You've been cheated!!!

@ivygrey (550)
Philippines
July 7, 2010 7:46am CST
what would you do if.... and i mean if you found out yourself that your husband,boyfriend your partner has been cheating on you, Would you immediately leave your house? would you talk to your partner? Would you listen to him/her? Would you slap them on their faces? Would you cry? or won't. Would you forgive? I have been in relationships and I've never been cheated. have you?
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14 responses
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
of course, i would be devastated. but i need to stay calm and talked to this person. if she lies again and caught her again, i would break up with her "no questions asked" and there's no turning no matter how she begged for it. i know it's the trend now when ever a partner think it's boring but you know, i wouldn't condone it.
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• China
7 Jul 10
If I find my lover cheat on me , I will calm dowm firstly . Then I will ask why she lie to me , somethings her lies just want to protect my feeling . So I am not angry about her . And we still have a good relationships . do you agree with me ?
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@daliaj (5677)
• India
7 Jul 10
It is a difficult feeling when you find you have been cheated by your man or by a friend. Everybody hates to be cheated. I am sure that I won't cry for months and years if somebody cheats me. I will better ditch the person, be practical, and try with all effort to keep my life going in a better way. We are all human beings and it is sad to know about the cheating. I am sure that I won't cry for a long time for the person. I would be say for a day or maximum two days feeling bad pinpointing me saying I was not clever to choose a right person. I don't feel or think twice to ditch the guy and get the prvilages I deserve. I will never feel for somebody who doesn't respect and care my feelings.
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@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
First and foremost, I would definitely confront my partner if its really true and for how long. Then when the truth comes out, then for sure I'll leave. No further questions asked. I don't wanna prolong the pain. I'll leave, cry my heart out alone or in front of a few friends and then try to move on. If my partner loved me that much, he shouldn't have cheated in the first place. So no use for me to look back. Thats it.
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@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
For me, talking is the best solution. Talking about it really helps. I'll find out the reason for cheating, I'll tell him how it makes me feel. We can then take it from there. if we feel that the relationship won't work anymore, then it's time to call it quits. If we feel that we could still give the relationship another chance, then we'll give it a chance All relationships are two-way, whatever your partner did, you are still to blame. If my partner cheats, I am at fault too, because I drove him to cheat on me, although not intentionally. So for me it's wrong to just ditch your partner without letting him explain.
@anne25penn (3308)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
I have been cheated recently, but there is nothing I can do about it. I can only accept the situation and move on with my life. They have hurt me, I can forgive, but definitely will take time to forget. Its better not to forget so that if ever it happens again, I will know what to do.
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
My knee jerk reaction might be to take flight but i have invested a lot in my marriage. So I would definitely confront my husband about it. I would want to know the reason whyhe cheated on me. I know it will hurt a lot but for the sake of my marriage and my children I would try to forgive him and hold on to what is left and try to start again. To make the story short I will fight to save our marriage.
• Romania
9 Jul 10
i have been cheated it happened a long time ago and it heart a lot After she told me what she did,she bagged for my forgiveness,that she made a mistake and i was the one she loves,but deep down in my heart something snapped and i couldn't find the will to forgive her After that i quees i lost my faith in a relationship and my current girlfriend has to suffer because one stupid girl broked my heart a long time ago Beeing cheated changed me a lot but some day i hope ti fiind the strainght to forgive her and regain my faith
@maiaman (97)
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
I've been there. I have found out that he was cheating on me. We talked and I asked him if he still loves me. He said he does. He said that it happened because I left for the country and that he misses me and the other girl just so happened to be there to comfort him. So I told him that if I go back will it end. he said he already ended it. I forgave him and he promised that it's never going to happen again. It was painful and oh my God, I wanted give that girl a good beating. But I prove to myself that I am better than that and that I didn't stoop down to her level. She ended up with nothing. I ended up with a husband!
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
When I find out that I have been cheated my initial reaction will be I will be in shock. When I see it clearly or confirmed it I will definitely hurt someone to feel the pain and to feel my anger. I never been in a relationship to be honest that is why I don't know how it felt to be cheated in relationship. and I hope that it will not happen because I know the pain as I see my friends having problems with their relationship. I get affected when they are crying or being hurt, what more if it happens to me.
7 Jul 10
On my experience definitely anger will come into my mind because how could he do that when you have given everything for him and yet he still cheated on me.The least I could do is calm myself.Perhaps circumstances is difficult to concentrate but no matter what crying's best remedy to release anger and disappoinment.And with someone to talk too.
• Portugal
7 Jul 10
i wasnt cheated on but i liked a guy i met in internet. really liked him and he said he loves me so much and we talked almost all the day. we shared many things we saw each other, he showed me his daughter, she even called me mammy, we talked with mic. we did everything like if we were lovers. i said i cant accept being his gf till we meet though. i think i was afraid i dont know. anyway then was like he changed. suddenly i saw him saying i love you to other girls and said the same to me. well i wanted know if really he was a liar or not bcs he said in a chatroom he just teased but when was just me and him he talked different and that was true but i was so so confused. i stopped to talk with him and trust him :( today we talked again after some time he was trying to approach me and i always said he is lying. also bcs he said to me a girl was his sister but people said that girl was his wife. well for me all this was confusing i just wantd to be far from it. but sometimes i dont know what to think. what would he win anyway saying he loves me almost all the day if was a lie though? about cheat i think we must face the person and know why he or she acted that way and not just leave. even if it will make us cry
@maean_19 (4657)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
It is quite tough to answer because I would sound idealistic and hypocrite when I will have no reaction at all. When my boyfriend admitted that she has an affair with this certain girl, I was absolutely surprised and shocked. But I was thankful he admit and confirm it than denying it or keeping it. Of course, I wasn't that insensitive not to have a reaction. I am trying to compose myself and control not to cry, but it fell down still in my cheeks. He said sorry and likewise cried with me. I asked him if he wants me to let go of him, and he said no. I forgave him because I also love him. We are still in the relationship until now.
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
hello ivy! im in a relationship and my partner has never cheated on me. hmm, i actually don't know on how to react if im with that kind of situation but i guess i would cry if that happens, probably i would talk to him regarding the problem but not to the extent of leaving the house. im the kind of person who stays in a room where i can think and express my feelings. hurting my partner physically will not help but only aggraviate the situation so i wont. more than that? i just dont know..i just wish that it wont happen to me or to him. happy mylotting =)
• Canada
7 Jul 10
I have not been cheated but I've been in a relationship with a compulsive liar. It's terrible to try to be with someone that can never tell the truth. That person didn't physically cheat on me but admitted that he tried to meet up with a girl he had a crush on when he was younger - he was out of town and had been in contact with her on Facebook. She didn't accept his hints and offers (glad she was smart enough) but he definitely waited until he was away from me to sit and chat with her online. After a huge argument, he did admit that he'd wanted to see her in person. I got really mad and told him "If she wouldn't sleep with you back then, what on earth makes you think she'd sleep with you NOW?" Anyway.... My point is that cheating is a deal breaker for me. No I would not leave my house... if he cheated, HE leaves! NOT me. I wouldn't disrupt my family for something I didn't do wrong. Yes I'm sure I'd cry and no I wouldn't forgive. I know it sounds harsh but I take the sanctity of a relationship very seriously. I need to trust and be trusted. Without trust, I think there is no true relationship. For someone I love to totally disregard me and be with someone else, that means we have no bond. Some people say "oh it's just physical"... well the physical aspect of my relationship is incredibly important to me, just like the emotional. So if that is broken, so is the rest of the relationship.