Can you let go of anger?

@Pose123 (21661)
Canada
July 9, 2010 7:05pm CST
Anger is experienced by most people, some of course more than others. It is when anger has no outlet and turns into resentment that it has the potential to cause big problems. Allowing us to assign blame for the pain we are feeling, thereby easing it, resentment tends to smolder just below the surface of our awareness, destroying our peace of mind. The target of our resentment grows more and more villainous in our minds and we regret the day we first encountered them. I feel that we can choose to let go of our resentment and to move on with our lives, no matter how painful the event that incited it but I'm sure some would disagree. What are your thoughts?
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@callmecat (248)
• United States
10 Jul 10
I agree that you can let go of your anger toward a person, but only if you want to, ya know? People keep their anger/hate toward a person because they choose to. You either choose to forgive or choose to not forgive. I feel that some people are more inclined to bear grudges for a longer time than others, though. So for some it may be easy to let go of anger, but for the rest it's probably really difficult to let go of such anger depending on the situation. I have a tendency of bearing grudges for longer than I should.
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@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi callmecat, Thanks for your comment and I agree it isn't easy. I had a hard time with it myself a number of years ago until I realized that I was the one getting sick. That's the problem with holding a grudge, you're giving that person power over you and that should be the last thing that you want. Are they really worth worrying about? Blessings
• Philippines
10 Jul 10
it is not that too easy to let go of anger especially if you hurt most...right???
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@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi rubelynrose, You're right it isn't easy but it can be done. Remember that anger is going to make you sick and is he/she worth getting sick over? Also getting even only brings you down to their level. Blessings.
• Spain
10 Jul 10
anger is always expirienced diferently
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@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi leonardog, Thanks for commenting and I agree but it's our choice as how handle it. Blessings.
@Memnon (2172)
10 Jul 10
For the most part yes. What gets under my skin is the work colleague who always thinks he is right, and, even when proved beyond all doubt to have made a mistake, will try to shift the blame. For people like that I can store that up to serve back cold, when they coul actually do with a hand up!
@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi Memmnon, Thanks for commenting but don't try to get even, you're only putting yourself down to their level. These people must some sometime. Blessings.
@hushi22 (4930)
10 Jul 10
there are many outlets of anger. i always make sure i release such tension subtly without hurting anyone. because if ever i keep it inside myself, it will hurt me or cause me trouble.
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@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi hushi, Thank you for commenting and you've got the right idea about not keeping it inside yourself. Blessings.
@hushi22 (4930)
27 Oct 10
hi pal! thanks for choosing my answer the best response. =)
10 Jul 10
I can let it go as long as it doesn't involve someone constantly barraging me. I can let go of a quick comment or so, but if they insist that their method or thought is superior without proper citation (or the such) it really angers me.
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@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi TaerkEX, Thank you for sharing but before getting angry talk to the person about it. If he/she continues to act that way, try finding her/his ways amusing, it's much better than letting them ruin your life. Blessings.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
10 Jul 10
Sometimes is not a good idea to keep any type of anger inside our souls,and is a good idea to release it and express our feelings as long as we don't hurt anybody. Once we tell someone how we feel, is important to move on with our lives.
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@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi Mirita, Great response thank you. Always put it behind us and move on. Blessings.
@sender621 (14934)
• United States
10 Jul 10
For some, it is easier to hang onto anger than to let it go. Personally, I din't like to hang onto angry emotions. I don't like the person i am when I am angry. Anger changes who you really are inside. Sometimes the pain of a situaation is easier to cope with if we can be angry and place balme somewhere else. In the end, the anger we keep sheltered inside will destroy us. When letting go of anger seems to be an impossibility, it s the best solution for a happier life.
@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi sender, Thanks for commenting but lets think of it this way, holding a grudge gives the other person power over you - is that what you really want? Blessings.
• Canada
10 Jul 10
I let go of anger the minute justice is done. I don't use anger to attack, rather to motivate me to fight for justice.
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@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
11 Jul 10
Hi danishcanadian, Thanks for your comment and I can see that you're thinking of something a little different. Sometimes we need to see that justice is done and I'm all for that though your idea of Justice might be different from mine. Blessings.