ann101 (518)
• China
6 Jul 10
You are so lucky with little trouble on delivery,I had to have a caesarean as my baby's head was too big and it's really painful when the narcotic effect has gone. Child's face seems can change with growing,sometimes likes me,and sometimes like my husband,and now like both.How about yours?
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
hi there ann101, i got married as early as 24 years old. I was pregnant then. My first feeling is that im scared because iwas just too young and im not that prepared. Lucky for me that im a nurse i have a little background regarding nursing a child. When the baby was born i feel excited and happy because my family was very supportive and were happy also. As i go through motherhood i got a lot of adjustments especially during night times when the baby cries and its in the meddle of the night and you are still sleepy..but as days goes by you'll get use to it. as i see my son grows day by day i really cant belive that i was able to raise my son... its really a good feeling being pregnant and giving birth..
@ann101 (518)
• China
6 Jul 10
I am so happy for you.Seeing our baby growing up day by day is a proud thing,just like seeing a masterpiece we have made.Now I found that raising a child is not as difficult as I have thought when I fist got pregnant.
@dfhonline (130)
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
I got pregnant with my daughter at 25, it was totally unplanned. Her father and I weren't even married that time. I also thought of abortion, fortunately I didnt have the guts to do it. During my pregnancy I was always depress and hated myself. I became grouchy, there were times I would just throw things at my husband. Maybe its all part of the pregnancy. But its all worth it. Now she's my world.
@ann101 (518)
• China
7 Jul 10
I have acted same like you,and easily to get angry and burst out at that time.