Housemate and guest
By rosegardens
@rosegardens (3034)
United States
July 10, 2010 9:44am CST
I have a friend who is also my housemate. He rents a room. I recall stipulating when he moved in that I do not want any overnight guests. Well, he dropped a bomb last night and let me know this woman is coming from Texas to stay with him for two days. He told the other housemate first apparently, and said the other guy has no problem with it. Huh? So, I said I don't like that. I don't really want someone else here that I do not know. O, she can be trusted he says. But, that's not the point is it?
How would you handle this if you were in my shoes?
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3 responses
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Jul 10
The point is that he is breaking his agreement with you. Do you own the place? Or is there a lease in your name? If so, you are totally within your rights to just say NO.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
11 Jul 10
i am a person who gets pissed easily on people who try to make me feel like a fool. if this happens to me and since it is my house then it means they need to follow my rules. i dont care if its okay to who he asked.... but its not okay with me. rules are rules. i dont care if the visitor can be trusted, rules are rules. its either they both sleep outside i dont care. if someone like that breaks a rule next time the others will try to do that too. if you say ok once then the other housemates will be doing it next time and if you say no they will say that you said yes with the other housemate.
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
10 Jul 10
If you stipulated no overnight guests, you have a right to be upset with this plan.. and it is irrelevant if the other housemate agrees or disagrees with this woman visiting. I would suggest, though, that you have a written agreement with your housemates... don't just tell them what you expect. It's too easy for there to be disagreements or misunderstandings later. As someone else said, the woman is coming for only two days. You could choose to allow it. Or, if you don't want her in your house, you could also give him a break on his rent and ask him to stay in a hotel/motel with her. Finally, you could just put your foot down and say no. You do have choices. But, whatever you decide, I think it would be for the best to formalize the conditions with your renters as soon as possible. Makes it easier for all concerned :) Good luck!
